Friday, June 15, 2012

10 Ways To Turn Things Around When You Feel Like Giving Up On Online Dating

Feel like throwing in the towel on this whole online dating thing? If you've found online dating to be a little frustrating to say the least, here are ten ways to turn it all around.

1. Research The Competition: The first thing you should do is find out what everyone else is doing. Do an online search for potential matches, except put your sex and age in as the determining factor. This is how you can view your direct competitors. Try to determine the types of photos they're using, the headlines and About Me sections they're writing, and examine all other elements of the best profiles you come across. Then, take those elements and make them your own, creating a super profile that outshines all the others.

2. Get Profile Reviews: Find online dating forums and see if anyone will review and rate your dating profile. This is a great way to get anonymous opinions on your photos and the things you've written. Be forewarned, however. All that anonymity can cause some people to say some nasty things they otherwise wouldn't say. You should prepare to have a thick skin if you're going to be asking complete strangers about your profile over the Internet. If you're prepared, however, this is one of the best ways to find out if you're on the right track as far as your dating profile is concerned.

3. Get Online Advice: While you're on those online dating forums, start reading all you can and start making your own threads asking for advice. You'd be amazed at how the right piece of advice can turn everything around.

4. Hire Professional Help: If you're really desperate, you can hire a professional profile creator to craft your online dating profile for you. Be prepared to spend a good bit, but it'll be worth it if making a splash is your primary goal.

5. Contact More Potential Matches: If you're not getting anywhere with online dating, just start sending out messages left and right. What do you have to lose? If you think someone's out of your league, take a chance and send them a message. The more messages you send out, the higher your chances of receiving one in return. You never know so start sending out those messages if you think your profile has been stagnant for so long.

6. Stop Caring So Much: If you agonize and worry too much over your online dating success, try and let it go. Just have fun and stop caring whether or not someone is going to respond to you. Just send out crazy messages, messages that make you laugh and just be yourself. Once you stop caring and you let go a little bit, you'll find that online dating is much more fun. That's when you're likely to see far more success.

7. Find Success Stories: Do you know anyone in your personal life who has found success with online dating? A friend, sister, cousin or co-worker? If so, it wouldn't hurt to ask that person's guidance on your efforts so far. You may find that the person has quite a few pointers for your online dating profile that could send your results skyrocketing.

8. Change Criteria: If you traditionally look for one type of person, try switching it up. You may even choose to go further out to neighboring cities to expand your potential dating pool. Changing it up can often help you meet that special someone you otherwise wouldn't have met.

9. Tag Team It: Bring a friend along with you, crack open a bottle of wine or some beers and take on the online dating world together. When you have a friend next to you messaging new people and reading profiles, it can make the whole experience so much more fun. Make it a party and you'll find the pressure taken off and you just might find a great match. Make sure you leave your friend at home when you go on the actual date, though, for best results.

10. Take A Short Break: If all else fails, maybe you need to take a short break from online dating. Maybe you should ask a friend to hook you up or maybe you should start walking up to people on the street and in grocery stores to increase your chances of finding a date offline. When you're ready, come back to online dating. You may find that a break was all you needed and your inbox could be filled to the max in no time with all new potential matches.

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