What Do Men Really Want In A Relationship?

The question that women ask when they feel frustrated with a man is 'what do men really want in a relationship?' You may have given him what you think he needed but he still left or was unhappy or is acting up. And the more you tried... the less it seems to work. Is there something that you are doing wrong? What do men really want in a relationship?

i. That you be true to your feelings and your self-esteem. Men want to know who you really are in the relationship. If you disagree with something he is doing or saying... then let him know. Pretending that you like something or that you agree with something when in actuality you don't... is not desirable in a relationship. You may feel that you must be nice by agreeing to everything he wants or says so that he is happy and doesn't see you as too demanding but this does not work to your advantage. If you do this then you will get increasingly angry with him resulting in anger outburst for small slights... or he will continue to make you angry without understanding why you are always angry with him. He may leave or act up because he thinks you are too angry for no reason. Honesty really is the best policy in a relationship.

ii. That you do not nag or beg him. Men really want a woman who they can respect and who they can thus feel is worthy of investing their lives in. Nagging and begging are not positions of respect as you are hoping to manipulate (or guilt) him with them. By doing them you are telling him that you are thinking only of yourself... you want what you want regardless of his feelings... and you will do anything to get what you want. He may give in so that you can stop the nagging or begging but his perspective of you changes... and you begin to create an emotional wedge between the two of you.

iii. He cannot save you. Men avoid women who need to be constantly saved from themselves and from the big bad world. He does not want your only reason for living to be him; neither does he want to have to constantly affirm you in order for you to go out every day. You don't feel pretty enough or strong enough... that should be something that YOU need to sort out with yourself. The fairy tales lied... prince charming does not want the burden of saving you from the evil world and taking you to his castle to protect you from everything and everyone.

Men really want a relationship where the woman takes her place as a secure and equal partner unless of course the man is dysfunctional and thrives under dysfunction... and that's a whole other article.

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