Thursday, April 14, 2011

From Office Romance To Happily Ever After

Everyone knows office romances are bad ideas for many reasons. There are workplace distraction issues, reputation harm, career damage, termination risks, broken hearts, potential lawsuits... the downsides outnumber the upsides by about a zillion to one.

And yet, office romances will keep happening. We spend a quarter of our lives or more in the office. It's a neutral environment where we have the opportunity to meet compatible dating partners and learn about them in a slow and natural way. Attraction is bound to bloom here and there and more than a few of us will bite the apple of temptation.

When love's in the air and a couple decides to damn the consequences, what can be expected realistically? The rewards are obvious, but what about the penalties? Must it be a furtive and hellish journey from the original romantic pinnacle to a bunkering down during the inevitable messy end? Is there no way for love to conquer all?

Of course there is.

Many companies have either a formal non-fraternization policy, or, at the very least, they informally frown on mixing business with pleasure. A few open-minded companies have a mutually agreeable relationship policy, so-called "love contracts" in which both parties in a romantic relationship essentially agree to keep job performance steady and to not sue if the pairing goes south. Check your company's policy. Maybe you're off the hook.

No luck? Your company's policy is severely romance-unfriendly? All is not lost. It might not be financially rewarding, at least temporarily, but you can always use your two-step trump card: 1) one of you leaves that particular company, and 2) you both have an agreeable financial strategy.

Surely it's worth one of you departing if it saves the romance. This is, after all, true love we're talking about right? The Big Love that hundreds of thousands of people spend hours chasing every day both online and offline? That millions crave, yet go to sleep alone in passionless beds with nothing but an aching-longing feeling of emptiness for company?

If you've found a life partner who brings a smile to your face and joy to your heart, are you really going to let some company's CYA policy and a little unemployment risk stand in the way?

Is it possible to choose to keep your beloved? Yes. Yes, absolutely, with the two-step process of one of you leaving the company and both of you having a financial plan. The only question is whether you're both willing to take that risk. And yes, it's risky to leave a company during an economic downturn, and yes, it's risky to try to live on one salary if that's your strategy of choice. But the possible reward is immense. You might just transform your office romance into one of the precious things that makes life itself worth living: a happily ever after.



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Monday, April 11, 2011

Mature Dating - Are You Ready to Date Again?

Most men and women in the mature dating world have been in serious relationships before - relationships that may have ended because of divorce. Bouncing back from such failed relationships and dating again now that you're in a later stage in your life may become an awkward process, but it doesn't have to be. Before you get into the mature dating scene, though, you have to be sure that you are indeed ready to date again. How do you know that? If you have worked through all of the factors we discuss below, then you may be ready to meet new people.

1. Deal with "unfinished business" from your previous relationship.

Be honest and assess if you have really already put your earlier failed relationship behind you. If you are still not over your previous partner, you may end up comparing everyone else you meet to him or her. This "baggage" will only prevent you from being able to fully commit to the mature dating experience. Remember that making comparisons is a very unhealthy for any relationship. You have to be in a place when you are ready to see potential partners for the individual they truly are without using your previous mate as a yardstick.

2. You know what you need.

It's important to have an open mind, but you also need to have clear expectations of where you want this next relationship to go. You need to strike a balance between "going with the flow" while still being true to what's truly important to you in a relationship.

3. Be confident.

Self-esteem is crucial if you want to be able to put your best foot forward and make a great first impression when you enter the mature dating scene. You cannot expect a partner to give you that confidence. You have to have it in yourself.

4. Make time and space in your life for a new love.

Creating and maintaining a successful new relationship means literally putting in the time and effort to make it work. Between your career and your other responsibilities (perhaps as a co-parent), can you honestly say that you have time for a new romance? You also need to have space - mentally - for this new experience. "Clear the clutter" in your mind, such as unrealistic expectations, to give room for someone new.

Is it better to wait?

Let's face it - you may be in a situation in life right now that is not conducive to dating. Be honest. If this is the case, perhaps it's better to wait. This does not mean holding off on meeting new people, though. You can always "test the waters" and meet new friends on mature dating websites. These sites are excellent and safe venues for seeing other people your age who, like you, are also looking for romance. There's absolutely no pressure to date whoever you meet. Take your time until you get used to the idea. Even if you don't meet someone special, you might make new friends - and that's always welcome, whatever stage in life you're in.



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Friday, April 8, 2011

Essential Advice For the Single Dating Lady

Being single can often be a confusing time for any single lady. In today's society, singles are faced with an abundance of dating choices. Different types of media are often prone to giving different types of advice and services. Knowing where to begin when conducting your dating search can be a daunting task. This article will hopefully give you some important dating advice.

Communication is the most important step in conducting a successful relationship. Try and be upfront about your dating intentions. It is no good seeking a long term relationship with someone who is just looking for a casual dating experience. Discussing what you want from a relationship will save you from any potential heartache. Try and not to build up your hopes. It will often take a long time for a dating relationship to blossom. High expectations can often be the downfall of any potential relationship.

When dating, try and maintain the values that you find important it is nearly impossible to always agree about everything. Having your differences is quite acceptable it helps you maintain individuality during the relationship. If you feel strongly about something, then don't compromise yourself. Changing your morals will often leave you dissatisfied with how the dating relationship is progressing. Always give yourself the opportunity to walk away from an uncomfortable situation.

Many people believe that there is love at first site. Although you can be physically attracted to someone, it often takes a lot of time to build a strong and trustful relationship. A solid relationship does not materialize overnight. Take the time to allow your relationship to develop naturally.

If you've ever been approached in a bar, you may very well know the entire repertoire of cheesy pick up lines that men use. Try and stay away form this kind of man. Single men who use these lines are obviously not very good at conversation and may very well look for a quick hook up as opposed to a long term relationship. Conversation is always the golden key to any successful dating relationship. If a guy doesn't know how to start a proper conversation, then chances are he is not going to be able to communicate with you later on in the relationship.

Matchmaking sites are a wonderful way to be introduced to single dating men looking for the same thing. A matchmaking site will give you the best opportunity for dating success.



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Thursday, April 7, 2011

Does He Really Like Me? 21 Really Good Ways to Know for Sure

Isn't it really frustrating when you just can't figure out whether a guy really likes you or not? A lot of women are pretty clueless when it comes to knowing whether a certain guy likes them or not but I would say it's not really their fault.

The whole world knows that when it comes to expressing themselves, men at large could do with some lessons. But men will be men and nothing is going to change overnight.

Therefore, here are some good ways you can use to finally tell if he really likes you or not...

Situation 1- When you don't know the guy yet...

1. He gives you the stare...

Some men go a little overboard when they are checking a woman out. If you catch a guy staring at you then he is checking you out. It is not a very flattering way to check out anyone but that is what this guy knows and if you catch him doing this then he definitely likes you.

2. He has the 'wow' expression on his face...

Some men get a 'wow' expression on their face when they are checking out a woman. The fact is that they are so impressed by what they see that they cannot control the awe that strikes them. If you see a guy looking at you with an awestruck expression on your face then he is checking you out.

3. He looks away when caught...

Some men look away when they get caught looking at a woman. If you find a guy looking at you but the moment your eyes meet his, he looks away then this is because he was checking you out consciously and now feels embarrassed at being caught.

4. He gives you a sheepish smile...

Sometimes you find a guy looking at you and when your eye meets his, he gives you a sheepish smile. If a guy does this then he is checking you out. He doesn't really expect you to reciprocate his smile but this is his indirect way of letting you know that he likes you.

5. He becomes flirty...

He will try to see if he can impress you with all the flirting techniques that are known to him. He will try and impress you with everything that he thinks are his likable traits. If you see something like this happening, you know that this guy is completely enamoured by you.

6. He seeks to know about you...

If you find that he is trying to find out things about you from your friends, about your personal life, things that interest you etc. You know that there is more to it than meets the eye. His doing all this just means he is preparing himself for getting acquainted with you.

7. He is here, there everywhere, wherever you are that is...

He tries every trick he knows to be around you. He is doing all this because if at all an opportunity presents itself for him to strike a conversation with you, he does not want to miss it. Signs of romance, surely!

Situation 2 - When you already know him...

8. He spends most of his time with you...

If he wants to spend all his time with you as he is the happiest when he is with you it shows that he truly likes you. This means that he enjoys your company and no matter how busy he is, he finds time to be with you; this shows his deep liking for you.

9. He listens to you with a lot of attention...

He does not pretend to listen but actually does so and gives you his undivided attention, he likes you and respects your opinion and more importantly he respects your feelings. His action says that he attaches great value to whatever you have to say and it will come only when he likes you.

10. He does not let you down...

If he has made a promise he makes sure he keeps it, never letting you down. He is not the one to make plans and then forget about it or not call in case he cannot be there; this shows his concern as he does not want to hurt you in any way.

11. He wants to know all about you...

He really likes you and his interest is genuine if he shows great interest in your life and wants to know all about you. He is interested to know about your interests and hobbies, your dreams and desires, small details because his feelings are real, in fact he may be falling in love with you and wants to know all that makes you the person you are.

12. He accepts you...

He likes you with your flaws and imperfections and does not want to change you according to his expectations. He admires your qualities and realizes that no one is perfect and happily ignores what ever shortcomings you may have.

13. He is concerned about your well-being...

Only when a man has true feelings for his woman will he be concerned about her well-being and wish her happiness and joy. If he really likes you he will want to see that you are always happy.

14. He will give you intelligent compliments...

You will notice a whole lot of compliments coming your way when a man really likes you. If you find that these compliments are getting innovative and are intelligent in nature then he definitely likes you and is trying to create an impression on you.

15. He will initiate some form of physical contact...

One of the best ways to really know that he likes you is to study his actions around you. You will see that this guy will try to initiate some form of physical contact when he is around you. Be it just helping you cross the street or brushing your hair away from you face gently, he will look for a way to touch you.

16. He will get more information on you...Personal information...

If he really likes you he would definitely want to know a lot more about your personal life. Specially, things like whether you are single or not, what kind of men you like etc.

17. He will try to hard sell himself...

When he really likes you, he will naturally want you to like him back and in the process he will try really hard to impress you. And this will become very evident if you find him always trying a bit too hard whenever he is in your company.

18. He can't hide his happiness on seeing you...

If his eyes light up the very moment he sees you and he finds it hard to conceal his joy even if he tries to, means that he has romantic thoughts about you going through his mind. The glow on his face, the stars in his eyes will all point to that.

19. Is he extremely happy whenever you come around...

Does he appear to be extremely happy whenever you are around and has this big smile pasted on his face which is almost impossible to miss? If you are the source of this happiness then it's extremely obvious that he likes you a lot.

20. He can't hear anything negative about you...

If you find him to be the first one to jump to your defense if someone has passed a crude or harsh remark about you at a party or any other place, it is because he has romantic feelings for you and can't bear to hear anyone speaking ill of you.

21. He tries to shoo the other guys away...

If at all you observe, that when other guys begin to get near you, this guy will try to do something to get you away from them, or to get them away from you. This is simply because he does not want any kind of competition around him.



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Tuesday, April 5, 2011

How to Use Text Messaging to Get Him More Into You

Text messaging is one of THE most potent form of building attraction with men and there is a private world of women who know the powerful secrets of making men think about them all day long by simple using one or two carefully crafted words of seduction using texting.

Today, I'm going to help you understand how powerful texting can be and use it as a tool to get a man's attention really fast.

First, I'd like you to avoid making huge mistakes. If you want to get your man into you, please avoid making assumptions about what he's thinking or over analyzing what's really going on.

It's time to focus on your inner game so that you know exactly how to create and sustain his attraction for you. Many women focus on what the man is or isn't doing which will create more fear and confusion. You don't need more of this, you want to get him into you or create more of a deeper connection right?

One of the popular way to get him into you is by using simple crafted words that are aimed to get his attention or pull him back if he's backing away.

But when you use these words, you must know what you're doing. One wrong move and he could pull away even further. You must understand the power of how to build attraction and what's really going on inside his mind when he gets your text.

And you can use insider secrets which is all about understanding how playfulness and space can make a man go completely wild with desire for you. Your man wants you to take him on an adventure, he wants to be totally into you but you need to learn how to show him that you understand your own power.

You do so by triggering his curiosity, wet his appetite. You create an image in his mind about what it is like to be with you right now, then you draw his interest in. You further fan the flames of his desires so that he is completely aroused and want to pull towards you like a magnet, then you must harness your power of desirability to create even more feelings of attraction.

You don't just send him anything that's going on in your mind via texting, you have to use the words that will make him want to respond to you because you have his full attention.



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