The Difference Between Mere Attraction and Sexual Attraction!

Attraction and sexual attraction are two different things which most guys and self-proclaimed dating coaches can't seem to grasp. Let's clarify the difference. Attraction is something that can be interchangeably used with "curiosity, interest, intrigue or a strong liking". It does not mean the same as "raw sexual desire or a carnal wanting".

I say this because most guys have been taught to interpret a woman's indicators of mere interest as signs that she is "sexually attracted" to them and hence wants to have sex with them. Not quite. They simply mean just that and are not signs that she is smitten or sexually attracted yet. In order for a woman to amp up her feelings from mere interest or superficial attraction into a raw feeling of sexual attraction for you, two things must occur during the seduction or courtship process.

1. She must want to pursue you, as much as you want to pursue her.
2. She must see you as the type of guy that has sexual worthiness. This is projected by having an "indifferent and sometimes even disinterested" demeanour towards her, which, if the woman is into you will undoubtedly cause her to invest in the interaction with you, to make you focus on her again and to make you want to talk to her and interact with her again.

The reason for this is because things of sexual and emotional value to a woman "require" work. In addition, there is a cardinal rule in society which is that women decide if and when sex should occur, not men. The reason for this is based on the economics of sex, meaning based on the fact that they only have one delicate sex cell which is the ovum that determines their fate and we have millions of sex cells or sperm.

Hence a woman has to be the "chooser or selector" as to who gets to impregnate that ovum, not us. Therefore she needs to feel as though she pursued us for sex as much as we pursued her, when we are under the sheets about to have sex, to make her feel that she is playing by this rule.

The way to get a woman to pursue us is to say or do things in the interaction with her which will cause her to "invest" in it, as much as we are and to even go as far as to get her to "chase" us. Once again, we need to implant the feeling in her mind that she is also putting forth time as well as effort in the interaction with us and in the courtship process as much as we are. Once we do this, then her feelings of mere interest will immediately be amped up into sexual interest or attraction and she will be open to sleeping with us.

So there is the main difference between mere attraction and sexual attraction. Knowing this difference can enhance your success with women drastically!