Finding Your Soul Mate - How to Know If You Have Found the One

How to Find Your Soul mate

Finding a soul mate can seem like an absolutely impossible task for most people. Everyone wants a partner they can truly connect with spiritually, emotionally and sexually. Ideally, you will also share the same political beliefs and common interests as your partner. When faced with the daunting challenge of finding a person so similar to themselves, most people simply give up and settle for a less than ideal partner, rather than be alone. It is possible to find your soul mate. Here are some practical ideas to help you on your quest for the man or woman of your dreams.

It probably will not happen overnight

First, you need to understand that unless you are extremely lucky, finding a soul mate will not happen overnight. Very few of us stumble upon our soul mate while buying a latte at the local coffee shop. It does happen from time to time, but very rarely. You need to be willing to put in the necessary time. If you are a workaholic who spends 60 hours a week at the office or if you are working and going to school full-time, your odds of finding a soul mate are not great. You will need to modify your schedule to allow you to meet people and go out on dates.

Next, take stock of your own life

Ask yourself why you have not found the right person yet. Why haven't any of your past relationships worked? Be as honest and introspective with yourself as you can. Learning from the mistakes you made in past relationships allows you to grow as a person and it will help you to be a better partner.

Make a list of what qualities you want in your potential soul mate

From this list, choose the qualities that you are not willing to compromise on. You are probably not going to meet a billionaire brain surgeon who looks like Brad Pitt, so it is important that you not set your sights unrealistically high. While you should never settle for a partner that is less than you feel you deserve, if you constantly keep looking for perfection, you will continue to be disappointed.

Put the past behind you

It is not healthy to cling to the past, especially where bad relationships are concerned. Go through your possessions and dispose of any objects and photos that remind you of past relationships. Before you can start planning your future, you need to make a clean break from your past. Holding on to memories of failed relationships will only serve to sabotage your chances at future happiness.

Most importantly, keep an open mind regarding who your soul mate will be. He or she may not be the type of person you are expecting at all. They may be from a different race or practice a different religion.

There is a good chance that your soul mate is the complete opposite of the people you have been dating. After all, it stands to reason that if you have been dating one type of person your whole life without success, the chances are great that your soul mate will have a background that you will not anticipate.

There is no greater joy than experiencing this life with someone you truly love. These tips will hopefully bring you one step closer to finding your soul mate. He or she is out there somewhere, so never stop searching.