During times of emotional upset it can be surprising just how many people seem willing to help out. You may feel too proud to accept every offer that comes your way but there's usually no proper reason to refuse.
If people care enough to put themselves out for you - at a time when you actually need their help - then what could be better?
Friends and Family
Friends and family will often be the first option for many types of help that you need after a break up.
Shoulders to cry on
This is the most obvious type of support you might need. Even if you're not actually crying, your friends and family can help you make sense of your feelings and cheer you up when you're feeling low.
Baby sitters
With your partner no longer around it's possible you'll need help with the children. This could be full on babysitting, or it could just be picking them up from school on the night you work late. Even if your friends or family members can't do this, they may know a good baby sitter who can.
Searching for a new home
If you need to relocate, ask your friends to keep their eyes peeled for suitable properties and get someone to view them with you if possible. You may not feel able to trust your own judgement with such a big decision so ask someone you trust to help you decide.
Paying bills
You may find that your parents or other relatives are able to offer some financial support to help with the cost of moving home or childcare. This may be in the form of a gift, or a no-interest loan. Either way - accept if you genuinely need it and show your gratitude appropriately.
DIY
Putting together flat packs and lugging heavy deliveries usually require more than one person. Even if you're proficient at DIY you may find the occasional job needs a second pair of hands that your partner would previously have provided.
Professional Assistance
Depending on your marital and financial status you may require some help from the Citizens Advice Bureau, a family solicitor, or your bank. Search online for contact details and ask friends or relatives if they can recommend a solicitor, or other professional who may be able to help.
Time off or restricted duties at work
It's a good idea to let your employer know when you're going through a serious break up. You may need to take time off work to get over the shock, or to help you find a new home.
You may also want to ask about getting a temporary change or restriction of duties. For example, if you're struggling not to cry it's probably not a good idea to put you on reception or in charge of answering the phone. Find out if some adjustments can be made for a few days while you get back to being (almost) your normal self.
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