What If You Join a Site But Cannot Find Anyone To Date?

I have talked to many guys who have joined a dating site at one time or another and haven't really seemed to have much luck at all when it comes to actually finding someone to date and if that has happened to you, you might feel like dating sites are worthless for meeting women. I know what that feels like. I remember the very first time I joined a dating site, my experience was pretty dismal and it left me feeling like there was no sense in trying to meet anyone online.

That did change for me. I did find a way to reap some success from dating sites, as I realized that I had been going about it the wrong way without knowing it.

Here are some things that I realized that help change things for me and give me a new outlook on dating sites in general:

1) Choosing the wrong site to join can be one of the biggest mistakes that you can make.

Back when I first tried online dating, I joined some site that I had never really heard of, but came across through some ad of some sort. It was one of those ones that use pictures of really sexy women and that was what I was foolishly expecting on the other side. What I found was that it was so small in membership size, there were only a couple of women in my area and let me tell you, they looked nothing like those sexy women in the ad.

2) Hoping that the right woman will find you is another big mistake you don't want to make.

I also used to have this idea that the right woman would somehow just happen to come across my profile and want to get to know me. What I found is that is kind of like going to a packed club and standing in the corner and expecting one of the hottest women there to just pick you out of the crowd and want to dance with you. It just doesn't happen. You have to make the move and contact women who interest you.

3) Using the wrong picture can give off the wrong impression.

I am not much of a party type, at least, not anymore. I used to be. When I first joined a dating site, I used a picture of myself that suggested I was the party type. So, the kind of women I would be interested in were turned off by that photo because it gave off the wrong impression about myself.

Sometimes, all you have to do is make a few small adjustments if you are not meeting anyone. It may even mean that you need to redo your profile, join another site, or just get more active in your search.