So many men get bent out-of-shape, nervous, sweaty, and just freeze up at the thought of talking to a beautiful woman. Say the wrong thing, and you're out!
Why do you do this to yourselves? After all, women are just people, right?
Why do you do it? One word - FEAR
Many men are afraid of rejection - afraid of saying the wrong thing - and afraid of running out of things to say!
What if you could remove at least two of those three fears? Would it greatly enhance your ability to say hello? I bet it would.
I have a simple 2-step formula that will end all of your worries.
That formula is: Observe, then Question.
Allow me to explain:
Step 1 - Observe - You must become observant when you are out and about. Not only will it increase your ability to drive a conversation, but it will also enhance your life and you will notice things most people never do.
When you become observant, you will notice small things about her that most men don't. When creating that first impression and building rapport with her, setting yourself apart from every other guy is ESSENTIAL! If she thinks you're different, she will let you stay.
Here's a little secret. Women do their hair, nails, makeup, match their outfits to their purses, etc., for two reasons. They want to look nice, and they want to feel nice. If they feel like they look nice, they feel good. If they feel good, men will talk to them.
So - women make themselves look nice so men notice! It's that simple. But, sadly, most men never do.
Observe things about her - her hair, nails, eye makeup, blouse, body language, does she appear to be waiting for someone, these are what will drive your future conversation.
Observe your surroundings. Things that may be going on around you, temperature, smells, weird people, is there a guy talking to her? Maybe by her body language you perceive she is not interested(Good approach: you sit down next to her and pretend like you've known her a long time. When he leaves, tell her she looked like she needed help, then continue talking).
Step 2 - Question. You can control an entire conversation just by asking open-ended conversation-style (not interview-style) questions. You just start asking questions based on your observations, wait for her answer, elaborate, and take that topic as far as it will go. If it leads into another topic, great! If you have "dead air" just ask about another observation you made.
EX: "Hey, I like your shoes by the way. Where would I be able to get a pair of them for my sister as a birthday present?
BONUS TIP: Learn How To Properly Communicate With Women. I give many more tips on my blog at http://www.approachingthewoman.com
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