Are You A Manstigator On Dates?

For those of you who don't know what a manstigator is, allow me to deconstruct the essential elements.

A manstigator is someone who thinks he is so perfect in every way, that he will spend an entire conversation talking about how great he is, how much everyone likes him, and how the world would be such a boring place without him. So what about the "stigator" part of manstigator?

Not only does this man think he is perfect, he will also get on the phone with you and start asking you questions. He'll describe how the woman he selects needs to be perfect in every way. Then he'll ask you questions about how you would act and what you would do in certain situations to see whether you match up with this criteria.

The manstigator that The Sultry Brunette met grilled her for hours about her religious beliefs, how she handled stress, her organizational skills, her temperament, her diet, her exercise habits, her measurements, her feelings on gender roles and... many more things that would take up way too much room in this blog.

Another manstigation tactic is to try and make you think you would be lucky to be selected by him by asking you questions that use versions of negs. He may ask you things like "Are you always so nervous around good-looking men?" and "Do you always repeat yourself so much like that?" By the time you are finished talking to this manstigator, not only are you completely turned off by him but you also wonder how many women have been subject to the manstigation.

Taken aback by his caveman-like behavior, you decide to do a little research. You type in "manstigator anonymous" into the search engine where you find other women who have been tortured by manstigators.

If you are a manstigator, I guarantee you are alone 90% of the time... until you find someone who is so insecure that they are willing to put up with your manstigation every day. If you are a manstigator, you really need to learn how to be a man, i.e., someone who has embraced himself and is accepting of other people for who they are.

Now as for you women of the blog, you're not off the hook quite yet. By now, you're probably LOLing. By the way, what is an "LOL?" I know it stands for "laugh out loud," but is there is a BOL (belch out loud), an SOL (smile out loud), or a COL (crying out loud)? This blog, however, is not about the LOLers, the SOLers or the BOLers.

What about the female manstigator, aka the femstigator? She is usually the woman who comes at you with equally annoying questions like "Will you still love me after I have kids and put on 100 lbs?" and "What happens if I'm in a car crash and I lose my limbs? Will you still love me then??"

I'm not making this stuff up. I have had women say things like this on a first date. Pretty fun for a first date, huh?!

I've even had a femstigator ask me this: "If I was on vacation for a month without you, would you be able to refrain from having sex?" I've never even had sex with her. I told her "I don't even know what sex will be like with you, but I've certainly had a month with out sex before and survived." Stupid question from a femstigator!

Bottom line: Don't interrogate somebody. Just talk with them and get to know who they are.

All these ridiculous scenarios are just a waste of time. You are not perfect, and you have no right to interrogate someone either on the phone whom you've never met nor on a first date.

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