Finally! You've found someone you can really relate to. Someone who gets you and who supports your decisions in life. This is the perfect person for you! You can't wait to get started on your life together and you are starting to get anxious about whether it will really work out or not! Stop! Before you end up doing something you will regret - take a step back from the relationship and use the following tips wisely.
Don't Pretend to Be Someone To Fit Their Needs
You may have heard this a lot in your life, but if you want the new relationship to work then you are going to have to really follow this advice! When you pretend to be someone you are not you will eventually grow tired of it and cause yourself some major stress.
The real you will be dying to come out, and eventually he or she will! This will shock your partner and cause a rift in the relationship. After all, they thought you were someone else. The relationship may not survive a surprise like this - and it's all because you were not true to yourself right from the beginning.
Don't Rush It!
I know, I know - this is more relationship advice that you have heard a million times before. And there is a reason why! It's important!
If you decide you want to get busy moving into together, getting married, and having kids then you may scare your new relationship partner away!
And if that doesn't happen, and you are both equally excited to get things moving alone, you may lose your identity somewhere along the process, because when you rush a relationship you tend to become obsessed with being together and preserving the closeness you have -which in turn results in losing your own life and interests. This is not a good thing to happen because you are the only one who is going to be in your life forever, and when your partner passes away, or god forbid you should break-up, you will be lost in life.
Stay friends
Don't let yourself drift into the lovers only couple and keep your friends for discussing your life, dreams, and desires. Friendship in any new relationship is what keeps you united and understanding of each other. Lose the friendship and you will lose the relationship.
Handle Conflict The Right Way
Conflict is not fun, but it's going to happen. It has to! It's the way you grow and learn in life, and in your relationship it's no different!
When you argue in a healthy way you can learn a lot of the experience. You will learn how to relate to your partner better as well as what their needs, wants, and desires are.
You will never make the same mistake twice when you learn from your partner, and that's the great part about conflict. It shows you your mistakes and misdoings in the relationships and allows you to show your partner their mistakes and misdoings.
Remember that by staying real, taking your time in the relationship, maintaining your friendship, and fighting the 'right' way you can take your new relationship and turn it into a healthy and happy long-term relationship.
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