Everyone knows that feeling good and looking good takes work. Especially if you're planning to rock that new bathing suit. You have to take care of yourself, be in tune with your body's strengths and limitations so that your challenges can be handled in healthy ways.
It's no different with love. To be in a relationship with someone different, you have to be proud of who you are, be respectful of your cultural differences and talk to each other about the prejudices and problems other people can create.
If your interracial relationship doesn't feel quite right, read on to find out how to focus on some key questions that will reveal whether or not your romance has what it takes to be a perfect fit.
WHO is he, really?
Loving someone different can be breathlessly romantic and exciting. However, don't let the appeal of forbidden love blind you from finding out what his expectations or how he will deal with the challenges that your interracial relationship may face.
Your families, where you live, and your circle of friends can put the strength of your relationship under constant stress. The best way to cope with these challenges is to communicate honestly and openly with each other. Talk about everything.
For example:
Does he make you feel like a treasure or a trophy? If he dates only Asian or black women and you find yourself feeling like a fish out of water around his friends and family, you may be the object of his fascination or fetish for the exotic. If he makes you feel like the only woman in the room, no matter who's in the room, you've got a keeper.
Is there a "Guess Who's Coming To Dinner?" script in your future? Being unprepared to meet his family can set your whole relationship off on the wrong track. Is he talking to you about the best way to do this?
What will he do if someone verbally attacks you on the street? These unexpected outbursts can be very hurtful. Will he be your white knight in shining armor?
Take some time to communicate with the man you want to be with and the challenges of being together as a mixed couple.
Keep the following in mind:
Know who you are. You are a person worth loving.
Know your differences. You both come from backgrounds, cultures and traditions equally fascinating.
Keep your sense of humor alive and kicking. Love may make the world go round but sharing a laugh with the man you love every day - good day or bad - will make your romance rock.
So, don't worry that dating a white guy will make you look fat. Focus on being fulfilled.
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