In the initial stages of dating, it can be difficult to gauge when you can really start to be fully open and emotionally expressive with a woman without it feeling premature. However, there are a few signs to look out for which will make the job a lot easier.
Once you've passed the first date, start paying attention to how a woman responds to you during the beginning of your relationship. Is she being open about herself and her personal life with regards to her friends, parents and other details, which will enable you to have a clearer picture about who she is? Or is she being secretive about her personal life? If so, then you may want to reconsider dating or pursuing a relationship with her. It should be obvious that over time that you'll have problems, if she is not being open or honest with you.
I have a close friend who was madly in love with an attractive roommate who didn't feel anything for him romantically, and he pursued her vigorously. His desperate need to have a relationship that he hadn't had in many years, compounded with his fixation on her outer beauty, made him blind to her disinterest in him. He was quite demonstrative with his emotions towards her and mistook her flirty behavior as a sign that she was attracted to him too. As such, he failed to realize until much later that the woman was a user and a manipulator. It took the extreme for him to finally open his eyes and confront the harsh reality of the situation. He finally caught on, after never knowing where she would be, who her friends were, where she would spend all her time including the weekends, where she worked, or any other personal details about her, except her name and where she was from. If a woman is keeping you in the dark about details that are part of strengthening the relationship, then you should move on, have respect for yourself and find someone else who wants a relationship with you.
Pay attention to the excuses that a woman gives in order to not spend time with you. If at one time you thought there might be potential in a relationship with her, but after trying to connect with her, she then gives you excuses for not being able to join you, play it cool and don't be emotionally invested. Of course her reasons may be legitimate, but if it's a consistent pattern of excuses then it means she really is not interested in you. Unfortunately, some women are not straightforward with men because they do not want to hurt men's feelings; and so they give them excuses instead. However, if a woman says she's too busy with work and other things right now, what she is telling you may actually be true. Use your best judgement, unless she gives you an excuse and you happen to know it isn't true. If a woman is not interested and lies to you, it is futile to pursue her more, and in the long run will likely not be worth it.
On the other hand, if a woman spends time with you and shares details about her family, friends, and activities, this would definitely be a strong sign for you to go for it and shower her with your affection. Women love affectionate men and reciprocate if they feel the same towards you. But for the women who are indifferent or disinterested in you, save your energy for someone suitable. Some men pursue women as a sport to get some kind of satisfaction from the pursuit. But if instead you're looking for a relationship, then keep your mind open and be the kind of man who women will be attracted to - by being confident, fun, and having many things going on in your life. You will likely attract women who will be interested in you. A woman who doesn't want you isn't worth the time and energy, and above all will usually not lead to a happy ending.
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