How To Get An Ex Boyfriend Back Without First Scaring Him Off

If you've experienced a break up with your boyfriend, and are wanting to learn the best way for how to get an ex boyfriend back, putting yourself in your former partner's shoes is one of the more important first steps to take, especially if you want to begin seeing things from their vantage point. Taking this approach will pay dividends if you're seriously planning to get them back into awaiting arms once more and keeping them there.

I'll say one word - space. That's right, space. If there's one thing that you need to know about how to get an ex boyfriend back, you need to give him plenty of space to get his head right before you come charging over the hill with your calls, messages, texts and pleadings. Guys usually don't want to be suffocated in a relationship, even though your mind is probably racing for things to get his attention and adoration back again. Your attention at this early and tense time, no matter how well placed it may be, should take a back seat to his need for some close self-examination and head clearing, OK? Reconciling, or trying to reconcile at this very delicate and formative stage, could be premature and dash your chances of success altogether.

At this particular stage, you could back off and let things cool for a while or you could try and get in his face and run the real risk of being shunned - perhaps for good. Now this doesn't mean you can't have any contact with him whatsoever (although that might still be the best bet for now). You can keep a respectable distance while, at the same time, offering only very occasional gentle reminders of presence from afar. But whatever you do, make them subtle and infrequent unless you want to scare him off.

If you were the one mainly at fault in the relationship, why not step up and offer a simple but heart-felt apology. Many women find this hard to do and would much prefer the guy to do it - whether it was his fault or not! What ever you do though, don't go over the top with this. Take the KISS (keep it simple, stupid) approach, it will work better. If the apology is genuine, and you really mean it, then he'll get the gist of it without you lacing it with unnecessary added extras, if you know what I mean.

Taking these little tidbits of advice into account and acting on them with tact and poise, will certainly improve your chances of getting back with your man. If it doesn't, them perhaps you've tried a little too hard and may need to rest your heels for a spell before trying again.

Of course it is always possible that no matter what you do, you may not be able to turn things around to your advantage. He may very well have moved on in his mind, if not in his heart. If this is the case, and your approaches do nothing but push him further away, then agree the breakup and move on with your life while allowing him to do the same. You owe this much at least to yourself and to him as well.