How To Keep Him Interested On A First Date

First dates tend to be intimidating as you desperately want to make a memorable and outstanding impression (in a good way) so that he desires to continue dating you. And to make matters worse you are nervous and jittery since this is a new experience for you... and you just don't know what to expect. Your mind doesn't help as it goes through all the things that could go wrong... food flying off the table... gagging on a morsel of food... etc. So what can you do to ensure that your first date goes off really well and he calls you again? What can you do to keep him interested on a first date?

1. Stop playing the disaster possibilities tape. I know it sounds difficult and times consuming BUT you must get rid of whatever is making you nervous. You will not fall flat on your face; your food will not fall off the table; etc and you need to stop thinking these negative thoughts. You are an articulate and beautiful woman who is ready to date and you need to keep telling yourself that whenever you start thinking of what could go wrong. Think of how you will have a great time and focus on the fun you will have instead. To keep him interested you must go to the date in the right frame of mind!

2. Have a conversation with him.

a. Don't be an interrogator! Nervousness has the effect of making the conversation difficult and so we go into interrogation mode very similar to a question- and- answer session. This becomes a boring and tedious cross-examination that doesn't highlight anything interesting or unique about you or about him. In-fact you both begin to feel the pressure and simply can't wait to leave... and never come again. You may both be wonderful people who could have had a great relationship but this interview like date kills off that possibility.

b. Don't be the only one talking! Sometimes in a bid to impress him or to keep the conversation going you may monopolize the conversation so that he ends up saying very little. To keep him interested you need to show him that you are interested in him... and what he has to say. Don't finish his sentences for him; don't assume that you know what he means... instead ask him what he means; don't listen with half an ear with the sole purpose of correcting him or giving your opinion on what he is saying. Really listen to this man if you want to keep him interested in you.

c. Chat with him If you are nervous you begin the conversation on a topic that interests or puzzles you... like first dates or whatever it is that actually interests or puzzles you right now in your world. On a first date a general issue (as opposed to a personal one) is usually best. Ask questions like what do you think of... (the general or political or current or topical issue). Find areas that can be of interest to both of you... and have a stimulating chat.

To keep him interested on a first date requires that you be genuinely interested in him by stopping yourself from sabotaging the date.