In most cases, a break-up is a bad thing, a hurtful thing. There are so many emotions involved, and mistakes that have been made. Some of these are an easy fix, while others take time. The finality of a break-up depends on you, though. There is a lot of advice out there saying to not text your ex after you split up; however, this can be a good thing, a start on the road to being back together again (if he is worth it to you to get back, of course). The following are some of the things you can do when texting your ex that will increase your chances of getting things going again.
I'm Sorry
Of course, you want to say more than just that, but an apology helps out a lot. While it may not be your fault completely, the majority of the time it was not just one person that brought the relationship to an end. There are times when people both decide to end it, but however it goes, apologize for things you may have done wrong in the relationship.
Memory Lane
Just saying you miss him will not do in most cases. There needs to be a reason to try again. Get nostalgic and talk about the things you did together, all the struggles you worked out at each other's side, etc. This recap can offer a fresh look at the things that were good in the relationship, and possibly a revelation for things you may have did wrong that you did not realize before.
Show Your True Feelings
Keeping things inside is never a good thing, especially if it is bad. Pent-up anger or frustration can lead to a break-up, so if you are texting each other again to try and work things out, just ask him straight out what was wrong in the relationship or what you did that he felt was wrong on your part. Find out where he failed in the relationship. Get all this out in the open to truly understand when, where, and how things went awry. Even if it does not get you and him back together, at least some of the hurt is gone and both of you can possibly have closure.
Caring Is Key
When you and your ex were together the first time, there was something there. You cared about each other. If you are texting him back after the no-contact period, make sure that caring is still present when you message him. This way, he knows you still care about him. Also, present a noncommittal style, so he does not think there are conditions to the re-establishment of contact or showing him that you still care. This may help him realize that there is still something for the two of you if only you were together again.
Final Thought
Relationships do not just up and happen. Both people have to take the time and effort to make things work. Sometimes, there is just no hope for the relationship. This only serves to let you know that it was not meant to be. If the love that was there was true, then a breakup is just another obstacle that can be overcome if you truly love each other. If the love is true, it will find its own way, and you will find yourself back in the arms of the man you love, and he in yours. True love is impossible to break unless there is repeated misuse and abuse of one by another. Naturally, if it is true love, this exception will never be thought of, much less made a reality. Do you feel you need to know more about texting your ex in order to win him back? Just let me know and I will be happy to answer any of your questions and set your mind at ease if I can.
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