Finding Christian singles online is not as difficult as it used to be. Over 40 million Christians are currently looking for their partner online. Only 5% of Christians claim to have started a relationship meeting at a bar or club, so statistically, online is now the second best environment to look for love. The first is definitely church, and picking an online site can be much like picking a church. You have to find the one that is right for you.
An important rule of thumb is to browse through many profiles on a reasonable selection of sites. Get a feel for what types are choosing each site, because you need a site that offers the type you want to meet! Your first major choice is whether you want an entirely Christian community or a site that welcomes everyone, but allows you to set preferences to "Christian only" matches. There are positives and negatives to both choices.
A Christian community helps make sure your choices are looking for a more serious relationship. As too much pre-marital physical activity is not encouraged, members seeking casual encounters are few. A Christian site allows you to start with the basic knowledge that you believe similar things. This is a good foundation for a relationship, as well as a good way to start conversations you both find meaningful. Also, if you are concerned about rejection, a Christian site can be a good choice because as a group they are kinder. You can expect a higher level of respect and a lower level of pressure on a Christian site.
A negative to this option is that though your basic beliefs may be the same, people practice their faith in very different ways. In a relationship, you should be similar in practice, because faith is an area in which people seldom compromise. Sometimes those things are hard to determine on these sites. Many members say what they are "supposed" to and it's hard to cut through Christian jargon. In this way, finding that site that's the proper fit for how you do things is much like trying to find a church that fits. Lastly, there is also a bit more polite work on a Christian site. There is an obligation to respond to anyone who messages you and to let everyone down gently.
The main positive in picking a site that lets you change your religious settings is that you get to ask Spiritual things and get answers from the person who interests you without any preconceived notions. The profiles are not religion based, so you get to know basic facts and personality traits, and then you can get into the deep stuff with those who you consider possibilities. It's easier to fill out your profile on a secular site as well. You don't have to get your deep held beliefs up on your profile for everyone to see. You can decide who to share them with and when to do it.
One negative of a general site is that you will get some members who put "Christian" because none of the other choices apply. Or some consider themselves marginally Christian, but it may not be as important to them as it is to you. On these types of sites, you have to try harder to find out. You will also get matched with and contacted by people who are in your criteria for some things, but outside for others, possibly even religion. You will have to filter these and decline offers from people who do not meet your Spiritual standards.
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