How to Cancel a Date Without Being Rude?

Say you fixed a date with a chap whom you thought might be interesting but as it turns out, while the time to meet him nears, you seem to lose interest in him and you are not looking forward to the so-called romantic date. You want to call him up and tell him right away "I am not interested in dating you. So don't waste your time showing up yourself in that stinking t-shirt of yours". Okay, may be not so rude but at least the truth is you don't want to date someone in whom you don't have the slightest interest at all.

What you can actually do is:

• Call him up and moan that you are having a tummy bug which needs immediate attention. Sound like you are in deep pain so much that he almost feels it. Also let him know you are sorry but that there is nothing you can do about it.


• Leave a message on his phone that your parents or your boss dropped by your side out of nowhere and that you are with them right now which is why you cannot make it up for the date and also can't pick up calls.


• If you are staying at a considerable distance from his place where climatic factors differ, inform him that it suddenly started pouring cats in your locale and that there is no way you can drive through water.


• And the last one which may sound a little out- of- the way but still, it can happen to any of us. Tell him there is water block in your house and that it may take hours to fix. The least he might think is that you are making it up but then he can't supply water and make you come for the date!


• If you really can't think of anything else, the least you can do is call the person and let him know that it won't work out because you are not interested. It will offend him but people move on all the time.


• Never ignore a date because that sounds even more rude than a "No". Always inform the other person why you wouldn't want to continue meeting him. A sign of gentleness won't do any harm.

Try the above and see if you succeed in cancelling the date which you are not looking forward to at all and that too without being impolite.

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Dating After Divorce: Life After Death of a Marriage

If you have been out of the dating scene for quite a few years though it can be quite daunting getting back out there. In this article I will offer some advice on how to get back into the dating scene after divorce.

• The first thing that you need to do is make sure that you are completely over your ex and are ready to move onto that next stage of your life. Many people feel like a failure when their marriage ends in divorce and if you still feel this way then it will be difficult to move on with a new relationship. So it is important to have resolved any issues that you might still have over your divorce before moving onto a serious relationship with someone new.


• You also don't want to rush into a new relationship too soon after a divorce. Rebound relationships very rarely work as they are started with the wrong reasons behind them. Wait until you have gone through all the 'grieving' stages of your divorce and are in a healthy state of mind before dating after divorce.


• Another reason you want to be completely ready to move on is that if you are still hung up on your ex you are likely to talk about them a lot or even compare your new boyfriend or girlfriend to your ex. When you start dating someone the quickest way to turn them away is to continually talk about your ex.


• When you do venture out onto a date with someone, go out with a positive attitude and just enjoy yourself. Don't be too nervous about having been away from the dating scene for so long, it doesn't matter, just go out and have a good time. I'm sure you aren't in a big hurry to replace your ex and settle down again, so it doesn't matter if you don't meet Mr. Right on the first date you go on. Enjoy yourself until Mr. Right comes along.


• If you have children, particularly young children, then you also need to consider their needs when you start dating after divorce again. Having children doesn't mean that you should never date and meet someone else; you are entitled to happiness also. However, you need to protect them and consider their feelings, so dating when you have children is a bit more involved than dating as a single person.

Since it can be quite scary dating after a divorce, try to enjoy yourself and not think about meeting your next husband or wife. Enjoy the company of another person and when the time is right you will meet the right person and you will know it when it happens.

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Are You Under His Thumb?

In spite of the fact that we are living in a world where both males and females have equal chance of leading successful lives and careers, women are still enduring power struggles with their significant others and always battling for control in their dating lives.

It doesn't matter how sweet or how empathetic a man is, some of these men are still trying to control their women despite the fact that we live in a liberal society.

Why is that you may be asking? Why are so many men still hung up on turning their ambitious and goal-driven girlfriends and wives into homemakers and baby-poppers? Is it because they were taught to be the providers in family? Is it to reassure their women that they are all they need in life? Or perhaps it's to make sure they don't get bored of them. The reasons are endless, unnecessary and inevitable in today's world.

Every day, women give up their independence and freedom to hang out with their single ladies and to pursue their own goals in order to please their insecure men. They give up their rights to live happily because of the fact that they are taken care of their boyfriends and husbands that bring home the bacon instead of having the strength to leave their controlling relationships. They sit back and accept the fact that a man's status determines the status of their relationships instead of fighting back.

It is important to negate what you were taught as a child. Women shouldn't have to be defined by their sexuality and men should put their egos aside and realize that they don't have to be the ones with the financial responsibilities in the relationship.

We live in a time where women get credit, vote, get a higher education and raise children out of wedlock without being condemned for their actions. However, women are still suffering when it comes to self-perseverance. Unfortunately strong-minded women suffer the most because of this and it is simply because independent women who are able to take care of themselves frighten the sh*t out of men.

If more women could learn how to control their own romantic relationships and lives, they would learn how to fight. They would learn how not to be so insecure and they would KNOW when to leave.

Overcome your fears and insecurities and take control of your life now!

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Are You Texting at Dinner?

Cell Phone Texting On a date Walking Into Restaurant

My husband Chuck and I went to D.O.C.G. in Las Vegas for dinner recently, arranged by a friend. Have you noticed that the best dinner experiences are those shared with close friends?

We had just ordered a salad and looked up to see an attractive couple walking in. What was curious was that the husband was texting intently while walking into the restaurant. He was not looking up except to check his steps every few seconds. His wife was several steps behind him also texting or emailing with her phone getting all of her attention --she almost ran into a table where another couple was eating dinner.

No Texting - Converse and Share with Each Other at Dinner

Be grateful if no one at your table has their cell phones in hand. Enjoy each other's company, talking and sharing stories. It will be a more satisfying and very fulfilling night of connection and enjoying the company of close friends.

Technology has made our lives very convenient. My experience is that technology adds a barrier to love, connecting, face-to-face sharing (even with the advent of social media), and communication. People are addicted to their phones, iPads, etc....including me!

Living without Cell Phone or Texting for a Day

A few weeks ago, I had a full day of scheduled client appointments. I left home to meet a couple having communication problems in their relationship and wanting some tools to help them stop reacting to each other's words.

Upon arriving at the couple's home, I noticed my phone was missing. I experienced about five seconds of sheer panic and a short-term satisfying thought of going back home to retrieve it even though that would make me late for my appointment.

Sanity set back in when the sixth second struck. I knew where and when to be that day and more importantly, the awareness that I could do without my phone for a day. I was very attached to my cell phone and decided to change that habit. Now, I only check my phone a few times a day instead of every few minutes.

Are You Addicted to Your Cell Phone?

Cell phones have ring tones, so when you are available to speak or text, your phone let you know someone has contacted you. This allows you to be free and not chained to your phone.

And if you are not available, your cell phone lets me know who called or emailed or texted - and it takes the same amount of time to respond now or later...there's no difference. Don't let technology get in the way of your human, face-to-face connection.

Are you addicted to your cell phone?

What if we felt the same way about our partners as we do about our cell phones?

What if we gave our partners the love and acceptance and attention we give our phones?

What if the time we spent tuning and customizing our cell phones to our likes could also be spent working on our relationships to find mutual solutions to make our relationships more fulfilling and loving?

If you or your partner has this habit, work out a mutual agreement when you spend time together to turn off your technology and turn on each other!

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Attracting The Opposite Sex Secrets

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One of the questions that many of us ask when talking about love is "how to attract women and men". This is one question that many would love to answer but truth is, not all of the advice would work for everyone. So to help you understand the secret on how to attract women and men, here are a few important tips.

You need to understand that there is really no answer to the question "how to attract women and men". However, there are certain things that you can do to better yourself and higher your chances on that one person you have an eye on.

One thing you can do to attract that person you like is to talk to them. Do it in a casual way and befriend them. If you are a girl, do not be make it obvious and never make him think that you are aggressive. If you are a guy, start being extra gentleman on her to express your interest. First impression does matter so remember to be nice and approachable.

Another thing that would attract many is humor, especially for men. Women love men who can make them smile and laugh. They want someone who can brighten their day and same way with the men. They like women who know how to make them feel better.

Another straightforward answer to the question how to attract women and men is to always look presentable. Others would not really want to hang out with someone who looks like he just got up from bed. Try to always look good wherever you go and you will notice how you can attract more and more friends who can potentially be your lover.

Another good thing to possess is knowledge. Being knowledgeable is a plus for everyone. A person who is very knowledgeable and fun to be with is like the perfect package. You don't need to be a genius or anything alike. All you have to learn about is the important things and what's going on around you. For example, the latest news, politics, economy and things like that.

You also want to impress others with how humility. The humble get praised and the cocky goes to waste. Never show arrogance at any time. Nobody likes self-absorbed people so if you really want to attract more friends, never be an egotistical person.

If you think you are okay with dealing with other friends but you just can't get that one girl or boy to notice you, here are a few things that you can do. First, try to spend to him or her as much as you can but never made him or her feel that you are too interested. A little mystery would make them feel like they want to hang out with you and know you more.

Also try to make a good impression when you talk. If you really like him or her, try your best to be as friendly as you can, show a little interest but leave them wanting more. That is the secret to how to attract women and men.

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Are You A Manstigator On Dates?

For those of you who don't know what a manstigator is, allow me to deconstruct the essential elements.

A manstigator is someone who thinks he is so perfect in every way, that he will spend an entire conversation talking about how great he is, how much everyone likes him, and how the world would be such a boring place without him. So what about the "stigator" part of manstigator?

Not only does this man think he is perfect, he will also get on the phone with you and start asking you questions. He'll describe how the woman he selects needs to be perfect in every way. Then he'll ask you questions about how you would act and what you would do in certain situations to see whether you match up with this criteria.

The manstigator that The Sultry Brunette met grilled her for hours about her religious beliefs, how she handled stress, her organizational skills, her temperament, her diet, her exercise habits, her measurements, her feelings on gender roles and... many more things that would take up way too much room in this blog.

Another manstigation tactic is to try and make you think you would be lucky to be selected by him by asking you questions that use versions of negs. He may ask you things like "Are you always so nervous around good-looking men?" and "Do you always repeat yourself so much like that?" By the time you are finished talking to this manstigator, not only are you completely turned off by him but you also wonder how many women have been subject to the manstigation.

Taken aback by his caveman-like behavior, you decide to do a little research. You type in "manstigator anonymous" into the search engine where you find other women who have been tortured by manstigators.

If you are a manstigator, I guarantee you are alone 90% of the time... until you find someone who is so insecure that they are willing to put up with your manstigation every day. If you are a manstigator, you really need to learn how to be a man, i.e., someone who has embraced himself and is accepting of other people for who they are.

Now as for you women of the blog, you're not off the hook quite yet. By now, you're probably LOLing. By the way, what is an "LOL?" I know it stands for "laugh out loud," but is there is a BOL (belch out loud), an SOL (smile out loud), or a COL (crying out loud)? This blog, however, is not about the LOLers, the SOLers or the BOLers.

What about the female manstigator, aka the femstigator? She is usually the woman who comes at you with equally annoying questions like "Will you still love me after I have kids and put on 100 lbs?" and "What happens if I'm in a car crash and I lose my limbs? Will you still love me then??"

I'm not making this stuff up. I have had women say things like this on a first date. Pretty fun for a first date, huh?!

I've even had a femstigator ask me this: "If I was on vacation for a month without you, would you be able to refrain from having sex?" I've never even had sex with her. I told her "I don't even know what sex will be like with you, but I've certainly had a month with out sex before and survived." Stupid question from a femstigator!

Bottom line: Don't interrogate somebody. Just talk with them and get to know who they are.

All these ridiculous scenarios are just a waste of time. You are not perfect, and you have no right to interrogate someone either on the phone whom you've never met nor on a first date.

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Some Good Flirting Tips For Guys

You can't possibly show a girl that you are interested in her, without flirting a little. The ability to flirt right is not always easy. Probably this is the main reason why guys find it so hard to get the girl of their dreams, even though they possess all the qualities that an ideal girl looks for.

Use indirect language as far as possible. Here beating around the bush will work. Being too straight forward will come across as too predictable and boring. Hence, you got to play smart here. Use body language to communicate. Girls like boys who have a warm smile that reaches their eyes. However, if you don't just want to come across as the sweet boy next door, this is not enough.

Try to make your smile as inviting as possible. Now use your eyes to your advantage. Look in her eyes in the right way and you can make her fall in love with you. Maintain eye contact when she is talking to you. Make her laugh and you can make her do anything. Girls love guys who can crack them up. Good sense of humor is always a turn on. Compliment her often, but not always. Come across as a romantic at heart. Girls will never be able to resist this. If you are a good dancer, use your talent. Ask her to dance sometime. If you are a great singer, you can sing a song to her.

It's never too bad to show off your talents once in a while. Use witty charming funny lines to crack her up and compliment her once in a while. Something like, 'You have got such beautiful eyes, I could stare at them all day long. But hey I'm not exactly checking you out, it's your eyes that I'm interested in.' Whatever you say or do, make sure you do it confidently. Confidence is your best friend. Always keep it right close to you.

The best tip that one could ever give you is, be genuine. No matter what you do or say, never seem fake. Girls can see right through a guy who's not acting himself. A dishonest guy is an instant turn off. So say something like you mean it and do something wholeheartedly. Practice is the best key. You obviously wouldn't get it right the first time. However as you try and keep trying, you just keep getting better and better with time.

Need to pracite what you'd just learned? Find your match on a free dating site.

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