How To Get A Girlfriend Quickly And Easily

Isn't it depressing to know that you and your friend are out and about and you are the only one that does not have a female companion around? Do you want to know how to get a girlfriend? Is it that you are an ugly duckling? Is you smell worst that the filt our dogs produce? There are a million questions that could be asked with an aim of trying to figure out why this is happening to you. But there may be signals that you are doing something drastically wrong!

Let it be known that acts of desperation is not cute and is a big turn off! This is not a good impression to leave with a female because they will see you and inferior and weak. Try being patient for a change! You aim should never be to get in bed with every and any girl that greets you. This is because when a female say hello, this is not an invitation to jump them or an invitation to devote the rest of her life to you. So wake up and observe these 5 reasons why a female may not be interested in dating you.

1. They may view you as immature. If mockery and a foolish mentality is you style then you are in big trouble. Nothing is wrong with being a bit silly at times, but when this is done excessively you will eventually dig a grave for chances.

2. Confidence in self must always be displayed. Females find this attractive in their men but be sure not to cross the line of cockiness because this will just leave the female feeling annoyed at the end of a dating session.

3. Over Confidence should never be displayed. This is because it may come off as boasting.

4. Grooming and physical appearance. If you do not take pride in the way you look and dress females may never be attracted to you. This is because females gravitate to what they see first and will give you a date based upon that as a concern for all females is how capable you are in taking care of yourself and others.

5. The male ego. Males even if you know that you are better looking that Brad Pitt and richer that Jay-Z there is no need to flaunt it. There is no need to obsess over yourself constantly ever in the presence of a female.
Visually inspect yourself

Be honest with yourself when you inspect you appearance. It is always a good thing to note what you admire about yourself as well as what you don't admire about yourself. If a second opinion is needed you may resort to asking a friend.

Revealing who you are is one of the best things you can do for yourself and the female that you are wooing. And if you want to know how to get a girlfriend... Well... If you believe that there are thing that needs to be adjusted then do so quickly. One this is done try your luck again and see what happens.

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Dating and Relationships: 5 Things Women Do That Turn Men Off

Women who find themselves lacking in the dating department should ask themselves if they are making any of the mistakes listed in this article. Men are funny creatures and, like deer, spook easily. Say the wrong thing and they are likely to bolt right out the door after making a lame excuse. In order to play the dating game like a pro (which means winning) you need to know how men think and what makes them tick. Once you know how a man thinks you will start attracting them instead of repelling them. Here are a few common mistakes women make when it comes to dating:

Talk About Your Ex
Women like to talk about themselves and the topic of conversation is usually men. Talking with your girlfriends is ok, but you should never talk about your exes with a date. If you talk to them about other guys they assume you will talk about them to others as well.

Dress too sexy
When going on a first date it is important to dress appropriately, this means conservatively. You want to show off your best assets but that does not mean dressing slutty. A dress that is too low cut or too short will have him thinking of sex instead of listening to what you have to say. If things work out you can dress any way you want later when the two of you are intimate.

Try Too Hard to Impress
The best advice when dating someone new is to just be yourself. Often times we try too hard to impress someone and end up turning them off instead. Never try too hard to get a guy. You do not have to like the same football team he does or like the same food or have the same habits. It is nice to have some things in common but it is not required. Never lie about what you like or do not like just to impress him. Eventually he will find out you lied and it will bow up in your face.

Drink Too Much
Make it a rule never to have more than two drinks on a date. It is very easy to overdo it and end up spilling the beans on everything. Everyone has their emotional baggage but when you drink too much you get too relaxed and before you know it you have told him everything that has happened in your life since high school. It is a good idea to have a mental list of topics for conversation to avoid those awkward moments of silence that often cause people to drink too much to begin with.

Talk Too Much
Women love to talk, it is a part of our nature but there is such a thing as talking too much. Let him talk about himself to avoid monopolizing the conversation. It is better to retain a little mystery and let him want to find out more about you. To do that,he will have to ask you out again.

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Pay Attention to What a Woman's Behavior Is Telling You

In the initial stages of dating, it can be difficult to gauge when you can really start to be fully open and emotionally expressive with a woman without it feeling premature. However, there are a few signs to look out for which will make the job a lot easier.

Once you've passed the first date, start paying attention to how a woman responds to you during the beginning of your relationship. Is she being open about herself and her personal life with regards to her friends, parents and other details, which will enable you to have a clearer picture about who she is? Or is she being secretive about her personal life? If so, then you may want to reconsider dating or pursuing a relationship with her. It should be obvious that over time that you'll have problems, if she is not being open or honest with you.

I have a close friend who was madly in love with an attractive roommate who didn't feel anything for him romantically, and he pursued her vigorously. His desperate need to have a relationship that he hadn't had in many years, compounded with his fixation on her outer beauty, made him blind to her disinterest in him. He was quite demonstrative with his emotions towards her and mistook her flirty behavior as a sign that she was attracted to him too. As such, he failed to realize until much later that the woman was a user and a manipulator. It took the extreme for him to finally open his eyes and confront the harsh reality of the situation. He finally caught on, after never knowing where she would be, who her friends were, where she would spend all her time including the weekends, where she worked, or any other personal details about her, except her name and where she was from. If a woman is keeping you in the dark about details that are part of strengthening the relationship, then you should move on, have respect for yourself and find someone else who wants a relationship with you.

Pay attention to the excuses that a woman gives in order to not spend time with you. If at one time you thought there might be potential in a relationship with her, but after trying to connect with her, she then gives you excuses for not being able to join you, play it cool and don't be emotionally invested. Of course her reasons may be legitimate, but if it's a consistent pattern of excuses then it means she really is not interested in you. Unfortunately, some women are not straightforward with men because they do not want to hurt men's feelings; and so they give them excuses instead. However, if a woman says she's too busy with work and other things right now, what she is telling you may actually be true. Use your best judgement, unless she gives you an excuse and you happen to know it isn't true. If a woman is not interested and lies to you, it is futile to pursue her more, and in the long run will likely not be worth it.

On the other hand, if a woman spends time with you and shares details about her family, friends, and activities, this would definitely be a strong sign for you to go for it and shower her with your affection. Women love affectionate men and reciprocate if they feel the same towards you. But for the women who are indifferent or disinterested in you, save your energy for someone suitable. Some men pursue women as a sport to get some kind of satisfaction from the pursuit. But if instead you're looking for a relationship, then keep your mind open and be the kind of man who women will be attracted to - by being confident, fun, and having many things going on in your life. You will likely attract women who will be interested in you. A woman who doesn't want you isn't worth the time and energy, and above all will usually not lead to a happy ending.

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The Secrets of How to Attract Hot Women: Body Language Basics and Seduction

Fact: Body Language is in constant communication with those around you.

Well over 50% of your communication is in the form of non-verbal as opposed to about 8% coming what you actually do say.

With that in mind, how aware are you of the major part of what you're putting out there? It's a very easy thing to not only overlook but to be completely unaware of.

We've all heard the saying: "It's not so much WHAT you say, but HOW you say it."

For instance, it's much more difficult to judge a person via text messaging or online but very easy to misinterpret someone as well. Why? It's because we don't have those all important non-verbal cues that we subconsciously rely on every minute.

You might have all the game in the world online but your body language isn't part of the equation in that world. Take the same words out into the real world without an awareness of the non-verbal cues you're sending and you just might crash and burn.

Body Language is extremely important in order to sexually attract women. There is an equally important aspect of Body Language as it regards what SHE'S putting out, but for today's article, we're focusing on YOUR Body Language.

The Basics:

1.) Smile!

Easy to forget this one! Salespersons will tell you what you instinctively know. A smile disarms people and puts them at least somewhat at ease. It tells people on a sub-conscious level that you're okay.

What you want to project is that you're a happy, confident man enjoying her company. It works. Try this out for yourself. Start smiling at random people during the day. Not a cheesy smile but a genuine one. People usually smile back.

2.) Eye Contact

"Hey, I'm up here buddy!" For god's sake don't stare at her chest. You really need to work on this one. When she catches you doing it, you have just become another of the drooling pigs that she encounters each and every day. Don't do it to yourself.

Maintain the eye contact in conversation. Not too heavy. Don't stare, it's intimidating. Nod. Smile. Be engaged! Eye contact can make very lasting impressions on people in any situation. The eyes are the windows to the soul. Keep that in mind.

Just keep a rough 70% rule in mind. That's about the optimum amount of time in a conversation for eye contact.

Anyone ever tried "speed dating"? Check this out. There is a type of speed dating that's catching on. No words; just looking into each other's eyes. What'll they think of next?

3.) Sit Up Straight!

No. I'm not channeling your Sainted Mother. It's just solid advice. As a guy you can get away with a tiny slouch, but be aware of it. A straight upright stance projects good things.

Look at any successful film actor. Good posture is all a part of presence. Do you think proper posture wasn't part of their training? Believe it. It projects health and well-being.

Not to mention what dear old mom said, "It's good for you."

4.) Gesture with OPEN palms.

It projects friendliness. Do you know the reason for the handshake that developed thousands of years ago? Its purpose was to show that we held no weapon. Non-Verbal communication at it's most basic.

This piece of advice you won't get anywhere else.

When the open palm gesture is combined with some other subliminal seduction techniques, it can really be a winning combination (studies show that the open palm gesture can even give you a 50/50 chance of getting out of a speeding ticket).

How's that for news you can use?

So in conclusion, when speaking with a girl and trying to make a point that puts a good light on you, or even to defend yourself (for example she thinks your just running your "usual game".) Keep your arms in front of you with palms up.

It works on a sub-conscious level to project honesty. Use these simple secrets of attraction with a smile for it to work effectively.

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Three Crazy Things I've Done For Love

In a movie, the crazy thing always works out. The grand gesture gets you the grand love. The love interest reads your grand gesture as ballsy, full of confidence, and knowing what you want. In real life, it can just make you look a little nuts and a little desperate. And maybe even a little irresponsible if that grand gesture cost you a pricey plane ticket or a game of hookey from work.

I would know, because I have done a few crazy things for love. And, well, I'm still single. What have I done?

Karaoke:

What better way to show someone you want the whole world to know that you love them than by letting the whole bar know. It's a start, right? I've signed up to sing at a karaoke bar where I was out with a group of friends, unsuspecting love interest included, with the intention of making it very clear that I was singing to just one person. I don't think all of the singing lessons or voice training in the world could have minimized my horror after putting on that performance and jumping off the stage to be greeted by these words from my love interest: "that was - um - sweet of you."

Gone the distance:

I was once dating someone who ended up moving about a 7-hour drive away. I decided to surprise him by taking off work for a week and driving up there without giving him any advance notice. He was, of course, thrilled to see me on his doorstep. And he was thrilled for the next two days (it was the weekend) to be with me. But, once the work week began, I was just some chick hanging out at his house waiting for him to come home, and stressing him out because he knew I was there waiting for him to come home. Not to mention, we had never lived together in the past. And suddenly, we were thrown into a pseudo living together situation, and found out that we needed our own space very quickly. In the end, the grand gesture didn't make us grow closer. It was the beginning of our relationship's demise.

Written a love letter:

There was a time when these were in fashion. But that was a very, very long time ago. I should have realized that before I tried to translate my feelings into a sonnet, with some far-fetched metaphors and some major hyperbole about just how much the person meant to me. The reader basically gulped in discomfort because, well, it's a little difficult to respond in regular English after you've just been written to in actual Old English.

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Who Should Pay on the First Date?

This week whilst organising a date for a new member through the personal matchmaking service, he asked me why separate bills would be given by the venue on the date. I advised him, it was so that neither party felt uncomfortable, or obligated when the bill arrived. But he insisted that I call up the venue and ask them not to do this as he would prefer to the pay the bill himself. I commented on how chivalrous that was of him, his response "I wouldn't have it any other way and would feel extremely uncomfortable letting a woman contribute". This got me thinking that in a day and age of equality and effectively meeting strangers through dating agencies, online dating sites and also via dating events, what's the etiquette when it comes to paying the bill on the first date? Should the man pay? Should the woman pay? Or should you go dutch?

I decided to ask both male and female Tantric Club members for their opinions. Starting with the ladies...

According to Shilpa, when a man asks you out for dinner on a second or third date and does not pick up the tab, she interprets this as a man who can be somewhat selfish and is demonstrating that whilst he can manage his own expenses, he wouldn't necessarily be able to provide for her.

Trusha believes that it is fair to pay her half on a first date, although it is nice when a guy insists on paying. She always offers and if the guy declines, she gracefully accepts, unless she feels that he is being insincere. In which case, she will insist on paying her half so that she does not feel any obligation towards him.

"The last two dates that I have been on, I've picked the tab up!" Seema recently went on two dates set-up by her family, where both guys apparently had forgotten their wallets. "Shockingly, neither of these guys felt embarrassed, or were over apologetic". She met the first guy after work in town for a drink. "Considering that he had been at work all day, surely he would have noticed that he did not have his wallet at lunch time, and had the good sense to at least borrow some money from a colleague". The second guy, when the bill arrived, the waiter placed it in front of him. Seema got her purse out and asked how much she owed with the intention of going halves, he then causally piped up that he had forgotten his wallet so she would need to pay the full bill. Not surprisingly, Seema has asked her mother to lay off the family introductions for a while.

"I gauge how much a guy likes me based on whether he pays the bill on the first date" that's according to Tina. She believes that if a guy does pay the bill then it's likely that he is interested and will ask her to go on a second date.

For Reena, all the long term relationships that she has had, the men have always paid for the first date and the first dinner. "I don't know if this is sheer coincidence but I certainly think that it tells you a lot about a guy's characteristics. For me, when a guy pays on the first date it tells me that he is chivalrous, considerate and knows how to treat a lady. There are a lot of men out there who talk the talk about knowing how to treat a woman but unfortunately, they fail to walk the walk! Let me clarify, I'm not a gold digger and certainly after a guy has made an effort and paid for the first date and dinner, I will reciprocate by organising and paying for the next one. To me, if he shows generosity from the outset, he is likely to be generous with his time and to nurturing a future relationship, you tell me, which woman doesn't want a man like that?"

Over to the men...

According to Hardip, his decision to pay differs according to the circumstances. He is more likely to pick up the tab if he thinks that the date went well and as a means of further impressing his date. However, if he feels that there is unlikely to be a second date, or is neutral about the experience, he will retreat to his fallback position of splitting the bill in an equitable and fair manner. Hardip also believes that the onus should not be on a man to pay for the bill on a first date, especially if he in effect is meeting someone for the first time. He is also cautious of not wanting to cause offence by insisting on paying the full bill, in his own words "it can be seen to be presumptuous as a female may wish to pay her own way. There's no reason to assume she wants a 'stranger' in effect to pay for her portion of the bill".

"Being an old fashioned type of guy when it comes to dating I have no issue in paying. I pay all of the time without exception. I think however, it should be customary for the lady to offer to contribute". Hemant also adds that given that we live in an era of online dating, where you are regularly meeting strangers, as a guideline for anyone who is unsure, you should go dutch on the first 2 dates. But if there is a third date then the man should pay as at this point there is genuine interest to pursue things further.

Nilesh believes that the man should always pay if he is asking a woman out, as it is the gentlemanly thing to do. He also feels that whilst a couple are in the dating phase, it is the guy who decides where the relationship is going, essentially whether to commit, or not and for this privilege it's only fair that he pays. Mitesh, in part shares this sentiment "I would like to think that if I have asked a lady out for dinner then it's only right that I would foot the bill. However, if both of us have decided together to go out for a meal, then depending on how the evening and meal has gone, I would consider the following two options:

1. If it went well and I enjoyed the company I would definitely offer to pay the bill.

2.If we both were under the impression that we had a good evening but there was no chance of meeting again then I am hoping that we would go halves."

For Vikram, if the date costs less than £20, he feels that the man should pay regardless of whether the date went well, or not. However, if the date exceeds £20 and there is unlikely to be a second, he would go halves.

Ash always pays on the first date. According to him "I think the guy should always pay on the first date and for the first dinner because it demonstrates his financial security and stability, and ability to carry out his manly duties should a relationship ensue. Thereafter, it does not matter who picks up the bill..."

The thoughts and experiences of a selection of our members show some interesting and common themes. When the guy picks up the tab, it would appear that he is signalling to the woman that he believes the first date has been successful and that he envisages a second. Women seem to interpret this signal in a similarly responsive way, commenting that this gesture in itself, demonstrates a man's level of interest. Furthermore, the act of a man paying appears to have much more of a symbolic and intangible impact than a monetary one. Women judge the act as a positive indicator of a man's financial stability, nurturing nature and generosity. Therefore, despite living in an era of equality, online dating and singles events, where veritable strangers often meet for dates, if both parties feel that a spark could ignite, the guy is more inclined to pay the bill and the woman is more likely to want him to. This does appear to change over time and women are inclined to take the initiative in both organising and paying for dates. However, the first date appears to be a special case.

So here's some final thoughts - Guys, if you like the woman that you are on a first date with and would like to see her again, paying the bill at the end of the night will score you brownie points. Just to clarify, it's not because she's money motivated, it's simply because by paying the bill (or at least offering to) she believes it speaks positively about your characteristics. That being said, it is still your prerogative and you should not feel pressured, or obligated and only offer to pay the bill when you sincerely mean it.

Women - the reality is that in a day and age of equality when it comes to dating there are still grey areas. In turn some men are conscious that they may offend you, should they practice old age traditions. Therefore, when it comes to paying on a first date, where often you barely know one another, for some men (even if they do like you) the safest option is to go dutch. So don't be too quick to judge him as he could still be a nice guy and is simply demonstrating that he respects you as an equal.

So in answer to the original question of what is the etiquette when it comes to paying the bill on the first date? Be yourself and do what you feel is right - if your natural actions offend or raise concerns for the other person, then maybe it's just not meant to be...

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How to Meet and Pickup on Those 2 Cuties at the Coffee Shop

She's super cute! She's here studying for English! Now, here's the deal... the way we met was easy enough...

She was in the Coffee shop with her cute friend. And all the guys were staring at her/them. But, nobody was approaching them. So, what did I do different?

Well, #1, First of all I wasn't intimidated by the fact that they were super cute and adorable. All these guys were sitting around, looking, staring at them, but didn't approach...

#2 I didn't let social rules stop me. See, this is the number #1 thing that stops most men dead in their tracks. They are so concerned or worried about what other people would think. Or if they older or whatever!

Now, here's one of the Secrets to the female mating system. She will only mate and or date a male who doesn't follow stupid societal rules. And here's why. If it's not a law or it will mean death, then why would you let other people stop you from getting what you want. Now, that's a very, very smart instinct the female mating system has. Her system is looking for a man who goes after what he wants and takes it! Yes, I am dead serious. Now here's why. If you are too afraid to meet a girl in public because some idiot or person or whatever made up some B.S. rule that isn't a law, then her mating system won't mate with you, because then you are just to easy to push off your goals and you don't go after what you want.

Now, think about it! If you are too much of a wimp to actually go after what you want, then you are not man enough to make it in the real world and be able to feed her and the family. In all sincerity, do you see how this works?

There are so many intricate and basic things going on, on the instinctual level, that when it all comes down to it, our mating systems actually are smarter than us when it comes to dating and relationships. All you have to do is get out of your own way and literally follow your heart, because that will unconsciously lead you to the promised land! Yes, I mean that!

So, #1 if you want it, go for it! Just do what I did... I saw 2 cute girls and was like "Oh yeah!" "I'm in!"

#2 I didn't care what the other people in the room thought about me. In fact, one guy who was sitting about 8 feet away, was totally turned and staring at them and actually freaking them out. So first of all, don't ever do that. If you stare at a girl and wait, it will freak her out. Just go up and talk to her. Otherwise, turn away and ignore her. Yes, I am serious.

Now, what I did was, I saw 3 tables were open in their area. And, I broke another unspoken social rule you can find in any good/basic body language book. The normal, polite thing to do would be to sit at the far table or the middle table... Nope! I sat right next to them...

But, what I did next is a little secret or a part of a series of secrets that I do on a regular basis. I pulled the table away from them, only about 6 inches to a foot max, and turned my body away and leaned away from them. And then I took my back pack and then my jacket and put it in between us and literally built it up like I was building a barrier in between us! hahaha... I'm teasing them and confusing them for fun! (Girls like this, this is called The Cat and Mouse game! And women love it! Besides, it's their game, not ours! But they love it when guys interact and play this game for fun! It also shows you have learned this form of polite, social interactions with girls which shows you have a higher intelligence which her mating system is looking for.)

And then guess what I did next? I completely ignored them as I was turned away, reading a book with my legs crossed, which means another barrier is up saying, I don't want to be bothered. (Again, Cat and Mouse Game.)

Now, why do I do this? Why do I do all of these things that tells her/them that I am not interested, I just want to be left alone, etc.?

I do it, because the female mating system is hard-wired to detect desperation. A man who is desperate and practically begging for Love or Attention or a girl is a total turn off, because if this man is desperate, then he must not have social value. And it's all about your social value and how to express this in a way that attracts and turns women on. Yes, Social power, Social communication, Body language literally turn women on!

Now why is this? It's because, her mating system is looking for a man who is valued by society by his very presence in a room full of total and complete strangers! Yep, that's right! Now, why is this? Because, if a man can gain social power and respect in a room full of people, then he will have a better chance at survival and feeding his children, because he can gain more social connections with people and can get favors and help from all the social connections he creates.

So yes, when you see some guys just walk into a room and they just seem to own the room and people just seem to gravitate towards them and give them what they want, there is an actual science to this madness. And the great thing is, you can learn how to do this. It's not that hard once you start to see it!

#3 The next thing that happened, was I casually asked them if they were here from Japan studying English. Because there is a University here and a really good program that helps Asian/foreign students to come here and live with host families for up to 1 year to learn English better as a part of their studies as part of their studies in Japanese Universities.

So, when they said yes, they are here to study English, they said it with a wide-eyed look as to say, "How do you know?" So then I responded with, I have met many Japanese girls from Japan here to study at that same college for the same program.

Now, what did I just do here? It shows familiarity. Now I am not just some total stranger. I am a guy who has met other Japanese girls and obviously made friends with them in the past, because I mentioned a few things about their program and why they were here. And to them it is obvious that it's true because how else could I know? (Now, this is only a light level of familiarity, but it does count.)

And then I dropped the big one. I actually dated a girl from Japan who happened to be in a very similar program, and was also staying with a host family in San Francisco, just like them. So then I pulled out my cell phone and showed her the pictures of her and I hugging, and her kissing my cheek, etc. So, the girls smiled in approval and lit up. (This scores big on the familiarity level with girls and also shows that women like you and go out with you and kiss you! Thus it makes you more valuable.)

They asked about her and how long she stayed, etc. and this sparked up a short conversation for a few minutes. And we laughed, smiled etc. I then realized that I was liked by these girls and that 1 of the girls had chosen me. So once I realized this, I played hard to get and simply said, nice to talk to you and have a good day, enjoy, etc. etc. and then I turned away, crossed my legs and went back to reading... hahaha... (Which raises my Value to them.) I ignore them. hehe...

Now, why am I doing this? Why am I ignoring them? Because it drives women crazy when a guy is "NOT" completely and totally focused on them. hahahaha... its all because women/girls have this thing I call "The Cat and Mouse" function, which is hard-wired, literally into her nervous system and mating system. And when you play hard to get, it triggers her to want to chase you! See! There is a way to get women to chase you instead of you chasing them. In fact, if she is not chasing you, paying for all the dinners and expensive gifts in the world won't do a damn thing!

She literally must be so interested in you that she chases you! And basically, how you do that, is by ignoring her at the right times.

So after a few minutes, maybe 5 or so, I then asked them if they are having fun here in the U.S. and if they are going out to clubs. And they giggled and responded and said, "Yes" and that they mostly enjoy shopping here and have a lot of fun shopping.

Now, what did I do here? I steered or directed the conversations into a fun place simply by asking them if they are having fun here. So their brain has to focus on fun just to understand the conversation.

See, steering a conversation to a positive place is as easy as asking a fun question about fun things or simply talking about interesting, fascinating and or fun things. It's literally that easy and makes you a great conversationalist, which is the #1 thing that turns women on sexually! Yes, conversations, effective communication literally turns women on. The better you get at it, the easier it becomes.

That's why I say, "Meeting girls and turning women on is easy once you know how!" Oh, and it's fun too!

#4 Now, as I was talking to these girls back and forth, I noticed the men in the room were giving me the disapproval look and the almost angry, you're a bad guy look... hahahahaha... I know, he's just jealous.

Now here's the deal, this can and will work in your favor if you do 1 thing. Laugh at them, ignore them. This one guy who like I said before was about 8 feet away was really trying to give me the evil eye and disapproval look and the girls saw it. So, I literally starting smiling inside and almost laughed out loud. I just simply had this shitty grin and inside was laughing, because I knew that his guy didn't have the balls to approach these girls and was mad that I did.

Now, here's the deal. It was very clear that the reason this guy didn't approach, or rather his excuse, was because these girls were in college and he was about 45 and in his mind, he was too old. Now, I am almost as old as this guy and I didn't let any excuse stop me let alone my freaking age.

Hey, it's a free country and I don't let other people tell me what I can or can't do, especially when it comes to social rules or personal values or personal morals, etc. etc. Because, that's their B.S., not yours or mine! And that's a major bonus, to her mating system, when you actually live your life by your values and rules and not some total strangers rules who happens to be in the room.

And, hahahaha... I know something that these guys don't know. Younger girls love, love, love to date older guys! I am serious. It's hard-wired into their mating systems to mate with older guys. There are too many reasons to go over them all right here; such as mother nature knows what she is doing and purposely hard-wired younger women/girls to chase older guys and hard-wires guys to be highly attracted to younger women.

So I am sitting there and I laugh at this guy, rather grin at him and sit back and look around the room confidently, because in my head, I can see all the excuses the guys in this room are using to not approach these 2 beautiful, hot and cute/sexy girls. They were too old or not tall enough or not rich enough, good-looking enough, or whatever their B.S. says. And the worst part, is none of it is true! None of these things are what attracts girls to guys at all...

So, when I looked around and grinned, these girls knew exactly what I was thinking. I don't give a damn what you guys think. You guys didn't approach these girls because you let fear tell you what to do, and I didn't! Thus, the spoils go to the guy who takes it! Period end of sentence.

Now, it doesn't end here.

I then go back to ignoring the girls and even say, "Nice to meet you, have a great day, etc. etc.." And they are slightly shocked and then get up to leave as I go back to turning away and ignoring them.

They slowly walk out and I noticed, they stayed right next to the door, just on the outside as they glanced at me. And again, I ignore them...

And then I noticed the guy in the chair 8 feet away gives me this look like some how he accomplished something because the girls left. I looked up at him and just giggled and shook my head, because, I'm not done yet. Everything is set in play, perfectly!

So, then the girls start to walk to the corner, and then I grab my back pack, go out, grab my bike and then went across the street to meet them and said "Hello!" We chatted for about 5 minutes and the one girl acted like her phone rang, which, it didn't... hahaha.. it was in her purse and there is no way she could have felt it if it was vibrating, and I would have heard that too...

So, I realized that the girl next to me who had then stepped close to me within breaths distance, had probably told the other girl that she liked me and wanted me. So at this point, it's a complete wrap and I chit chat for about 3 minutes and ask her if she wants my number and she hesitated. And then I said, "Do you want to give me your number so I can call you?" And then she lit up and said, "Yes!" hahahaha...

So now, watch this. I purposely asked her to hold onto my hot chocolate, even though she had a cell phone in 1 hand and her drink in the other... hahahaha.. this shows that she is willing to do for you which is a strong sign that she really likes you!

*** Note, Guys, girls do not want to be the one to call you. That's your job!

So then I got her number, saved it. And then was about to leave when she said, "Can you call my phone so I can have your number?" So I again asked her to hold my drink, and again, she complied. Then pulled my phone back out and called her. Then gave her a big hug and took off!

Oh, and yes, the guy in the Chair was outside at this point watching us, and I purposely rode my bike back across the street towards him and raised my Hot chocolate drink towards him as if to say, "That's how you do it!" hahahahaha... That guy was a jealous jerk!

And Off I rode into the sunset knowing I am going to have a great winter playing with this deliciously hot girl through the cold winter nights at my place! hahahahaha...

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How To Text A Girl Like A PUA

If you are trying to date a lot of different attractive women then it is very important that you learn how to text a girl like a PUA (that's short for pick up artist). You see, these days texting is the number one way that people stay in touch with each other.

If your texting skills are sub-par then you are going to be at a serious disadvantage in the dating arena, so take the time right now to read this article and start honing your PUA texting skills.

Here are 3 quick PUA texting tricks that you can start using right now to have better text interactions with the women you are dating or talking to:

1) Be a texter

A lot of guys try to avoid texting because they know that their texting skills are weak and they don't feel confident sending women text messages. Obviously, avoidance is not a good option. Instead, be a guy who texts, and work on improving your text game daily.

2) Don't send boring texts

Sending texts that say thing like, "hey, what's up" is not smooth text game. Any dim-witted sucker can come up with something better than that. Instead, try to put something interesting into the texts that you send. If nothing exciting is going on, talk about something mundane as if it was exciting. For instance, if you are making soup, you could write something like, "Oh girl, this is some slammin' soup I'm making, Wolfgang Puck would be tripping if he tasted this..."

3) Don't text her all the time

Although I just told you that you should work on improving your text game everyday, it is also important not to overdo it and send out too many texts. A big part of being successful with women is maintaining a sense of mystery and intrigue. If a girl knows where you are every second of the day because you are always texting her, she's gonna get bored. So be sure only to text a girl you are casually dating every few days at most. This will also increase the chances that she will text you first more often.

Attractive girls always have at least a few guys who are trying to date them, so it is really important to develop yourself in many ways in order to keep a leg up on your competition.

Texting is one skill that will serve you extremely well in the singles scene these days...

This is important:

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Don't Give Up on Mr Right: Rethinking Your Dating Life So He Can Find You

It doesn't matter if you haven't had a date in what seems like a lifetime or you're out every night on random dates that seem to go nowhere. dating can be a daunting experience. One day you're up. The next day you're down and you're starting to feel like the road to Mr. Right is leading nowhere. Now that people are waiting longer to marry, there can be decades of being single. You're tired of sitting at the kids table at family dinners and searching for a plus one for your party invites. Where oh where is he? Here are 5 tips to keep your mind and perspective on track when all you want to do is give up.

1. Take your eye off the "Relationship Target". Unlike your career, love is not something that you can plan or strategize for. If you're constantly focused on what you don't have, you'll miss out on special moments and quite possibly a great deal of joy and happiness. If you're too focused on finding "him" you're going to put yourself in a constant place of feeling like you're failing at something and that is simply not the reality of the situation. Instead, have a diffused focus. This means, have your eyes and heart open while you are living your life instead of living your life to meet a man.

2. Dating is not a learned behavior. There is too much advice out there telling you to be something different to land a man. This alone is what is keeping many people from finding a significant partnership. To find a great love, you have to be totally and completely YOU. Notice how you are with friends and family. The way you laugh, move, the things you talk about, how you share. Dating is no different! You must be seamless throughout your life.

3. Timing IS everything. Yes, it sounds like a cliché, but I can tell you this is absolutely true from my 12 plus years of experience working with singles and putting couples together. Just do YOUR part. Continue to grow and learn more about yourself by investing in YOU! No, not to make sure you are the perfect package, but rather to know yourself inside and out so that you attract the right partner. Your partner may be just around the corner investing in his life in preparation for meeting you!

4. LOVE your single journey. Yes, that's right. Fall in love with your life. Love is like a magnet that is pulled in the direction of people who are happy and already loving their lives. Celebrate where you are because guess what? Single is a temporary status. It is not permanent even though it may feel that way at times. I met my husband at a time that I wasn't looking! In fact, I was having a blast being single!

5. You are given what you are ready to receive. We all think that love should just be granted to us because we want it. Not so. The universe has a funny way of giving us what we are ready to receive. Most women are wonderful givers but haven't learned the art of receiving. Practice this on a daily basis with people you know and meet. If you haven't met someone yet, give yourself a break and understand that you are being taken care of. The universe can see you and you are not forgotten.

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3 Tips to Show Confidence During Night Game

Whether you like Night Game or not, clubs and bars are great locations to practice your game. You may not find your future wife there, but these kinds of places can definitely help you improve your game fast.

You improve because Night Game is generally more difficult than Day Game.

That being said, the most important aspect you have to develop is your confidence. Your inner game is very important when it comes to attracting women at night. However, there's one little problem: It takes time to build up confidence.

That is why I'm going to show you 3 tips that can help you "appear" confident at clubs even if your inner game is not solid enough.

1. Befriend the bartenders.

Bartenders can help you show social proof automatically. People in general perceive bartenders as individuals who are fun to be around. If anyone sees you shaking hands, exchanging smiles and hugs, or simply getting special treatment from bartenders, they will, consciously or not, assume you are as cool as they are.

This is how you should make friends with bartenders:

• Arrive a bit early at the club.
• Go straight to the bar, introduce yourself, and order a drink.
• Establish a conversation by asking questions like:

o "What are the best days to come to this place?"
o "Does this place get really packed?"
o "How long have you been here for?"

• Tip fairly well. Nothing crazy, just enough for the bartender to remember your face later on.

By following the tips mentioned above you can guarantee that the bartender will at least remember your face throughout the course of the night. A much better strategy is to become a familiar face at your local bar/club, and to get to know not only the bartender but the whole staff. Just be social, say "Hi", and shake hands with everyone who works there. After a couple of visits they will know who you are.

2. Use the Power of "Cheers" and Smiles.

Not only is this a good opener, but also a good way to show others that you are a social and friendly person. Note that you don't have to stay there and have a conversation with people. Simply walk around the venue and do the "cheers!!" while sharing a smile. Do not discriminate anyone but try not to overdo it. This is an opener that should look natural. Depending on the reactions you get from women you can immediately transition into a conversation.

3. Dance

Go to the dance floor and have some fun. You don't have to be a professional dancer or John Travolta in "Grease". Just show everybody you are enjoying the moment.

If you don't know how to dance, keep it simple and just follow the beat. Clap, wave your arms a bit, and smile a lot. Remember, you are having a good time.

Try not to grind women from behind. You can see many guys just coming from behind and putting their penises on women's butts. More often than not, this kind of lame move fails. Women will perceive you as a creepy guy and your social value will decrease. Avoid being the creepy guy around.

Last Thoughts

These are very simple tips you can do tonight at your local club. They don't require a lot of practice or planning, and you can instantly show confidence without doing anything special.

Remember that perceived social value is something women can't resist. Become the social guy everybody loves and girls will certainly make it easy for you.

Need to pracite what you'd just learned? Find your match on a free dating site.

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Discover The Perks of Dating Older Guys

As soon as guys are in their twenties, they try to snag their pretty, drop dead stunning college classmates who seem to have it all, but they find that they cannot compete with the girls' boyfriends - wealthy, gorgeous older men who get it all: cars, luxury villas in the Bahamas and just what the girl may ask for.

Swearing to themselves that they'll own that kind of lifestyle, all these fledgling men do what they can to thrive and excel in the vicious business world only to get to the status of the much older men who almost all younger girls prefer. A lot of these new older men are eager to connect with young women dating older men, exactly the same women they have always dreamed of dating but never did simply because they weren't ready to go out along with such type of girls.

These sugar daddies would be the fantastic bachelors. They are in their thirties, living high and tough because of their economic flexibility and single guys lifestyles. Maybe it's time for you to search for younger ladies dating older guys, don't you believe so?

Undoubtedly, ladies are fascinated by older men. Whilst older would mean much older, this could also be comparative. Younger ladies dating older men will usually seek out maturity and authority. For example, the power to generate their feminine dreams of sunset strolls in a South American shoreline and sexual intimacy sessions underneath the shining sun of an Asian destination. One way of thinking will point out that it won't really make a difference whether the man is the same age group, and just what counts is money. However, fact tells us that it requires a particular age to get exactly where these men plan to be in life. When they get to the stage that they could manage to kick back and relish the company of younger women dating older men, they are usually older than most of these girls.

Younger women are generally interested in getting a prosperous husband or fiancée. They want to ensure their destiny. It takes a year or two of stable faithfulness, and then normally the woman obtains what she worked well for - a great life along with a much older man who can look after her. By this time, the lady believes that she gets him under her control. She has the older man who'll be her support, and he has got the incredibly alluring younger lady who likes him.

Naturally, because she's still who she is, a young lady who wishes to have enjoyment, she rouses herself to discover exactly what she's been lacking. The girl starts seeing her generous sugar daddy's benefits and gifts. She gets her playthings while her older man looks after her. He is not dumb, he is aware of what she's up to, but he is comforted with the particular thought that at the end of the day she will come back to the one that gives her all the good stuff in life that women her age could only dream about.

There will be a time when the younger women dating older men can get exasperated with the much younger lover and breaks up with her. Eventually, the woman knows that whilst her older boyfriend could not offer the fun that is characteristic of her generation, he does give something which the guys her age does not- financial security. They quickly get back together, each one proclaiming to have found the light, and amaze everybody with a wedding. The truth is, they've both been dependent on each other, and that they recognize that one provides the other with something that meets each one's emotional and psychological needs.

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Ice Breakers for Shy Guys Who Want to Meet Women

One of the biggest misconceptions women have is that all people are just full of confidence, are completely comfortable, and have an easy time picking up women, even though this stereotype represents probably less than half of the male population. The interesting thing about this notion is that women in a way are undermining themselves; I can go on record to say that there are a lot more women who have both greater levels of confidence and self-belief, as compared to men. However, moving back to the topic of men, there are many men who just do not have the confidence needed to succeed in life, let alone meet women.

Work with your mirror:)

These types of men have extremely low self-esteem and feel terribly about their ability to do anything successful in their lives. They spend most of their time daydreaming or thinking about all the beautiful women they have come across over their lifetime, but never really having the courage to do anything about it. However, this article will try to help these shy men, by providing them with some very easy to follow tips that will surely change the way they think about themselves. Stop thinking of yourself as not being good enough; rather try to believe in yourself. Forget about all the stuff you have heard over the years about your shortcomings, even though you might not actually have any. Try to be positive and man up. You do not need a shrink or anyone to talk to because shyness is actually a natural occurrence that can be easily treated. Once you are able to look into the mirror and appreciate what you see, then you are only a couple of steps away from breaking the ice and meeting beautiful women left and right.

No Bars

Firstly, do not ever try to pick up women at bars, this only works well in the movies. Bars are probably the worst and last place you will find a woman that you can actually think about dating. They are loud, dirty, and smoky and have many drunken people roaming all over the place. In addition, we all have a good idea of how excessive alcohol can impair our senses, which is one reason why so many men wake up the next morning and say to themselves, "Did I really bring this girl home?" However, what you can do is join some clubs, such as book clubs, movie clubs or sports clubs. Alternatively, maybe joining French or cooking class might be more to your liking. These are great places to find someone you can actually date. However, keep in mind that you need to choose a club or class that is of interest in you, otherwise this method will end up something like the bar experience.

Can you be friends?

Another important tip that a shy person like you needs is to keep in mind is that not every girl you meet should be thought of as your girlfriend. Instead, take your time and develop a friendship with her so you can get to know her somewhat better. Eventually, a certain level of comfort will be developed between you two, which will make it easier for you to make your move and the element of trying to impress her disappears. Trying to impress someone never really works because you usually have to act like someone you are not. Be yourself and you will see how things get better and in no time your shyness will turn into full on confidence.

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Moving On After Divorce: Three Tips To Tell The Kids You Are Dating Again

Moving on after divorce is harder than it looks. There is so much feeling at stake when a married couple decides to get divorced. It is correct that you have actually earned the right to feel down. However you need to bounce back into life at some point in time. What had happened is difficult for you and your kids and for those people who are also involved in what you are going through. Once you are ready to date again, you need to talk with your kids heart to heart.

This is a very sensitive issue no matter how old your children may be. They may be but still the same amount of sensitivity and care should be there when you decide to tell them you want to start dating again.

Love Them And Love Yourself

Your kids are more clairvoyant of how you feel better than you actually know. They can tell if you are happy or if you are in pain. After what they have been through, they are smarter now. That is why it is best that you let them know that you are doing much better than before. Show them that you are happy just being yourself and being with them. Show them that you can still care for them even if you are not together with their dad. They look up to their parents as people who are strong. Being happy and contented even without a man in your life will make them see that you are a strong woman and they will love and appreciate you more.

Divorce is a critical matter. For sure you have lots of things going on in your life. But you have to find it in your heart to think not only of how you are feeling but also what your kids are feeling. Begin bonding with your kids as early as now. Make them feel loved and important. Make them feel they are part of your life. This will make them feel safe, secured and loved. So when the time eventually comes that you will tell them you are ready to go out and meet other people, hostility will be far from their minds.

Be Sure You Are Ready To Date

It is not necessary that you introduce your kids to every guy that you date. But introduce them to the person you are really connecting with. Take your time and make sure that you pick the right time to introduce the guy you are currently seeing to your kids.

The Talk

Having heart to heart talk with your kids is effective. Be certain that before you do anything, have "the talk" with your kids. Explain to them that you are going to be seeing friends soon but it doesn't mean that they are not important anymore and if they do not agree with what you are planning they should say so you'll be able to answer their concerns. Let them know that you are not looking for somebody to trade their dad or anything like that. Make them understand that whatsoever it is that you'll be doing, they will always be on the top of your priorities.

Moving on after split up is fierce but it can be harder if you do not play it right, especially when it comes to your kids. Make them feel important and loved from the very beginning and you'll see that everything will work out from there. Be frank and be very careful about your conduct when dating again. It may be a harsh reality but you now have kids to think about.

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You're Single and Dating - 1 Simple Step You Can Take to Feel Good About Being Single

You're single. You're dating. One single step to take you to the next level.

So here you are. You're a hot single independent woman. Did you think that you would still be single now? Seriously? Did you think you would be married or at least partnered up by now with the man of your dreams? Well I thought I wouldn't be single for this long, but guess what? I'm so glad I am single. It has been so much fun and has played a big part in my development and learning to let go of control. Let me tell you something: you are also one lucky single mamma. Dating is a playground for you to figure things out.

Being single is awesome until you're ready to not be single. You could be with someone who drives you crazy and almost scares you out of your pants when your riding shotgun in their fancy sports car. You could be married to the guy who sees you as an object like one of his cars or his other toys. He could see you as a Barbie doll girlfriend just to impress the neighbors. Yuck.

You could be in a relationship and still feel alone and totally unhappy. You could be in an fulfilling relationship with someone who doesn't respect you, love you, take you out to dinner, buy you flowers or acknowledge your existence. You could live with a sports fanatic or a couch potato. You could be with someone who is totally lazy. One guy I was dating was complaining that he couldn't get on welfare. Ladies, please steer clear of this kind of guy, unless you want to be his mommy and pay for everything.

Or you could be dating a guy who has a gambling problem or drug problem. He could be a porn addict. He could have long toenails and wear sandals. Or he could wear socks with sandals, I don't know what's worse. You could be with someone who sucks you in and scares you with verbal, emotional, or even physical abuse.

You are blessed to be in such an empowering time for women. You are blessed to be single. Because women can live independently without needing a man. In the horse and buggy days, women and men needed each other just to survive. Women and men were totally dependent on each other. Women needed to stay home raise the children and make dinner, while their partners went out to kill a deer or build a barn. But not anymore.

We can work at a job, take our kids to daycare, and arrange play dates for our kids so we can go on dates. We can put on our cute boots, go to the store and pick up any kind of food we want. Or we can get takeout. We can hire a handyman to fix the leaky faucet or watch videos on YouTube and learn to fix it ourselves. We can help ourselves all day long.

But there are also helpful men everywhere, and women. Now I love to receive. I didn't know how to receive for a long time, I only knew how to give. Now I have some muscly guy friends, who I've gone on dates with, who have become friends that help me install my window unit air conditioner or jump start my car if I leave the lights on.

There are men everywhere ready to give to you, even if you're not interested in them romantically. There are men who open doors for you, and let you go first in line at the coffee shop. There are guys who will vacuum your car when you get your oil changed. We are independent, but we don't have to be totally independent.

Independence is better than dependence any day. But we are at a time in our single lives that calls for interdependence. When you are interdependent it shows that you are an evolved woman. This is key to having mature relationships. We can still make dinner, but we don't have to. We can let someone make us dinner, or pick it up for us. We can live independently and share our time with someone without being in control of everything.

Finding this balance for independent single women can be a struggle. I went from dependent as a child to still sort-of dependent with my husband, to divorced, successful and independent. When I got back out there and started dating, I didn't know how to be interdependent. I would sometimes fall back into dependence and put my whole world upon a man. Interdependence is beautiful.

I used to do temporary tattoos and do face painting at festivals. I would to set up a pop-up tent and I was in business. And it was MY business and I didn't need any help. I was dating a guy for a very short time, who went with me to one of my events. He wanted to set up the tent, but he was having problems, so I was "helping" him by telling him what to do. What he heard was "Are you so stupid, you can't even set up a pop-up tent?"

This didn't go over so well. He became frustrated and ended up walking away. If I would have let him figure it out on his own, and let go of control, things would have been much smoother. It might have taken longer to set up my booth, but he would have felt like a man, and not emasculated. I was so used to doing things my way, which was much more efficient, but I ended up making him feel wrong, and I ended up with no help, independent once again because didn't want to let go of the steering wheel.

One of my favorite quotes is " You can either have love, or be right." What would you rather have?

There was a time when women had a small tribe of men to choose from, or was it the men had a small pool of women to choose from? Dating in the modern world is so amazing, because the selection of single people is enormous! The world is your oyster and you are the shiny pearl that everyone wants. Just get online, set up a profile, and you will see, there are literally hundreds (if you're in a small town) or thousands (if you're in a big city) of single people that you could potentially meet and go out with. The possibilities are endless, open and exciting.

When you think about the grand scheme of things, we have plenty of blessings we can, write down and appreciate every day. Showing appreciation for the things you already have in your life will open other doors. I want to get you going on this gratitude list. Because when you take a few minutes to write down the things you are thankful for, it will help you feel good and put you on a spiritually higher vibration.

Everything in our life is connected, so the gratitude we have for other things in our life, will trickle down and boost our self-esteem, self-worth and overall good feelings about everything about ourselves and around us. If we take time to appreciate the things we have our lives will become even more full and meaningful. This is what we want to discover.

Take a moment and check in with yourself. On a scale of 1-10, how do you feel with 1 as not so good and 10 being the best. Now, I want you to grab a pen and a piece of paper and get started on your gratitude list. Then rate yourself and see how you feel. I have a sneaking suspicion that your number will increase!

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Step Towards Dating and Making It Great

dating requires some steps that should be followed to make your date perfect and great. The first and foremost thing that should be kept in mind while dating is that don't leave a bad impression on the other partner. To get the right step while dating is very important. Here are some tips while you are doing conversation with the other partner:

1. Plan your dates in advance: You should plan your date in advance. It is always better to plan the date in advance so that there is no chance of mistake. This assures that you are taking a good step towards the dating. This step will definitely help you because it gives you a sigh of relief that you don't get confused at the time of going for outing for date.


2. Work on Your Communication: It is always an advantage for us to have a good communication skill so that you can convey your message in a better way to the other partner i. e can convey the message exactly as you want to say in a better way. Having good communication skill also help you in leaving a great impression on the other partner.


3. Don't Expect too much from other: Don't expect too much from your partner because this may lead you to disappointment. Expecting too much from the other partner is not good because if you don't get it you may hurt yourself mentally and this will create a misunderstanding between you and your partner by pertaining different image of the other partner and can mislead your relationship to other way.


4. Become a right person: if you'll focus on becoming the right person, instead of finding the right person, (i. e. staying on the road by "seeking first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness"), the Lord likely will bring along someone who far surpasses your little checklist. If you are satisfied with yourself then definitely you will find true love. If your image on the other partner is of right person then it will definitely help you in a great way and can lead you towards the great date and relationship.


5. Have excellent opinions about love: You should have great thoughts about love and try to express them to your partner. Don't ever express any cheap thoughts about love whenever you are going to start any relationship or if you really want to start dating. Your image which is portrayed in the mind of other partner should be of a good person not a person who is just passing time with you.

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So, You're a Girl - And More Idiotic Pick Up Lines

Occasionally it's actually tough to be single. I was at a local bar 1 or 2 days ago and a guy walked up to me and said I'm hoping there's a fire fighter around because you're smokin'. Please. Don't try so very hard. This isn't easy for us either. We have about 5 seconds to figure out if you could be the individual we've been trying to find all our life, or just another guy who wants yet another fast score. These cheesy pick up lines don't make it any easier to work out who the heck you are.

What has 150 teeth and holds back the incredible hulk? My zipper?

See what I mean. How am I supposed to work out who you really are when you open with a line like that? What if we begin dating and it turns into something special? Do you truly want our how did you two meet story to start with that line? I suspect not. So, I must presume any guy opening with that line is looking for one thing, and incidentally, it's not available.

I'm hoping you know CPR, as you are taking my breath away.

And, why are they called pickup lines anyhow? Is that your final goal, to pick up a girl? Pick up and what? So, girl pick up lines for guys, in my view, never need to be clever or clever. And for sure, they never should be purchased and paid for like the ones I just mentioned. The web is full of sites with hundreds of these one liners. The 1st time you read thru them, I must admit, they are a little funny. But as fast as a girl hears one in a bar they turn from funny to pathetic.

These are some of the most pathetic:

• Excuse me, but you have a beep on your nose. What? (Reach up and gently squeeze her nose) BEEP!
• Excuse me, I'm a little short on cash, would you mind if we shared a cab home together?
• Pardon me miss, I seem to have lost my phone number, could I borrow yours?
• Do you have a boyfriend? [No] Want one? [Yes] Well, when you want a MAN friend, come and talk to me.
• I'd marry your cat just to get in the family.
• No, I'm not a cop. What can I get for fifty bucks?
• I've gotta thirst, baby, and you smell like my Gatorade.
• My friend and I have a bet that you won't take off you blouse in a public place.
• I know I don't look like much now, but I'm drinking milk.
• Did you clean your pants with Windex? I can practically see myself in them.
• I only wish you were DSL, so I could get high-speed access.

So, should I give you some opening lines that truly might work? As a girl that spends a Saturday night once in a while at a local bar, I am going to say that offering to get a girl a drink will work with the right girl. The problem's lots of my friends will take the drink and run. So I understand your concern with this approach. what about when she is saying sure then you say lets grab a table and talk, Sick get the waitress to bring us a couple drinks. What are you drinking.

If she just wants the drink, shell blow you off. If she accepts, great things could happen.

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From Men to Women: Dating Tips You Can Trust

When it comes to dating and making the first approach, often men are expected to make the first move as opposed to women. Although women nowadays are beginning to change this stance by making the first approach.

Women do not need to overdo their actions just to please men. Men most likely want women to be themselves than pretend to be someone else. During the first date, men tend to be observant from noticing the woman's hairstyle to the outfit and fingernails. The first impression, although it literally does not last, is the initial step in getting to know a person. Women normally spend a lot of time on their outfit and look, from clothes to make up and men are easily impressed if they know that their date is making an effort. Attractive women are more likely to draw more attention from men, which will increase their chances of a second date.

Although physical attraction does not last, it's a good start in attracting a mate. The next thing to do would be to get to know each other's personality. Time should be spent getting to know the other person as well as letting your date know a bit more about yourself. Be careful not to get carried away talking about a particular topic that your date might not be interested in, a key point to avoid this is to monitor their reactions. Asking questions is good for conversation as it not only shows an interest in your date but it allows your date to talk about themself and you will learn more about their personality.

Reading and portraying positive body language is also very important on a date. For instance, if you sit there with your arms crossed, it sends out a negative and closed off image that your date will not respond well to. The best body language will involve having an open and confident look including sitting up and having open arms. At the same time, by reading your date's body language you will be able to judge how well the date is going and change conversation topics if necessary.

If you feel that things have gone well, when it comes to the end of the date you may wish to consider asking for another date. However, it is not necessary to agree this immediately after the date and you can choose to leave it a day or two. People often try to play it cool and will try not to be the one to make the first contact after the date but there is no need to hide the fact that you like your date and would like to see them again.

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Advice for a Broken Heart Don't Give Up

A broken heart can ache to an extent where you may want the earth to just open up and swallow you, but with advice for a broken heart you should be able to move past your pain in the a short amount of time and carry on with life. Whereas this may seem as an uphill task at first, getting over a breakup can be as easy as learning your ABC's. The key to getting over heartbreak entails recognizing what a broken heart really is. As you comprehend the pains that led to your breakup, the simpler it will be for you to heal from a broken heart and get on with what life has to offer.

Discussed herein are different ways to get over a break up:

The first advice for healing your heart is to put all that heartache behind you and carry on with your life. The more you continue to wallow in that pain, the more power you are giving the power to the individual who inflicted the pain.

Unknown to some folks is that the best way to get over heartbreak is to get on with your life. It is important for you to start developing a relationship with yourself. Get involved in things that you love doing, such as, sports, hunting or dancing.

The biggest mistake that most people make immediately after a breakup is, wanting to not get out and socialize. This is the greatest mistake you can ever make. Whereas, you should not be bitter enemies, you need to remain friends.

In any breakup, grief is a process that each person has to go through. But, it is vital to also understand that wallowing in grief is also not healthy.

The next best advice for a break up is for a person to outline their real purpose. For instance, are you intending on getting back with your ex or do you want to move on and forget about your ex? It is next to impossible to get over heartbreak if you cannot come to terms that the relationship is over.

Last but not least, the best advice for a broken heart is to be choosy with your friends. You need to hang out with people who will encourage you to get out and start meeting people again and chances are you will start to focus on the good. You will need encouragement now, so find friends that are uplifting to you in every way.

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First Date Essentials You Need to Make a Great First Impression

Going out on a first date can be nerve wrecking. There are so many things to be nervous about. What will you talk about? What will you wear? Where will you go? These types of issues can definitely cause anxiety but if you keep several first date essentials in mind, you can make the experience a very pleasant one. Let's take a look at some of the most important things that you should take care of before even meeting your date.

• Hygiene - This goes without saying but still important to review. If you wear cologne or perfume, don't over do it. Oral hygiene is a must. Floss, brush, and use mouthwash. Also chew gum or pop a mint right before meeting up. Keep gum or mints handy for after meals or when your mouth feels dry. If you think you have bad breath, you probably do so don't risk it.


• Dress the part - You want to look your best so depending on the venue, be sure to dress appropriately. If you are doing fine dining, dress your best. If it's casual be comfortable but neat. Presentation is everything. Wear clothing that makes you feel confident.


• Eat safe food - This means avoid food that may upset your stomach. Good examples are typically dairy based products or spicy food. If you know something may upset your stomach later, skip it all together. You don't want an upset stomach breaking your focus on getting to know your date.


• Carry enough cash - It is never safe to assume that your date will pay for everything. Always offer to pay all, if not all. Chances are your date will pick up the bill or at least offer to go half-and-half. If your date pays, offer to buy coffee or dessert.

It's also essential to be good at keeping a conversation going. There will be periods of awkward silence but keeping them to a minimum is easy. All you have to do is continue to ask questions. Keep in mind that most people truly enjoy talking about themselves. Ask the right questions and you can have hours of good conversation. Here are some topics that work well:

• Family life
• Childhood
• Career
• Travel
• Goals and aspirations
• Sports
• Physical fitness
• Food
• Favorite hangouts

Keep your conversation light. Don't drill your date with questions. When you feel the need to ask something, then ask. Also, don't be afraid to voice your opinion or share your experience. Your date should want to get to know you just as much as you are wanting to know her/him.

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How to Cancel a Date Without Being Rude?

Say you fixed a date with a chap whom you thought might be interesting but as it turns out, while the time to meet him nears, you seem to lose interest in him and you are not looking forward to the so-called romantic date. You want to call him up and tell him right away "I am not interested in dating you. So don't waste your time showing up yourself in that stinking t-shirt of yours". Okay, may be not so rude but at least the truth is you don't want to date someone in whom you don't have the slightest interest at all.

What you can actually do is:

• Call him up and moan that you are having a tummy bug which needs immediate attention. Sound like you are in deep pain so much that he almost feels it. Also let him know you are sorry but that there is nothing you can do about it.


• Leave a message on his phone that your parents or your boss dropped by your side out of nowhere and that you are with them right now which is why you cannot make it up for the date and also can't pick up calls.


• If you are staying at a considerable distance from his place where climatic factors differ, inform him that it suddenly started pouring cats in your locale and that there is no way you can drive through water.


• And the last one which may sound a little out- of- the way but still, it can happen to any of us. Tell him there is water block in your house and that it may take hours to fix. The least he might think is that you are making it up but then he can't supply water and make you come for the date!


• If you really can't think of anything else, the least you can do is call the person and let him know that it won't work out because you are not interested. It will offend him but people move on all the time.


• Never ignore a date because that sounds even more rude than a "No". Always inform the other person why you wouldn't want to continue meeting him. A sign of gentleness won't do any harm.

Try the above and see if you succeed in cancelling the date which you are not looking forward to at all and that too without being impolite.

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Dating After Divorce: Life After Death of a Marriage

If you have been out of the dating scene for quite a few years though it can be quite daunting getting back out there. In this article I will offer some advice on how to get back into the dating scene after divorce.

• The first thing that you need to do is make sure that you are completely over your ex and are ready to move onto that next stage of your life. Many people feel like a failure when their marriage ends in divorce and if you still feel this way then it will be difficult to move on with a new relationship. So it is important to have resolved any issues that you might still have over your divorce before moving onto a serious relationship with someone new.


• You also don't want to rush into a new relationship too soon after a divorce. Rebound relationships very rarely work as they are started with the wrong reasons behind them. Wait until you have gone through all the 'grieving' stages of your divorce and are in a healthy state of mind before dating after divorce.


• Another reason you want to be completely ready to move on is that if you are still hung up on your ex you are likely to talk about them a lot or even compare your new boyfriend or girlfriend to your ex. When you start dating someone the quickest way to turn them away is to continually talk about your ex.


• When you do venture out onto a date with someone, go out with a positive attitude and just enjoy yourself. Don't be too nervous about having been away from the dating scene for so long, it doesn't matter, just go out and have a good time. I'm sure you aren't in a big hurry to replace your ex and settle down again, so it doesn't matter if you don't meet Mr. Right on the first date you go on. Enjoy yourself until Mr. Right comes along.


• If you have children, particularly young children, then you also need to consider their needs when you start dating after divorce again. Having children doesn't mean that you should never date and meet someone else; you are entitled to happiness also. However, you need to protect them and consider their feelings, so dating when you have children is a bit more involved than dating as a single person.

Since it can be quite scary dating after a divorce, try to enjoy yourself and not think about meeting your next husband or wife. Enjoy the company of another person and when the time is right you will meet the right person and you will know it when it happens.

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Are You Under His Thumb?

In spite of the fact that we are living in a world where both males and females have equal chance of leading successful lives and careers, women are still enduring power struggles with their significant others and always battling for control in their dating lives.

It doesn't matter how sweet or how empathetic a man is, some of these men are still trying to control their women despite the fact that we live in a liberal society.

Why is that you may be asking? Why are so many men still hung up on turning their ambitious and goal-driven girlfriends and wives into homemakers and baby-poppers? Is it because they were taught to be the providers in family? Is it to reassure their women that they are all they need in life? Or perhaps it's to make sure they don't get bored of them. The reasons are endless, unnecessary and inevitable in today's world.

Every day, women give up their independence and freedom to hang out with their single ladies and to pursue their own goals in order to please their insecure men. They give up their rights to live happily because of the fact that they are taken care of their boyfriends and husbands that bring home the bacon instead of having the strength to leave their controlling relationships. They sit back and accept the fact that a man's status determines the status of their relationships instead of fighting back.

It is important to negate what you were taught as a child. Women shouldn't have to be defined by their sexuality and men should put their egos aside and realize that they don't have to be the ones with the financial responsibilities in the relationship.

We live in a time where women get credit, vote, get a higher education and raise children out of wedlock without being condemned for their actions. However, women are still suffering when it comes to self-perseverance. Unfortunately strong-minded women suffer the most because of this and it is simply because independent women who are able to take care of themselves frighten the sh*t out of men.

If more women could learn how to control their own romantic relationships and lives, they would learn how to fight. They would learn how not to be so insecure and they would KNOW when to leave.

Overcome your fears and insecurities and take control of your life now!

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Are You Texting at Dinner?

Cell Phone Texting On a date Walking Into Restaurant

My husband Chuck and I went to D.O.C.G. in Las Vegas for dinner recently, arranged by a friend. Have you noticed that the best dinner experiences are those shared with close friends?

We had just ordered a salad and looked up to see an attractive couple walking in. What was curious was that the husband was texting intently while walking into the restaurant. He was not looking up except to check his steps every few seconds. His wife was several steps behind him also texting or emailing with her phone getting all of her attention --she almost ran into a table where another couple was eating dinner.

No Texting - Converse and Share with Each Other at Dinner

Be grateful if no one at your table has their cell phones in hand. Enjoy each other's company, talking and sharing stories. It will be a more satisfying and very fulfilling night of connection and enjoying the company of close friends.

Technology has made our lives very convenient. My experience is that technology adds a barrier to love, connecting, face-to-face sharing (even with the advent of social media), and communication. People are addicted to their phones, iPads, etc....including me!

Living without Cell Phone or Texting for a Day

A few weeks ago, I had a full day of scheduled client appointments. I left home to meet a couple having communication problems in their relationship and wanting some tools to help them stop reacting to each other's words.

Upon arriving at the couple's home, I noticed my phone was missing. I experienced about five seconds of sheer panic and a short-term satisfying thought of going back home to retrieve it even though that would make me late for my appointment.

Sanity set back in when the sixth second struck. I knew where and when to be that day and more importantly, the awareness that I could do without my phone for a day. I was very attached to my cell phone and decided to change that habit. Now, I only check my phone a few times a day instead of every few minutes.

Are You Addicted to Your Cell Phone?

Cell phones have ring tones, so when you are available to speak or text, your phone let you know someone has contacted you. This allows you to be free and not chained to your phone.

And if you are not available, your cell phone lets me know who called or emailed or texted - and it takes the same amount of time to respond now or later...there's no difference. Don't let technology get in the way of your human, face-to-face connection.

Are you addicted to your cell phone?

What if we felt the same way about our partners as we do about our cell phones?

What if we gave our partners the love and acceptance and attention we give our phones?

What if the time we spent tuning and customizing our cell phones to our likes could also be spent working on our relationships to find mutual solutions to make our relationships more fulfilling and loving?

If you or your partner has this habit, work out a mutual agreement when you spend time together to turn off your technology and turn on each other!

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Attracting The Opposite Sex Secrets

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One of the questions that many of us ask when talking about love is "how to attract women and men". This is one question that many would love to answer but truth is, not all of the advice would work for everyone. So to help you understand the secret on how to attract women and men, here are a few important tips.

You need to understand that there is really no answer to the question "how to attract women and men". However, there are certain things that you can do to better yourself and higher your chances on that one person you have an eye on.

One thing you can do to attract that person you like is to talk to them. Do it in a casual way and befriend them. If you are a girl, do not be make it obvious and never make him think that you are aggressive. If you are a guy, start being extra gentleman on her to express your interest. First impression does matter so remember to be nice and approachable.

Another thing that would attract many is humor, especially for men. Women love men who can make them smile and laugh. They want someone who can brighten their day and same way with the men. They like women who know how to make them feel better.

Another straightforward answer to the question how to attract women and men is to always look presentable. Others would not really want to hang out with someone who looks like he just got up from bed. Try to always look good wherever you go and you will notice how you can attract more and more friends who can potentially be your lover.

Another good thing to possess is knowledge. Being knowledgeable is a plus for everyone. A person who is very knowledgeable and fun to be with is like the perfect package. You don't need to be a genius or anything alike. All you have to learn about is the important things and what's going on around you. For example, the latest news, politics, economy and things like that.

You also want to impress others with how humility. The humble get praised and the cocky goes to waste. Never show arrogance at any time. Nobody likes self-absorbed people so if you really want to attract more friends, never be an egotistical person.

If you think you are okay with dealing with other friends but you just can't get that one girl or boy to notice you, here are a few things that you can do. First, try to spend to him or her as much as you can but never made him or her feel that you are too interested. A little mystery would make them feel like they want to hang out with you and know you more.

Also try to make a good impression when you talk. If you really like him or her, try your best to be as friendly as you can, show a little interest but leave them wanting more. That is the secret to how to attract women and men.

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Are You A Manstigator On Dates?

For those of you who don't know what a manstigator is, allow me to deconstruct the essential elements.

A manstigator is someone who thinks he is so perfect in every way, that he will spend an entire conversation talking about how great he is, how much everyone likes him, and how the world would be such a boring place without him. So what about the "stigator" part of manstigator?

Not only does this man think he is perfect, he will also get on the phone with you and start asking you questions. He'll describe how the woman he selects needs to be perfect in every way. Then he'll ask you questions about how you would act and what you would do in certain situations to see whether you match up with this criteria.

The manstigator that The Sultry Brunette met grilled her for hours about her religious beliefs, how she handled stress, her organizational skills, her temperament, her diet, her exercise habits, her measurements, her feelings on gender roles and... many more things that would take up way too much room in this blog.

Another manstigation tactic is to try and make you think you would be lucky to be selected by him by asking you questions that use versions of negs. He may ask you things like "Are you always so nervous around good-looking men?" and "Do you always repeat yourself so much like that?" By the time you are finished talking to this manstigator, not only are you completely turned off by him but you also wonder how many women have been subject to the manstigation.

Taken aback by his caveman-like behavior, you decide to do a little research. You type in "manstigator anonymous" into the search engine where you find other women who have been tortured by manstigators.

If you are a manstigator, I guarantee you are alone 90% of the time... until you find someone who is so insecure that they are willing to put up with your manstigation every day. If you are a manstigator, you really need to learn how to be a man, i.e., someone who has embraced himself and is accepting of other people for who they are.

Now as for you women of the blog, you're not off the hook quite yet. By now, you're probably LOLing. By the way, what is an "LOL?" I know it stands for "laugh out loud," but is there is a BOL (belch out loud), an SOL (smile out loud), or a COL (crying out loud)? This blog, however, is not about the LOLers, the SOLers or the BOLers.

What about the female manstigator, aka the femstigator? She is usually the woman who comes at you with equally annoying questions like "Will you still love me after I have kids and put on 100 lbs?" and "What happens if I'm in a car crash and I lose my limbs? Will you still love me then??"

I'm not making this stuff up. I have had women say things like this on a first date. Pretty fun for a first date, huh?!

I've even had a femstigator ask me this: "If I was on vacation for a month without you, would you be able to refrain from having sex?" I've never even had sex with her. I told her "I don't even know what sex will be like with you, but I've certainly had a month with out sex before and survived." Stupid question from a femstigator!

Bottom line: Don't interrogate somebody. Just talk with them and get to know who they are.

All these ridiculous scenarios are just a waste of time. You are not perfect, and you have no right to interrogate someone either on the phone whom you've never met nor on a first date.

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Some Good Flirting Tips For Guys

You can't possibly show a girl that you are interested in her, without flirting a little. The ability to flirt right is not always easy. Probably this is the main reason why guys find it so hard to get the girl of their dreams, even though they possess all the qualities that an ideal girl looks for.

Use indirect language as far as possible. Here beating around the bush will work. Being too straight forward will come across as too predictable and boring. Hence, you got to play smart here. Use body language to communicate. Girls like boys who have a warm smile that reaches their eyes. However, if you don't just want to come across as the sweet boy next door, this is not enough.

Try to make your smile as inviting as possible. Now use your eyes to your advantage. Look in her eyes in the right way and you can make her fall in love with you. Maintain eye contact when she is talking to you. Make her laugh and you can make her do anything. Girls love guys who can crack them up. Good sense of humor is always a turn on. Compliment her often, but not always. Come across as a romantic at heart. Girls will never be able to resist this. If you are a good dancer, use your talent. Ask her to dance sometime. If you are a great singer, you can sing a song to her.

It's never too bad to show off your talents once in a while. Use witty charming funny lines to crack her up and compliment her once in a while. Something like, 'You have got such beautiful eyes, I could stare at them all day long. But hey I'm not exactly checking you out, it's your eyes that I'm interested in.' Whatever you say or do, make sure you do it confidently. Confidence is your best friend. Always keep it right close to you.

The best tip that one could ever give you is, be genuine. No matter what you do or say, never seem fake. Girls can see right through a guy who's not acting himself. A dishonest guy is an instant turn off. So say something like you mean it and do something wholeheartedly. Practice is the best key. You obviously wouldn't get it right the first time. However as you try and keep trying, you just keep getting better and better with time.

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