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How To Get Your Ex Back If You Need A Helping Hand
For some people, getting back with their ex is an easy thing to do. You know the type of person I'm taking about. They have a clear desire in their minds that they want to reconcile and before you know it, the both of them are walking down the street again hand in hand as if nothing had ever happened. However, not all people are as sure or as confident as that picture I just painted. A lot end up worried and clueless as to how, when, and where to start getting back with their ex.
If you need a morale boost or shot in the proverbial arm to get your ex back, try the following suggestions. You might find them very handy as you go along:
1. Use a song to tell her how you feel
If you are tongue-tied as to what to say to your ex, use a very meaningful song to convey your message. If you're a good singer, you can sing the song yourself. If not, you can have somebody else do it who you know has some talent in that area. Or you can simply play it off your phone or media player. You can also share the song on his or her email or social networking account. Just don't forget to put in the proper dedication.
2. Text your heart away
You can use text messages to tell your ex how you really feel. If words escape you if you're face to face with your ex, use the SMS feature of your phone instead. Things can get better if you type your sentiments instead of saying them face to face. You can edit and change words as you go along. You can rephrase yourself until your message reflects exactly how you feel. You can also process your emotions as you go along with the conversation. You can stop and think of the best way to answer. These are the advantages of using a text message in patching things up with your ex. Although not an ideal solution for everyone, with a text message, you will almost always come up with the right things to say because you're not being held back by the usual nerves in a face to face meet up.
3. Ask help from a common friend
If you think that the likelihood of getting back with your ex is low, have somebody else on your team to assist you. Get a friend who can help you patch things up if you feel you need or would otherwise benefit from some external help. Find a common friend, more ideally the best or a close friend of your former partner, to help you get back with your ex. But be careful. It's always wise to make sure before you do this that they are on your side and have your interests at heart. If you don't, it's just possible that you may find them siding with your ex and making your problems worse than what they originally were to begin with. All I'm saying here is proceed with caution and know who your true friends are if you want to get your ex back successfully.
Wednesday, February 27, 2013
Ending the Journey of Hurt and Pain
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Tuesday, February 26, 2013
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Letting the 'Young Man' Go
In the case of initiation, when the boy returns, having fulfilled his rites of passage, "the boy's mother pretends not to know him. She asks to be introduced to 'the young man'."
~John Eldredge (paraphrasing Robert Bly)
This is a hard word for women with sons, but it is necessarily true in the folklore of masculinity.
Men need men and boys more so. If the root of many of the crimes within society committed today lay exposed, we would acknowledge the great injustice that is spurned against most if not all young men, that the rites of initiation are largely lost in our modern Western culture.
The lack of men in men's lives has harmed our men for decades, if not centuries.
The ancient tradition was for boys and young men to work with their fathers, and, at the age of about 12, be sent off for a little while with the older men to learn men's ways. What is vital about this is that 'men's ways' - properly constituted - are critical for the safe and healthy functioning of society.
Knowing men's ways, and being approved by other men to that end, means a young man is comfortable in and with himself.
When a man is comfortable with himself as a man he is gentle, and particularly gentle with women. He is respectful and sensitive and able to be intimate. He earns and values trust. He's not overly fearful. He is responsible and, indeed, a hard worker, with the right motivation to work. He knows his role in the family and in society and he rarely needs to be reminded. This is a real man.
This may seem a perfect picture, and, though none of us are perfect, he is the man all men should strive to be.
WHAT MOTHERS CAN DO FOR THEIR SONS
This is a truth that applies to all mothers with sons, whether married, widowed, divorced, or single. One of the most important tasks is to enlist the help of responsible male role model. With the right man to look up to a boy learns to emulate manly attitudes, values, and behaviours. It works without effort. All that is required is time, and an intentional focus on behalf of the mother and the male role model (whether it is his father or not).
In doing this, the mother is, for her son's own good, to let go during these times; and to let go, in the ultimate sense, when he reaches 'age' - about age 12-13. A big part of the letting go process is in not shaming him.
If the son has been mentored appropriately he will be ready to take up the mantle of a young man at age 12-13. He is not a man yet, and cannot be expected to be a man, but the transition to manhood is very well underway. Any mother that refuses their son this privilege is holding him back and damaging him. Yes, this is a hard word!
One of the responsibilities of mothers with sons is the letting go process - knowing when and how to let go; so in ascribing to him his manly dignity. And whilst the mother is always there to pick him up should he fall, she should allow him to fall, for no one is destroyed in the falling.
This is very much a wisdom task for the mother with a son.
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For a boy to become a man - a safe man, who is safe in himself and caring with others, especially women - he must be trained and approved by other men. Women and mothers, no matter how well they try, struggle to take him through this transformation. Real men - responsible men - know how important it is to encourage and how to gently push men (and boys) younger than themselves. They know the importance of men for a man's self-esteem.
© 2013 S. J. Wickham.
The Dangers of Objectification of Females - And Males
It's easy to think of members of the opposite sex as caricatures and stereotypes. When we do this, it's a natural tendency to objectify them, which leads to further harm and disconnection from true emotions.
We are all familiar with the objectification of women. We see it in the music videos, commercials, magazine covers, and other media examples where sexuality is played up. Women are reduced to their body parts - the size of their breasts and posteriors. Suitability for a relationship - especially a sexual one - is determined by the degree of pleasure the male estimates he will receive from coming into contact with her body.
But that's not the only objectification we see. Women are taught to objectify men, as well. They do this by seeing a man only as an ATM. His potential for a relationship is judged, not by his character or any barometer other than his income.
This objectification - viewing women as porn stars and men as ATMs - is a huge disservice to both genders. It makes emotional intimacy impossible and makes it easy for either gender to make degrading, harmful decisions about their mates or people they date because those people are not real human beings with feelings, but are only objects.
The problem here is that this objectification makes it more likely that father absence will show up in this picture, as the men who impregnate these women they see only as sexual objects are less likely to feel compelled to engage with them on any level to help with the children. And for the women who objectify the men, these women see these men only as financial resources, not as people who can provide emotional or mental support and assistance in the lives of the children they have created together.
Objectification by both genders can be a factor in father absence, and so must be addressed. Both genders must realize that their mates or members of the opposite sex are more than sexual objects or ATMs. They are people with feelings, hopes, goals, dreams, abilities, and strengths. Realizing this can help both genders see the other as more than simple objects.
This is important because it impacts our families. When we see each other beyond stereotypical objects and caricatures, we can get to the real issues that matter so we can address each other as human beings who can participate in the lives of our children.
Monday, February 25, 2013
The Ultimate 1st Date
Something that stirs all the senses: Food
My life revolves around food, and not in some sick sort of way. I am not obese, but I like to cook and I love to eat, and the ambiance, of a great restaurant. A chef once told me he loves knowing he"is setting up the evening for lovers to make love after they eat his food."
That chef had a bit of an ego, but he was right, nonetheless. A great 1st date should entice the senses. People are at their best when a good atmosphere is invoked with food. Look at all the great movies: Like Water for Chocolate, Babette's Feast, Chocolate... the list goes on and on. We like our food, but we never really say it quite enough: food is an aphrodisiac, and not just oysters. Food and eating, and tasting, and smacking our lips around, and watching our date eat, and enjoy. Think about that. Food being broken down with our canines, incisors, ewww... so enticing... but this is our primal nature. So, for good God's sake, make a 1st date, women, men, who ever is the initiator of the date, it is up to you to make it powerful and use the senses to make memories because the olfactory nerves or what's going to make her/him remember you. A medical study, cited as Herz and Engen, 1996 states: "Only two synapses separates the olfactory nerves from the Hippocampus, which has implicated in memory... indeed this is why odor-evoked memories are unusually emotionally potent."
So, what's effecting your date is not so much what your wearing, she's not tasting and chewing that (or maybe if your lucky she is), she is tasting and smelling the drink and food, and the music is playing, ahhh... yes, the rhythm is going along with the food. She is remembering this while you watch her eyes glint and shine, and her mouth salivate... you are evoking all the senses to come and play... and the great complicated mind is creating a memory with smell, her brain praises you and gleans for more. She is remembering you right now... and this memory will long to make more similar memories. Science is a tricky little thing, because you forget about it, but it is always at the root of why we date in the first place, we are animals with instincts and are made up of chemicals and pheromones that respond to our environment, like a cat hunting its prey.
The New Pheromone Trend in Dating
On a larger scale, there's a new way to find a date, purely through smell. Pheromone parties are being hosted in Los Angeles and bigger cities, getting singles to connect to their dates, purely through smell. Ahh... if the world only was that barbaric still. We'd women be clubbed, and the men, oh, the men, wouldn't be complaining much because they'd still be grunting, not talking. Evolution has provided us with details on why women and men are attracted to pheromones in choosing their mates, study show its because it prevents inbreeding, and choosing a mate who is ovulating. However, we are (hopefully) intellectually able to curb this more animalistic style of just hopping on a person who happens to just be dropping an egg. The parties that are becoming a hit in the cities, derived from a web developer named Judith Prays, who remembered a guy's smell, but not him. Mhmmm... so Prays resorted to a kind of smell whats in the bag kind of thing and found that couples were hitting it off. But mostly couples were hitting it off, because they had a funny, great icebreaker. Two people smelling dirty shirts and underwear? Doesn't get more olfactory binding than that!
Of course this is all based on an article that I just read in the Huffington Post, and have yet to do a laundry smelling party myself. However, as a chef, who is not setting the stage "for people to make love" as my chef friend said, I am more interested in creating the memory of taste and smell that evokes a certain remembrance of time, that you want to go back to. Nostalgia. I have nostalgia for the meals and wine I have partook, and the company that brought me there. It's also not just the food, taste, or smell; the brain also needs another intellectual resource to bind the memory into place. This is how we involved. We need a counterpart, a feeling of intense warmness and safe being, where one in the midst's of smelling dirty laundry or eating Brie with champagne, must feel and remember like it was home, and not dangerous. Comfort food if you will for the senses. This I believe leads to the next date...
What if I got ten bucks?
If you have ten bucks, it's picnic time and the gods will save you with pine and eucalyptus. Many people feel down trodden about the whole picnic, outdoors thing. There's nothing more invigorating than fresh air, and once again, the olfactory nerves will remember the surrounds stronger when a person is in a natural setting, surrounded by natural smells. You want the person to remember you; a picnic with fresh fruit is all you need. Sprinkle a little Sugar on those strawberries before you go, the sugar induces the already natural sweetness in the strawberry juices. Everything, big and small matters. Get creative dating, the world is filled with smells, including, hopefully the most enticing one of all, your own.
Saturday, February 23, 2013
How to End an Informal Email in Online Dating
It can be a real challenge to write a message to anyone in an online relationship. You have to use the right language and the best possible tone just to keep someone satisfied.
You especially have to be aware of how to end a message the right way. The process of ending an informal email does not have to be too complicated or challenging. You have to do a few things when thinking about what you could do in this process.
First, you have to end the email by stating what your plans for the immediate future might be. This includes information on what you plan on doing tomorrow or if you have anything special to do during the weekend. This can be used to not only inform a person of interest but to also possibly pique someone's curiosity.
Another option for ending an email is to try and invite someone to whatever it is you are doing. You can make a simple invite that involves a simple casual activity. For example, you can just politely ask if a person wants to meet you at a particular spot. This could be used to help you out with getting in touch with anyone of interest to you.
You can also talk about what you might do to accommodate a person if that person does want to go somewhere with you. Again, you do not have to be too extreme in terms of what you want to do. You just have to talk with that person about what you might be interested in. It's a simple idea used to help you get in touch with someone without having to deal with the stress that comes with trying to accommodate to the most extreme demands that someone might have.
The next tip for ending an informal email is to focus on yes or no questions. You don't have to be too introspective or detailed in your email. Just asking something that has a simple yes or no answer that you could use will be good enough. This is made to help you out with keeping your email comfortable.
Finally, you have to be sure that you use a simple series of words that are made to just show that you are being friendly without doing anything to express your love for someone. An informal email is supposed to be light and easy for anyone to read without creating any serious emotions. It has to be made with a comfortable arrangement without any problems coming from what you are talking about. You have to do this carefully when finding a solution when talking to someone.
You should be careful when ending an informal email. You should do this when dating anyone online so you can keep a good relationship going. It is all to give you anything that you can do in order to keep yourself under control without creating any problems out of your relationship when trying to talk to someone in a particular way.
Friday, February 22, 2013
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How Do I Find a Girlfriend Soon? 3 Tips for Speeding Up the Process
We all love the idea of speed, right? We all love the idea of seeing some area of our life that needs fixing and then imagining that we can fix it as soon as possible. At the same time, we are highly conditioned to believe that things move slowly, that anything that we want to improve takes a whole lot of time and when we think like that, it can make those things that we want to change seem too hard and too difficult to tackle. Dating does NOT have to be that way at all. I'm not saying that you can find the woman you are necessarily going to marry quickly, but if you want to get a girlfriend and at least have a little bit of a love life, then yeah, that can happen quickly.
Here are some tips if you want to speed up the process of finding a girlfriend:
1. Approach women without even thinking about it.
The more women you meet, the more likely you are to get a date. That's just the way that it works and you want to use that to your advantage. Approach women. Don't think about it, just do it. Even if you mess things up, the next woman that you approach might just be the one that goes out on a date with you.
2. Make time in your life to have a girlfriend.
If you don't have a lot of free time to socialize with a woman, you have to make the time. Eliminate some television watching time. Eliminate some video game playing time or some Youtube surfing time. As long as you have some time to get out there and socialize with women, you can end up getting a girlfriend fast. Anything that takes up that time that isn't vital, needs to go on the back burner.
3. Learn to talk to women in a way that makes them want to talk more often to you.
Conversation is a huge part of dating. It just is. You need to be good at making conversation with a woman if you want to get a girlfriend. The faster you can learn how to talk to women in a way that leaves them wanting to talk more often to you - the more likely it is that you are going to end up getting a yes response when you ask a woman out on a date.
Thursday, February 21, 2013
How Do I Get Back With My Boyfriend - 3 Tips For Winning Him Back
More Men Are Attracted To You Than You Think - Their Body Language Prove It
Most women can regularly categorise themselves as one of two types: attractive types or not so attractive types. Most women believe that if they get more attention than others it's because they're more attractive. On the other end of the scale, women believe that if they don't receive much attention from men, it's because they're unattractive.
In my experience. these two categories are complete codswallop. The real division between women is between those who are aware of the attention they receive and those who are not.
Some women are aware the minute a man thinks anything remotely sexual about them. It's like they have a radar scanner going on that detects every complimentary thought. Not a sideways glance or even the quietest of whistles escapes this girl's attention.
This first type of woman is confident. She knows men are attracted to her and she likes it.
And then there's the second type of woman. Women of this type believe themselves to be unattractive. They don't believe men are interested in them. That's why, whenever they here a compliment or whenever they think a man's admiring them, they immediately presume that there must be some other reason for the attention. It couldn't possibly be because the guy's interested, he just happened to accidentally smack my butt while gazing admiringly in my eyes.
This second type of woman has little confidence. She doesn't believe men are attracted to her and she feels unattractive as a result.
Now imagine both these women receive precisely the same amount of attention. The confident woman and the unconfident woman both receive ten compliments, for instance. Based on their personalities, the confident woman will believe that all ten compliments were the result of her stunning beauty and irresistibility. The unconfident woman, however, will believe that there was an ulterior motive for every single compliment.
Both receive the same amount of attention. Yet both perceive that attention in very different ways.
If you're one of the second type of woman, the type who receives attention but constantly presumes there's some ulterior motive for it, our best course of action is to train yourself to be able to recognise male attention. The best way to do that is by learning a little about male body language.
The next time you feel uncertain about a man's feeling, simply consult this list of body language gestures. The list is a tick-list of different body language gestures men naturally show when attracted to a woman. The list is based on scientific studies in nonverbal communication. In other words, it's based on fact.
Male Body Language Signs of Attraction
Men will show the following body language signs when attracted to a woman:
- Dilated pupils while looking at you
- Licking lips
- Fleetingly gazes at sexual areas
- He caresses objects for no reason
- Accidentally bumping into you to get your attention
- Moving a chair closer to you
- Doing various things to get closer to you
- Gazing at you from across the room
- Holds your gaze when you look at him or (for shy guys) looks away awkwardly
- His belly button points towards you
- His feet point towards you
- He raises his eyebrows when you look at him
- He leans towards you
- Face grows red when you look at him
- Fidgets nervously with clothes or face when talking to you or looking at you
- Preening
- Flexing muscles or doing something to make himself look bigger
If a guy performs six or more of these gestures while around you, he is attracted to you.
It's important to be honest when using this list. You need to let go of your debilitating belief that people are not attracted to you. Instead, learn to observe men objectively. If a guy shows the body language gestures we have covered above while around you, you know-regardless of your disbelief-that he is attracted to you.
More men are attracted to you than you think. Use this list and you will prove it to yourself. You will be shocked to discover how many men are attracted to you.
Wednesday, February 20, 2013
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Tuesday, February 19, 2013
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Monday, February 18, 2013
Experiencing Hurt in Healing Ways
What To Text a Woman
This article is going to tell you what you should text a woman and how you should do it. Following these tips will help you accomplish your objective, whether it is asking her out for a date, sending a follow-up text or getting her to respond. Texting a woman can be a difficult but if you listen carefully, it will become very easy.
Correct The Spelling and Grammar
Using correct spelling and grammar is a must. Know the difference between "you're" and "your", "to" and "too". You should also try and avoid using abbreviations especially if you want her to take you seriously.
Texting "I like you" is much better than texting "I like u". A woman can become uninterested in a guy who doesn't know how to spell, so make sure you double check everything before you send it.
Be descriptive
Being descriptive helps to create a good mood and make a woman's imagination come alive. If she asks you how your day was, you could respond with either "It was really good" or "I just saw the sunset, the sky was glowing orange and red-looked amazing!"
The last response goes into a lot of detail and creates a vivid image in her mind. She will more likely be interested in what you have to say next and respond back to you.
Use Pet Names
Giving her a pet name is something you should also consider. Calling her something like darling, sweetie, cutie pie or adorable brat will make her feel more special in your eyes.
She will most likely give a name to you that add to the overall experience. These pet names can be used to tease her, which will most defiantly put a smile on her face. It also creates a memory and secret that only you two will share.
Use Emoticons
Smiley face and other emoticons can be used to bring more emotion and feeling into your texts. When used correctly they can make almost any text message seem more upbeat and inviting, which give her a good impression of you.
This in turn will make her more likely to respond to your texts, due to you giving off a positive vibe. Always try to keep your text messages positive.
Pay attention
Pay attention to what a woman puts into a text. The more you remember the better. Sometimes subtext will be used to indirectly ask questions or for you to take action.
If it is nigh time and she texts you saying "So are you out and about then?" it could also mean that she wants to see you.
To make sure that this is true you would have to analyse her previous text messages to understand fully her state of mind.
Improvise
Improvisation can make your texts easy to think of things to say. It will also make it a whole lot more fun and interesting. If a woman says goodbye to you in Spanish you could say goodbye back to her in French.
Improvising and keeping with the theme will make you appear much more intelligent and charming. It also shows that you are both on the same wavelength and have good chemistry.
Make her smile
Always try to make a woman smile when texting. You will know that have done this because she will tell you about it. If you can make a woman smile via text she will be wondering how you would make her feel by meeting up.
Using these rules and advice will help you know what to text a woman in almost any circumstance. The more you put them into practice the better you will become. But remember to keep on your toes because all girls are different and are full of surprises.
Thursday, February 14, 2013
Repetition: I've Been Here Before, I Said, I've Been Here Before!
Should You Fix Things With Your Boyfriend or Not?
When people are in love, they tend to feel like the whole world ahead of them is bright and full of rainbows. Yes, being in love is definitely a great feeling, but what if it feels like your boyfriend is drifting away from you? What if you aren't sure if you really care about each other or not? Here are some signs that you should try to fix things with your boyfriend before completely giving up on your love:
1. He always remembers the little things.
It is one thing for a guy to remember the important dates in your life, like your anniversary and your birthday, but it would also be vital for him to remember the little things from your past conversations to prove that he really listens to you and has an interest in your life. If he does this, then you might want to consider learning how to fix things with your boyfriend.
2. You always feel comfortable around him.
Do you feel relaxed whenever you are with your boyfriend or do you always feel the need to impress him despite all of the time that you have already been together? If you feel incredibly at ease around your boyfriend, then your relationship might have a lot of staying power and you might want to fix things with your boyfriend because of it.
3. You have no trouble opening up to each other.
If you can survive having long talks with your boyfriend without wanting to rip your hair out, then you already have a deep connection that could last a long time and would be worth saving overall.
4. He makes you feel secure.
Although this might sound materialistic, it would be absolutely vital for your boyfriend to make you feel financially secure. Of course, emotional security would be just as important, though, so make sure your boyfriend fits the bill on both counts before making your decision.
5. You always feel good around him.
If your boyfriend constantly makes an effort to keep the love alive in your relationship and if you always feel excited whenever you know that you will see him next, then you should definitely fix things with your boyfriend. This would hold especially true if he doesn't fail to make you breakfast or buy you flowers when you least expect it, just because he knows it will make you feel good about yourself.