Relationship Advice - Is This The Right Relationship For You To Be In?

You have been dating someone special for quite some time now. Things are going okay... for the most part. Then, suddenly one day, it hits you this relationship might not be right. You begin to ask yourself: "Is this where I need to be?"

While no one but you can answer this, you can make a rational decision based on the facts. But, in order to be honest and open with yourself about what you are getting out of the relationship, you have to think about some key issues.

Do you find that you want to spend more time apart? In the beginning, you had to be pulled apart. Now, when it comes to being together you can take it or leave it. In fact, if you were truthful about it, you are really beginning to enjoy time to yourself. If you find time alone without your partner, is getting more rewarding than time with your partner, it could be a significant sign.

Do you look for reasons not to be together? If you decide to spend time with others instead of time with your partner, then there has to be an underlying reason. Often people feel they are preventing trouble by not talking to or being with their partner. But if "the trouble" is going to be an issue as soon as you are around them, then postponing the trouble isn't going to help. All you are doing is putting off the inevitable.

Do you feel your time together isn't as rewarding as it used to be? Even when you spend time together, there is often a lag, albeit a dullness, if you will. Instead of quality time, it has been reduced to just "time". Chances are, one or both of you have tried to implement ways to liven things up a little. Or, worst case scenario, your partner doesn't even recognize there is a problem or that the feelings between the two of your have decreased in intensity.

Do you seem to fight more than you used to especially about little things that used to go unnoticed? This is a clear indicator you are getting on each other's nerves more than is expected. When patience goes down, there is a reason. When understanding is limited, there is a reason. When it takes less to offend, irritate or anger the other person, there is a reason. If you are able to be totally honest with yourself, you probably already know what the reason is.