Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Courtship Before Marriage

Courtship is a period of observing. Observation provides you the information about you and your partner. Sometimes, what you observe may not be pleasing to you but this is the period when you learn how to react to issues and manage differences. During courtship, one is expected to be open and receptive in order to understand your partner better. Being defensive or turning out information that is at variance with your picture of yourself is one of the major barriers to loving relationship. You should establish a good communication system in which you and your partner will freely share what you think and feel especially issues that affect you relationship, such that you and your partner will not tiptoe around each other's egos at the expense of sincerity. When your negative approach to issues is observed by your partner, he/she will be selective of what to share with you. A further result is that partners get progressively alienated from themselves through not having the courage to be rewarding listeners. The situation gets worse when it's taken into marriage. For any person wishes to have a lasting marriage should listen to what your partner has to say rather than being domineering every time.

Some Prerequisites to a successful courtship:

Establish good communication system

Communication in any relationship is like blood in the body system. If it stops flowing, the body dies. Good communication is the life wire of every successful courtship as it helps people understand themselves. Communication is necessary because our culture, background, education, religion etc differ. In order to bond with your partner, you need be able to talk to him/her and be listened to.

You must have common values

You may not totally agree with each other about everything. But both of you should have similar views of the world. If you enjoy interacting with people from other cultures for instance and your partner does not embrace them, it can put stain in your relationship.

Involve your parents

As both of you are getting acquainted to each other's values and belief system, the parents should be involved for advice and direction. The parents of the girl have should have good understanding of what she wants and needs and should be able to edify future their future son in-law. The same thing is also applicable to the parents of the man towards her future daughter in-law.

Be considerate

Always consider the feelings of your partner in any decision you make. His/her wellness, health, happiness should be of concern to you.



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