As much as you may not wish to hear it, waiting beside the phone for hours on end just hoping it will ring is not going to magically persuade him to call you any sooner.
Have you not heard? He has things to do, people to see, and other problems to worry about besides bothering with how you feel and what you are doing.
At least that is the way it can sometimes feel...
When men don't call you back for one reason or another, especially when they said they would, it hurts. It can leave you feeling numb, neglected or even forgotten.
You might begin to ask yourself if you said something wrong, did something to offend him, or if he blatantly does not like you and didn't have the guts to tell you before the end of your date.
Whatever his excuse may be, try not to judge him too harshly until you get the opportunity to speak with him yourself, or confer through other sources (such as his friends, etc.) what his intentions may be.
The reason behind his not calling could mean something both positive and/or negative. It is up to you to correctly analyze your given situation and determine under which of the following categories your man lies, and how to react accordingly;
1. He May Just Be Busy
Relax, girlie! If it has only been a little while since you last seen him then maybe he just has a lot of other things on his plate right now. Think back to your last date with him, did he talk with you about a lot of different activities he is involved with at the moment?
If that is the case, you can feel damn lucky he 'scheduled' you in for a date at all, that must mean he really is interested in you.
Take a breather, go occupy yourself with something in the meantime and he will eventually call.
2. He May Not Want To Come Off as Desperate
Guys aren't entirely unlike girls. If a guy happens to find himself in a situation with a girl that he deems 'out of his league', he may just play it cool so as not to come off as too desperate.
If you put yourself in his position you would probably do the same thing, no? He found himself a girl that he is totally into and instead of scaring her off by appearing as 'too infatuated' too fast - he'll play it cool so to keep you interested as well.
Give him some time to decide when and how he chooses to call you back; he could be feeling very nervous and uncomfortable, so let him take time to be mentally and emotionally prepared for the next step.
If he hasn't called you within a week you can probably feel it safe enough to call and inquire how he has been doing, as well as discern whether he is still interested or not.
3. He May Be Emotionally Hurt
Once again, think back to the last time you had to spend with him. Did things end on a high or a low note? If something was said out of line or if one of you was too forward too quickly and the other withdrew, it could have hurt his pride a little.
He may be taking a step back to analyze the situation, and to defend his heart from further torment by putting you through the anxiety of his not calling (unbeknownst to him or not).
If this is the case, he may either be completely distraught that he wants nothing to do with you or he may be waiting for an apology. Either way, with this kind of situation, it may be best if you go ahead and call.
You might have to swallow your pride so to be the first one who calls after an argument - because if you want to get back on good terms you sometimes have to be the one to make the first move.
Find out if he is willing to talk things out, apologize and say your peace and hopefully he'll come through.
If he doesn't, then either give it some more time before trying again, or just let the situation go completely until he decides what he wants.
4. He May Want To Slow Things Down
True love is meant to last and you either have it, or have the capacity to develop it - or you don't. If you do, then there is all the time in the world to get to know each other, make dates and create memories.
Perhaps he just came out of a previous relationship and he actually has an interest in you. He doesn't want you to feel as though you've become a rebound for him so instead he chooses to take the relationship at an easier pace.
Give him some time, only call if you haven't heard from him within a week or two and only if you have a genuine interest in wanting to know how he is and not why he hasn't called yet.
5. He Just Might Not Be That Into You
It's hard to take, hard to hear and hard to believe but sometimes we just need to face the facts.
Why waste time pursuing someone who has no intention of taking it to the next level? Hell, if he can't even call you back, why waste another second even thinking his name?
Forget about him, move on with your life; there are hundreds of thousands of mermen in the sea and hundreds of them would line up for a 'call', and for a chance to leave you a single message on your voicemail!
Stop pacing around your phone, liberate yourself now by deleting his contact and vowing to replace it with another number by the end of the week.
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