If you consider yourself unlucky in love or want to avoid getting hurt again, there's a lot of mistakes you may be making that you aren't even aware of.
Here's some crucial dating do's and don'ts for the single female:
Don't Expect to Find a Good Guy in a Bad Place
Don't rely on the usual cliche places when you're looking for a quality man. Bars and nightclubs are filled with drunk men who, for the most part, only want companionship for that night.
The very best way to meet a guy is naturally, when neither of you are trying and it just happens. So always look your best, and pay attention to your surroundings. Keep an eye out, since you never know when you could meet someone really great.
Do Be Aware of the Power of Confidence and Attitude
Don't make the mistake of displaying a negative attitude or putting yourself down in front of men. Both these things are very unattractive.
Instead, work on displaying a positive outlook and giving off positive energy. It's good to be warm and kind, but don't underestimate the power of having some serious attitude and keeping a guy on his toes. Verbally spar with him and playfully argue; showing off your intelligence is magnetic.
Do Look Your Best at All Times
Because you never know who you're going to run into, you always want to take the extra time and money necessary to appear nice and polished.
This is also important because the better you look, the better you will feel. The better you feel, the better vibe you'll give off and the better quality of men you'll attract. When you're angry and miserable and hating yourself, you'll only attract me who are angry and miserable and hate themselves as well.
Do Be Aware of the Signals You Are Putting Out
Appearance is very important, yes, but many woman simply forget to pay attention to the signals they are putting out for men to pick up on.
If you're showing too much skin, you're sending the signal that you're easy and all about sex. If you're frowning and not laughing, you're saying that you're uptight and unable to relax and have fun. If you go overboard with your appearance and become obsessed with things like designer labels, you're giving off the clear message that you're full of yourself and likely to be a gold-digger. All of this is unfair, of course, but it's just the way things work so all you can do is learn to play the game right.
Don't Ever Ever Ever Sleep With a Guy on the First Date
There's not really an exception to this or any kind of excuse. Sleeping with a man right away is fine if you never want to see him again. However, if you're trying to date effectively and find a good guy, giving it up right away is the most counterproductive thing you can possibly do. The longer you hold out with a man and make him wait for sex, the more power you hold and will continue to hold for the duration of the relationship even after you sleep together.
Do Trust Your Instincts
You're most likely fully capable of navigating the strange landscape that is dating on your own and coming to the right conclusions. The problem is, you might ignore your instincts.
If you're struck with the feeling that a guy is lying to you or that he's not really who he claims to be, or get a gut feeling about any guy, take it seriously and get rid of him. If you have a good feeling about a cute feeling at the local coffee shop, follow your instincts if they are telling you that you should chat him up.
Remember to Not Take It All Too Seriously
Don't ever forget that dating is supposed to be fun. If you aren't having fun, you're either doing it all wrong or dating the wrong people.
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