A bad relationship can make life very difficult. When you get together with someone and that relationship turns sour, it's soul draining, oftentimes money draining and it can derail most other elements of your life if you let it. The bottom line is that bad relationships are bad news and they should be avoided at all costs. Yet too many people get stuck in these types of relationships. Nobody expects to get involved with the wrong person or for the wrong reasons. It just happens. But you can do something about it. You can avoid bad relationships by knowing how to act and by knowing what to look for. Let's look at some ways you can avoid getting involved in bad relationships so that you can find more fulfilling relationships with great people.
Qualify Your Dates
Most people get into bad relationships because they ignore red flags or they get so lonely they end up settling for someone they never would have considered dating just a few months prior. Don't get into this type of situation. Make a pact with yourself that you will never date anyone that [Blank]. Whatever that blank might be, stick to your guns. The wrong person may come along and you need to know how to spot that person. It could be a certain behavior, it could be a physical characteristic, it could be a moral issue or anything else important to you. If you qualify everyone you date, you'll never find yourself in a bad relationship ever again.
Pay Attention to Red Flags
When your date or significant other behaves in a certain way that shocks you, don't just let it go. You need to discuss it. If you are dating someone who you think is super-conservative and suddenly you find out that they're going to strip clubs and doing cocaine till three in the morning, that's obviously a problem. You need to learn to recognize red flags and you cannot just ignore them. Even if it's something as simple as bad manners, these red flags are telling you a lot about the person you're dating. Learn to pay attention.
Don't Be Afraid to Walk Away
Most people who are in bad relationships know full-well that they are in such a situation, they're just too far too gone, or at least that's how they feel about it. Some couples have been together so long that they can't fathom being single again. So they keep living out the bad relationship, knowing that it's tearing them both part mentally and physically.
You must be able to walk away the moment you notice the relationship going south. That way there will be less emotional or financial strain on either of you.
A bad relationship is never a good situation to get into. Avoid it with these tips and always be ready to leave the moment the relationship no longer serves you. If everyone learned to do that, bad relationships would probably be a thing of the past.
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