How to Gain Favor With Your Date's Difficult Children

Do your date's children drive you crazy? Are they putting up a wall every time you make an effort and are they making things extra difficult for you every time you try to get close to their mom/dad? The first thing to mention is that you should never let this affect your relationship with this person. The children are doing what children do. They are driving you crazy so that you will leave and eventually their family will get back together. We all know that that isn't going to happen, but they don't know that and they will continue to try to push you away until they finally get their way. It's your job to work with their parent to make sure they don't get their way. And make sure you shower them with kindness all the way.

Kids Will Be Kids

From little ones to teenagers who should know better, kids can be real tyrants when they want to. You may come over for dinner and the kids may ignore you or they may tell you, "You're not my real mom/dad."

The thing to do in this situation is just smile. Don't let it bother you. And make sure the parent doesn't discipline the child for dissing you, even if it's blatant and mean. The more negative attention you pour on the situation, the worse the situation will get.

If you ignore the problem and just use kindness to diffuse any nastiness that comes your way, you will all have a better time and it's likely the kids will lose their motivation to keep pushing your buttons before long.

The less attention you commit to the children acting out this way, the less impact you'll have on the entire situation. You need to remember that you are here to date the parent. If things go well, those kids will be a big part of your life. They will eventually come around. Make sure you smile, let things roll off your back and everything will work itself out.

One more thing to note is that you should never find yourself bribing the children. This may seem like it's the best way to get in good with the little ones of this person you're trying to get to know better. However, if you bribe them now, they may expect bribes later on. Then you may find them acting up just to get something out of the deal.

All you need is kindness and those kids will come around before you know it.