Creating a quality dating profile isn't rocket science, but it's not basket weaving either. When an attractive woman posts a new profile on a dating site, she will receive dozens of messages, perhaps hundreds. She is not going to read them all; most of them will not be worth reading. Don't worry. We will get to writing great emails very soon. She will narrow the field and eventually choose who to respond to based on the quality of his profile. I once had a woman respond to me who received over 250 messages the first day she signed up. She told me she wanted to meet me because she loved my profile. The wrong approach in a dating profile will get a man nowhere. Guys need profiles that help them stand out to women, and here is one way to achieve this.
The purpose of the online dating profile is - to get dates. Men secure dates with the women they want when they manage to promote themselves in such a way that is attractive to these women. Too often, men set up dating profiles as if they are starting up an account with ESPN.com or Car and Driver or the Pro Bass Shops mailing list. Women already know guys love sports and cars and fishing and outdoorsy stuff. It does not surprise them and you know what? They don't give a rat's ass about it! It is ubiquitous minutiae to them. They don't want to join your fantasy football league or help repair your transmission or sit with you in a duck blind on Saturday; maybe later but not yet.
No, they want a guy to date. Which means dinner and drinks, movies, live music, long walks, travel, museums and a host of other things they want to do with (and to!) their partner. Understand what I'm getting at?
So, if the objective of a dating profile is to get dates, then a guy is much more likely to enjoy success when his profile is appealing to women and their interests. Building a connection with a woman before even meeting is a phenomenal advantage. On the other side of the fence, the ladies appear to understand this almost intuitively. Ever notice how many women write that they enjoy football? I'm sure most of them are truthful, but the underlying purpose of this kind of statement is to relate to the guys at their comfort level.
I'm not saying a guy should sacrifice his manhood by getting in touch with a non-existent "feminine" side. Don't turn into a wuss! Sure, post that photo from the football game, but display tact by writing about other things you also find enjoyable. Search deeply if necessary. For example, indicating on a profile that you love to cook (and especially with a partner in crime) always scores major brownie points - even if the cooking is exclusively on the grill. I have secured several dates simply because I claimed I make awesome salmon (which I do - in my humble opinion).
In conclusion, women are searching for appealing men to date. It's not jobs or money that make for an out-of-the-ordinary kind of guy. It's the men who simply understand the woman's perspective on the type of guy that makes an interesting date and design their profile accordingly.
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