Rekindling Your Relationship - Can You Get the Sparks Back With Your Man?

Rekindling your relationship that has been on the rocks for a while now can be quite tricky to do. If you have no idea where to start because your romance with your boyfriend has practically become platonic, then here's an article to help you out.

Learn to Yield

Problems in a relationship usually start when one of the people in the couple refuses to admit their mistakes or flaws. Because they want to win the fight so badly, these couples then forget about their love and throw everything out of the window. So, if you end up doing your boyfriend wrong next time or just can't seem to see things from his eyes, then try to just let things slide for a change.

Letting things slide can help in rekindling your relationship because it will show him that you are more mature now and are ready to let small trivialities go. Naturally, you will have to make sure that you can actually back up this new and mature you, as well. Putting on a brave face just to go back to the way things were a few weeks later won't help either of you - remember that.

Bottle Up the Anger

Even if it was your boyfriend who wronged you and said something to make you angry, you need to learn how to forgive him. After all, if you are still angry with him, how can rekindling your relationship even be possible? If you need time to think about what happened and to find out whether the fight was really something worth fighting about, then take some time away from your man for now.

Once you have had some time, assess your emotions and figure out a way to talk to him about it. If you want to fix things, then make sure you are gentle and civil when talking to him; otherwise, you could just start a whole new fight altogether.

Drive Him Wild

If rekindling your relationship is your top priority right now and there isn't actually anything big that you fought about, then you might want to pull out all of the stops, don a sexy outfit and drive your man wild with it. Although this might seem a bit sneaky to you, it is sure to help you put your foot into the door and seduce his socks off. After all, men are visual creatures, so doing this is sure to bring the heat up in no time.

How to Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You Like Crazy So He Will Want You Back

Wanting to make an ex boyfriend feel like he misses you like crazy generally means that you are not really over him and that you would like to be able to have a chance at getting back together with him and start a new relationship that will last. It's only natural that if you feel like you miss him badly, that you would want him to feel the same exact way that you do. If you feel like you have already tried many things to make him feel like he misses you like crazy, you are not alone. However, just because you have tried many things, it doesn't mean that you have tried the right things.

Here's how to make your ex boyfriend miss you like crazy:

1. He can't really miss you if you have not gone away, so you need to be low key and not have much of any contact with him for a little while.

Have you ever spent time away from someone and found that during that time away from them, you realized just how important that they were to you? I am sure that you have, you might even be going through that right now when you think about your ex boyfriend. If you want to make him feel as though he misses you like crazy, then you have to cut off contact with him for a little while so that he DOES get to sense your absence in his life.

2. He'll be a lot more likely to miss you if you seem to be happier without him.

It's funny that it can work out this way, but quite often, it does. When you give him the impression that without him in your life, you are happier, it's going to make him think about you. He might be wondering why you are coming across that way or he might just be curious as to what you are doing now that you and he have broken up. This is good because you want to stay in the back of his mind.

3. Knowing that you are improving yourself can also make him feel like he is missing you.

Another good thing to do if you want to make your ex boyfriend feel as though he is missing you is to improve things in your life so that you come across as even more attractive to him than you did before. When an ex boyfriend sees that you are improving your life and your situation, it is going to make him want to be a part of that and that is going to help in making him feel as though he misses being with you.

The Right Balance of Attention Paid

This is particularly relevant to consider in dealing with those who could be considered possessive - the anxiously attached. I find that sense of spiritual identity in me, to a certain extent, and so I'm therefore 'qualified' to write on this - about how others have successfully interacted with me, for example.

Sometimes it is appropriate (read, "helpful") to give someone a lot of attention - to feed their gaping desire for love, but much of the time we do not love them best (or, we simply do not love them) by placating them. Placating, or appeasing, may be more about our own anxious needs than theirs.

Each person must be encouraged to sink or swim of their own accord; to take responsibility for their own lives.

We shouldn't go on and on rescuing people, as we do them harm by creating a circumstance of reliance.

The foreseeable exceptions are these:

IN GRIEF:

When someone's been stricken by a loss of any kind we could expect them to cling to a safe mooring (in us) as they weather the storm of their grief.

They'll need someone or a couple of people with whom to rest with and journey with.

Within the acuteness of grief's pain there should be solace in connecting with people if that is the need. But equally, as carers, we need to discern when to leave people as they are to do their own processing. Again, we need to ask ourselves, "Who are we really trying to support when we desire to help people?" Sometimes people try and support others out of their own needs in order to feel good. But in this scenario, no one benefits.

IN GROWTH:

When people intentionally put themselves in the path of growth and learning - because God has kindled their hunger - they may be safely attached to a mentor for specific guided activities.

Both parties of this mentoring arrangement are blessed. That's the guide that all is working well. Whenever there is an encumbrance on one party, a burden so-to-speak, it's no longer about growth; and an unhealthy dependence has formed.

But when growth is at the forefront, we can afford to pour our attention into people.

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Balancing the giving of attention is the art of wisdom in relationships. We shouldn't neglect people, nor should we rescue them. Each has to live their life without depending on other people too much. But when people are suffering and they need us, any positive attention we give them, at the time, is good attention.

We shouldn't rescue people from situations they should be handling themselves, with two exceptions: in grief and in growth. The grieving need our support, and the growing need our encouragement. Balancing the attention we pay to people is a mark of discerned wisdom.

© 2013 S. J. Wickham.

Dating Tip Safety: Five Warning Signs That Someone Could Be A Fake!

In this day and age of technology and limited time, more and more of us who are single, will turn to online dating to try to find someone special.

The challenge with online dating is that someone can say anything to grab your attention,whether it's true or not and may not necessarily be the person in the photos that are posted. You can be virtually anyone online by typing up clever lines and grabbing good looking photos from a Google Image search for example.

So how in the world can you be sure who you are talking to is really who you think it is? The first step is to listen to your gut instinct, if something does not seem quite right, it is probably not. From there you may have to put on your online investigator hat and do some research. For now, check out the following common warning signs below.

Online Dating Warning Sign Number One

Their profile is very well written but their communication skills with you are the pits. Have you ever run across a profile that is masterfully written, so much so, that even a member of the grammar police would be proud? It says just the right things that you want to hear in the right places and because their writing skills are above average, you figure that they must possess the Master's degree they claim to have earned. But you notice that when they communicate with you through instant message or by text that they use shorthand, frequently misspell words and use improper grammar. Their messages don't feel like it could have come from the same person. What's up with that?

It may be that they were just putting their best foot forward in the written portion of their profile or had it professionally written from a questionnaire they filled out. Or, they may have copy and pasted it from someone else's profile, meaning they are a fraud.

Online Dating Warning Sign Number Two

They only want to Instant Message or have a Google phone number to mask their real number. Someone who doesn't want you to really know who they are may ask you to instant message with them on a service like Yahoo. There's nothing wrong with instant messaging to start off a conversation. However, if that is their only form of communication, that should set off a red flag. With a legitimate email address you can search and get their IP address to verify their location and make sure it matches where they claim to live. You should be able to Google search using their phone number to also verify the location and make sure they are being truthful.

Someone who doesn't want you to have their email address or phone number that could be traced to prove their location is probably up to no good.

Online Dating Warning Sign Number Three

The person you're chatting with is giving you conflicting stories. There is an old saying "You don't have to remember the truth." This means that if you ask someone the same question, you should get the same honest answer. Recently, someone I was chatting with told me that they were Catholic and I thought "That's strange, their profile says Protestant." It could be that when filling out their profile, they selected the wrong box, however either way that set off my radar detector and it needed to be questioned. Keep your ears open and listen to make sure everything seems consistent with their profile and any past conversations you have had.

Online Dating Warning Sign Number Four

The person you are interested in has given you their name, location, profession and phone number but you cannot validate or verify any of the information. With all the social media sites and business web sites, you would think that you would be able to find them in at least a few search results, wouldn't you? If someone says they are a successful artist but there is nothing about them online with their name, location and at least a few images of their work, I would be suspicious. Are their giving you a fake name, information or location and if so, why?

Online Dating Warning Sign Number Five

They want more of your photos, information about you or a web cam chat but do not offer to reciprocate. When someone is fishing or phishing for more information about you but won't reciprocate, that's a warning sign. They may be gathering all the info they can to charm you in the future into giving them something, or worse. If someone wants you to chat via web cam, insist that they do it to, or if they want more info or photos of you, ask for the same in return. After all, if they are honest and legitimate, fair is fair right?

There are additional warning signs that can come up. These are just a handful of them. Just remember the rule of thumb is if something doesn't make sense or seem right, it may not be.

A few quick things you can do early on to protect yourself from scammers and fakes is to use some free online resources.

First, make Google your best friend and search their screen name, instant message name, or anything else they give you to contact them. Check out dating scam web sites and see if they are listed or if their dating pitch sounds awfully familiar to any listed.

Second, use Google Image Search to verify that the pix you're drooling over don't belong to any celebrities and seem like they are really the person you think they are. You can right click on an image and copy the image's URL code to put into the Google Image Search. Or, what I do, is right click on an image and Save a Copy of it. Then I click on the Google camera icon and upload it.

Google will return search engine images that seem similar of that will match it. If your hottie appears to have the same face as a celebrity or other popular person, you'll know you probably have been communicating with an imposter. Voila! (I've caught two people using images that weren't them myself recently using this tool)

Last, once you have their email address, send them an email and if you get one in return, you can run it through a IP address search engine that you can find online for free. Search: With an IP address, you can usually validate what city or state the email come from.

You can also search for any key words they use, their screen name or name they've given through web sites that expose scam artists.

By taking care to listen to your gut and to do some light private detective work online, you can help ensure that you're speaking to the person you think you are, and if not, find out early on so you don't waste a lot of time with them or become a victim of crime.

My Ex Girlfriend Says That She Still Likes Me - What Does That Mean?

The ups and downs of break ups are not always easy to understand. You know for sure that you still like your ex girlfriend very much, so much that you really would like for her to become your girlfriend again. And your ex girlfriend says that she still likes you and that makes you wonder, what exactly does that mean? Is she telling you that she wants to get back together with you or does it have some other meaning?

It all depends and I know that is not the answer that you would probably like to hear me say, but it really does. Sometimes her saying that is going to be an indication that she might be looking to get back together with you and sometimes her saying that is just a way of her being nice. Or, she might even mean that she still likes you, but more like a friend and not like a guy she wants to be in a relationship with.

So, what should you do if your ex girlfriend says that she still likes you and you are not sure what that means?

1. Don't rush to a conclusion just yet.

If you were to rush to a conclusion, the one that you are probably going to make is that she wants to be back together with you and that might not be the case. Rushing to that conclusion could easily lead to you getting your heart broken yet again by the same woman and I doubt that you want to do that.

2. Test flirt with her to see what she does.

It's easy to test flirt with a woman and by that I mean, flirt a little bit and see what she does. If she flirts back with you, then step it up a notch and flirt a little bit more. You want to get an idea of where her head and where her heart is and flirting is an easy way to do this.

3. Escalate her attraction towards you.

Chances are good that if your ex girlfriend says that she still likes you, that she is also still attracted to you, at least a little bit. That is a good thing, but of course, you want more than that. You want her to feel massively attracted to you and that is what escalating does. With the right techniques, you can make her go from just feeling like she still likes you a little bit, to where she feels like she is falling in love with you all over again. How's that sound?

How to Make Your Husband Happy? - 7 Novel Ideas!

For a woman, her lover's value is always more than all the world's treasures. And, when her lover becomes her husband, she opens the floodgates of abundance in the relationship. The happiness explodes through her heart, and she starts loving her husband endlessly.

This is the mere fact! The true beauty of a woman!

But, Alas! These heavenly situations, and her true inner happiness, fade away after some time. Her husband devastates her emotionally and puts her in miserable situations.

Sometimes her husband gets busy in getting someone else's attention, sometimes her husband loses interest in her, sometimes her husband starts taking out flaws in her, and sometimes her husband stops listening to her true feelings.

This unexpected situation ruffles her dreams brutally, and she sheds the tears of hopelessness all day day-to-day.

If you are also in a hopeless situation, and if your husband has lost his interest in you, and if you still want to make your husband happy, then first I deeply appreciate your feelings and your commitment to your relationship.

Your commitment to your relationship, and your powerful desire, will definitely help you to turn all of your future dreams into reality. I literally believe, the level of desire, and commitment, which a woman possesses, can turn any impossible dream into a reality.

And, I respect that!

When a woman comes in a mood of accomplishing something, she accomplishes much more in a year than most people accomplish in their entire life.

I've put together 7 novel ideas for you that have the power to make your husband happy. These novel ideas will not only end the frustration from your relationship, but also give you the best of years of your life.

So, apply these below ideas now, step by step, and fill your relationship with strange delights.

1. Kill the Dead Weights

Dead weights are destructive. They eventually destroy the relationship and inflict serious frustration. They should concern you the most if you want an "Always & Forever" relationship in your life.

What are the dead weights in the relationship?

"Arguments, mistrust, money-matters, comparison game, and bossiness are the dead weights of the relationship."

In fact, they are the double edged swords that kill the soul of love and make your relationship dead.

Think seriously, how much these dead weights are causing you problems? 20 percent? 50 percent? Or, 90 percent?

And, you'll get your answer!

These dead weights set the foundations of every fight. So, eliminate them from your relationship as much as you can... I know it's not easy, but it's not impossible too. Once you minimize their destructive presence, your relationship automatically thrives. You, and your husband, begin to look at the positive side of the relationship.

Now, I know most of you must be thinking that you are not the creator of these dead weights. And, your husband is. If this is the case, then avoid those situations that bring these dead weights into the relationship.

Don't blame him. Don't fight with him. Don't tell him that he's the one who always create problems... This attitude will shower more fuel on the fire.

Instead, focus on other novel ideas. Your this problem will be automatically solved. You, just you, avoid these dead weights as much as you can... This is the best thing you can do.

2. Hug the Certainty

Relationships flourish only on the grounds of certainty. Certainty not only makes the relationship secure forever, but also fire up the flames of love constantly. It injects true love into the hearts of couples and indulge them with the rain of happiness.

Uncertainty in the relationship never let you, and your husband, be genuinely happy. Both of you look at each other with doubtful eyes and question each other's loyalty. Uncertainty compels you to fight, again and again, on small small issues, and one day it turns some small issue into a major dispute.

Moreover, true love never blossoms under the dark clouds of uncertainty.

So, if you want to make your relationship strong, and if you want to make your husband happy, hug the certainty, and hug it well.

Make your husband feel the certainty of the relationship. Make him feel that you both will dance together for a life time. Make him feel that your love will burn brightly forever.

For bringing certainty in your relationship, the best thing you can do is to make future plans with your husband. And, first, make those plans that make your husband happy... This psychological strategy will help you to influence his mind, and emotions, very easily.

After some time, and after bringing him in the mode of acceptance & certainty, you can make as much future plans as you want according to your choices & wishes.

Future planning put a relationship on the grounds of certainty. It's a psychological trick that ends the doubts of the relationship and develops an eternal love.

3. Don't be His Mother

"Care about your life... Brush your hair... Avoid risks... Wash your hands... Tuck your shirt inside your trousers... Get serious about your career... Care about your life... Sleep on time... "

We often hear these types of sentences from women in the relationship. If you are one of those women who use these types of sentences, then please stop using them immediately... You are not acting like his wife. Instead, you are actually acting like his mother. You are destroying your image through your own hands. You are psychologically influencing him to treat you like a mother.

These types of sentences gradually destroy your desirability and end the feelings of love from his heart.

Now I am not saying that your husband doesn't need your guidance, or help, at times. Of course, he needs. But, he needs your help & guidance as a wife, not as a mother. He doesn't want you to treat him like a child.

Instead, he wants you to treat him like a man - a masculine & successful man.

4. Act Like a Desirable Wife

In a relationship, a desirable wife is always in demand. She intrigues the masculine feelings of her husband through her elusive charming qualities. She recharges the feelings of love in his heart and burns the flames of passion in the relationship, again and again.

What's the biggest mistake which wives make in the relationship? Any idea?

Well, the biggest mistake which wives make in the relationship is that, they start acting like his male friends. They believe that similarities make the relationship stronger, and, on the other hand, differences shatter the relationship. And, they start adopting manly hobbies and habits.

This is utterly a wrong belief!

This belief, and this strategy, will never let you become a desirable wife. You'll lose your importance, and you'll lose your value in his eyes too. He'll start neglecting your emotional needs, and eventually treat you with disrespectful behavior.

So, always remember, a female who acts like his male buddies never attracts him.

A man always runs after a desirable lady. And for being a desirable lady,

"You need to stay in touch with your feminine side. You need to stay in touch with your sensuality and warmth. You need to stay in touch with your attractive attitude. And, you need to stay in touch with your supreme confidence."

5. Fulfill His Key Needs

"Food, Sleep, and Sex are the key needs of a man." When you fulfill these key needs of your husband, you secure 90 percent area of your relationship. He doesn't look at any other woman and makes you the center of his attention.

Unfortunately, most of the advices which I often see in magazines, and in the ocean of websites, are utterly useless and fuzzy ideas. Those advices focus on those things that don't create a massive impact over a tough relationship... For example, they compel you to do romantic things, but they don't tell how to set the grounds of the relationship.

If the grounds of the relationship are shaky, the true romance will never blossom.

Have you ever thought why some men are highly romantic in their relationship even after the decades? How those men faced the toughest challenges of their lives successfully? How their everyday is better than their yesterday? And, most importantly, how those men stayed greatly faithful throughout the relationship?

And, the answer is simple: 'Their key needs were fulfilled by their wives."

So, before being romantic with your husband, fulfill his key needs first. This will not only make your husband happy, but also bring the feelings of love in his heart for you.

6. Share Secrets

"Secrets can be shocking, pleasant, and silly."

'Secret Sharing' is a magic recipe that strengthens the bonds of a relationship. It builds trust, love, and loyalty. A happy couple uses this magic recipe in the relationship time and time again and keep the interest level high.

If you want to appear as a perfect companion in the eyes of your husband: Share secrets with him! This will establish the bond of trust and your husband will start trusting you more and more... This strategy will make him feel comfortable in your presence, and he'll also open up his inner feelings in front of you.

Now I am not saying that share those secrets that can damage your relationship. If you feel your husband is likely to respond poorly on some secrets, then don't share them. Share only those secrets which you feel are healthy and good for your relationship.

This magic recipe - 'Secret Sharing' - has two more major benefits.

First, the communication level increases. He starts listening to you, and he starts sharing his day-to-day details with you. And, most importantly, all the conversations happen in the non-judgmental environment.

Second, your private life with your husband becomes mesmerizing. Your husband begins to value his private life with you more than his social life.

7. Improve Default Mode

The default mode of your relationship decides the appetite of your happiness. When the default mode is negative in your relationship, you shed the tears of frustration. On the other hand, When the default mode is positive in your relationship, You relish very special moments of your life.

Notice the default mode of your relationship. How's your everyday life? How do you both spend time? What are your leisure time activities? What's your mode of thinking? What are your hobbies and habits? What are your goals & passions? What are your targets? What do you want to achieve?

Think seriously about these questions. They are always present in our daily life routine. They create our default modes. If you discover that the answers of these questions are mostly negative, or if you are not satisfied with your answers, then do those things that can turn your answers into positive.

When you make the default mode of your relationship positive & happy, your relationship improves. Your husband starts taking interest in the relationship. He feels more happy in your presence and avoid the unnecessary social activities.

A positive and happy default mode has the power to make each and every day of your life beautiful.

Apply These 7 Novel Ideas Now!

My goal is not to make your husband temporarily happy. That's why I have given you those ideas that solve the core problems of the relationship and keep your husband extremely happy forever.

These ideas create a special world for you! You, and your husband, feel the true, inner happiness and connect with each other on a deep emotional level.

So, use these 7 novel ideas now... And, open the floodgates of abundance in your relationship.

How To Balance Relationships Between Old And New Relations

We all have lots of friends and relations,
some new, some old.
Friends can be easily replaced,
at short notice, with some discomfort;
not so with relations.
We have to live with them, tolerate them, make compromises;
relations, old or new are long-term investments in life,
and spouse among them is a key figure, nearly indispensable,
in spite of increase in live-in relationships and divorces all around.

New relations should enhance the existing synergy, in the family;
which may not be always true,
as sharing of friends or relations, is not amicable in general.

We have old, sweet nostalgic memories,
of our childhood, growth, college days,
with old relations: parents, siblings,
which our new relations: spouse, in-laws,
may not value as much as we do.
The new relations, husband or wife too,
are more intimate and comfortable with,
their old relations: parents, siblings,
and less inclined towards their new found relations,
through the spouse, i.e. in-laws.

The new relations, newly wedded couple,
both husband and wife, have mutual expectations,
to be given supreme importance, in the new relationship;
over and above spouse's parents.
After marriage, spouses must live as per their choice,
with least interference by in-laws directly,
or indirectly by offering unsolicited advice,
and the new family should be self-reliant with full autonomy in life.

Among relations,
there is always rivalry, followed by jealousy;
human beings are possessive by nature.
Parents will be reluctant to accept,
secondary status in dealing with their son or daughter after marriage,
would like to retain the previous intimacy;
which will be rightly resisted by spouse,
and is not practical any more.
The new equation will be realised, but it may lag slightly;
and dilute harmony in the family.

If only we could learn,
that a new universe has begun, with a new relationship,
the husband and wife,
who, in the foot steps of Adam and Eve,
are about to begin the same journey,
to start a world of their own;
and if we could stop finding fault or offering suggestions endlessly,
to the newly wedded couple,
and let them explore the married life on their own,
there will be pleasant panorama in the families all over the world;
denied at present.
The young couple too could add harmony in the families,
by just loving and respecting the in-laws,
i.e. the spouse's parents and siblings;
and not cold shouldering, as at present..

It is not so easy, old traditions die hard,
it is carrying on like this, since time immemorial,
because we hardly believe in,
'do unto others what you want done unto you'.
Why can't we have equal friendship,
with old friends or relations of the spouse?

We are all imperfect human beings;
but we expect our loved ones to behave like perfect humans.
God has implanted, incorrigible imperfections in humanity,
to test our fortitude, our ability,
to discriminate right or wrong attitude,
and live in peace.

We have failed so far, in the history of our civilisation,
and there is no attempt, to correct it even now.
We failed in the past and we are destined to fail in future,
for we are not even aware of,
what is wrong;
the failure is prevalent,
in every household in the world,
and is painful.
The old and new relations are at loggerhead,
with deceptive peace, utter disregard to each other, camouflaged by civility.

May God bless us all,
to overcome 'duality' in our minds and actions;
duality i.e. who are mine, who are not,
whom I can love spontaneously, whom I can't,
with whom, I can share life and communicate, with whom I can't,
and resolve to give genuine, informal love to our in-laws;
same as we reserve for our own parents and siblings.

A Complete Overview of Therapy by Phone

Any type of psychological service that is performed over the phone is therapy by phone. This includes crisis hotlines, child help lines, quit lines and professional counseling. This type of therapy can range from individuals to couples or even groups with either professional therapists or para-professional counselors. Many patients who are in face-to-face therapy are often advised to use telephone crisis numbers when they cannot reach their therapist in an emergency.

Therapy by phone is a growing trend in which a number of psychologists and therapists are seeing at least some of the patients over the phone instead of in person. Current studies show that more than 50 percent of the patients that have had both phone therapy and in person therapy prefer to do it over the phone. In fact, during a 2002 study it was proven that the patients who prefer phone counseling tend to rate their doctors as highly as those who see their doctor face-to-face.

There are, of course, disadvantages and advantages to choosing therapy by phone. Let us start by reviewing the disadvantages first. For some, using phone therapy makes them feel like there is too much distance between themselves and their therapist. For these people, they may safer to be in the presence of another person.

Another large disadvantage is that, since the client can call from any location, they can easily be distracted from their phone call. On one hand, it can allow the therapist to have some insight to their patient's situation but at the same time, the disruptions may make it difficult for the patient to stay focused on the session.

In the event that the phone therapy takes place with an organization staffed by several employees or volunteers, such as a hotline, a repeat caller will not be able to develop the same relationship that they can with an individual. This may impede their progress especially since these type of organizations usually have limits on the number of calls that can be made in a specified period of time and the amount of time a call can last.

Typically patients that are going to require more than one weekly session, which are suicidal or who self-harm are not good candidates for therapy by phone. With the exception of the suicide hotline, many of these phone counselors are not trained to handle local emergencies.

Perhaps the largest advantage of therapy by phone versus in-person therapy is that it is free from the traditional constraining factors that can have an effect on therapy. For example, there are no restrictions on the location you can call from. If you have a busy schedule and need to call during a lunch break, you can arrange that with the therapist.

While therapy by phone is not for everyone, there are cases where it is the optimal type of therapy. Many studies have shown that this type of therapy can be especially effective for patients who are suffering with depression and are not motivated to leave their homes.

The Best Ways to Bring the Romance Back in Your Husband's Heart

Without a doubt, the responsibilities and demands that come with a marriage can put a lot of strain and stress onto any married couple. Because of this, the couple might find themselves in a rut that is nothing like the exciting and romantic marriage that it started out to be. Unfortunately, a marriage without romance can be dangerous since it weakens the relationship and makes the couple depressed. So, if you want to bring the romance back in your own marriage and start building a happier and stronger relationship to your husband, then pay very close attention to this article.

A lot of married couples seem to think that their marriages will last forever, even if they don't make an effort in nurturing them. However, the truth is that marriages need to be nourished in order for them to last. If you feel like there is no more romance in your own marriage, then the following tips can help you bring the romance back in no time:

Be Patient and Romantic.

It would be vital for you to be patient while trying to bring the romance back in your marriage - remember that. It would also be vital for you to be romantic on regular days and not just on special occasions. No matter how busy you might be, you should make it a point to keep the romance going in your relationship by surprising your husband every now and then. A romantic home-cooked would work very well in this department, especially if you cook it without any reason whatsoever. This will show him how much you really care and love him.

Be Spontaneous.

If you have been married for several years now, then you have probably already fallen into some sort of habit or routine. You probably eat at the exact same time every day and go to the exact same places for your dates. Well, if you want to rekindle your marital romance, then you will need to break those habits and start doing new things for a change. If you both love sports, for example, then engaging in new physical hobbies can make your marriage more romantic and exciting for the both of you.

On that note, make sure you always keep things fresh. A lot of married couples stop acting like they are in love after getting married, but marriage is supposed to be a long-term relationship. So, if you want to bring the romance back, you will have to act like you are still in your dating stage and act like lovesick teenagers. Try it!

What To Do When You Are Having Problems With Your Girlfriend - 3 Tips to Make It Work

You want to make things work out well with your girlfriend, you don't want to end up breaking up with her. Right now, you are having some issues with her, but you know what you want to happen. You just need some guidance on what to do in order to make things work out with your girlfriend so that you have some perspective on what it is that you need to do to come to terms with her.

Here are 3 tips that can help you out if you are having problems with your girlfriend so that you can work things out with her:

1. The first thing that you want to do is to make sure that you calm down and have a clear mind.

It's hard to come to terms with someone when you are having problems in the relationship if you are feeling upset or angry. When you can come to the table with a clear mind, it's so much easier to be able to come to a solution. So, even though you might want to work things out right now, sometimes taking a little bit of time to calm down can be one of the best things that you can do.

2. The next thing that you want to do is to try to see things from your girlfriend's point of view.

You really cannot end up working things out with your girlfriend if you can't see things from her point of view. It can be hard to do this, but it is something that definitely will help you out incredibly if you can see where it is that she is coming from on whatever issue that you might be trying to work out with her. Of course, you also want to see if you can get her to see things from YOUR perspective as well.

3. Talking things out is the key to making it work out.

When you are able to communicate with her as much as you can, you are going to find that things tend to go a little more smoothly. So, even though you might not be the type of guy who really wants to talk things out with your girlfriend, it is still one of the best things that you can do if you don't want to lose her and you want to have her in your life for the long term. Relationships don't have to come to an end and being able to talk things out with the woman you are in a relationship is one of the keys to making it work.

The 5-Minute Rule and What It Can Do to Fix Your Relationship

You've had a long tiring day at work and when you get at home, you get into an argument with your partner. What were you even fighting about? You don't remember. Many couples deal with the same situation and these fights might last longer than they need to. It does get tiring and worrisome. Fortunately, there is a way for you to minimize conflict in your relationship. Keep your eyes peeled because we are sharing with you some important information!

No matter what you say, first impressions are important. Even as you try to fight it, judgments and decisions are easily made based on how you feel about meeting or seeing a person for the first time. In fact, research has been done on how different colors and typography can have an effect on people and how they perceive your brand or advertisement. This is why it is so important for businesses to get these things right in order to create the right positive image for themselves.

You can actually do the same to fix your relationship! If you do have a positive and healthy relationship with your partner, you probably get to see each other often and have things go very smoothly. In this case, you don't have a lot of moments where you get to see each other for the "first time".

The 5-minute rule comes in handy at this point. The 5-minute rule states that the first 5 minutes you spend with your partner after not having seen each other for a while can have a great impact on how your day and conversations will proceed from thereon. Yes, you actually have a say on how the mood will be, which makes the very first 5 minutes crucial to fix your relationship and rekindle your love.

Spending a great day with your partner is in your hands. You can avoid getting into an argument or at least minimizing the tension with how you move the minute you see him. No matter how bad your day must have been, it will be a nice feeling to walk up to him smiling. Your partner may have the urge to talk about some problems later on, but don't take that as a threat. As with any healthy relationship, good communication is essential. Just be understanding and don't let anybody ruin your day. In fact, if you decide to be happy and you won't have to learn how to fix your relationship in the first place.

Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back - A Few Things To Consider Before You Leap

Is your ex-boyfriend currently in a relationship with someone else? Have you not gotten over him yet and you desperately want him back into your life? Well, if these are the circumstances that apply to you, then getting your ex boyfriend back is something quite possible to do. You can get your ex boyfriend back if you know exactly what to do about it and can apply yourself with tact and aplomb in doing it. By that, we mean you'll need to develop a carefully orchestrated plan of action and execute it with correctly with attention to detail and tact whilst having the end goal of reconciliation in mind.

It's one thing if your boyfriend is currently in a casual relationship and another if he's happily married. It is okay to plan or scheme on how to get your ex boyfriend back if he has not yet dropped the proposal to his current girl and become engaged. At such point, you still have a small fighting chance to get him back.

But before you do anything, be sure of what you really want. It's important to have clarity of mind and know hat's really important to you right now. Know clearly and lucidly in your own mind your reasons why you choose to get your ex boyfriend back into your life rather than just forgetting about him and moving in a different direction. Are you convinced that he is the love of your life and that both of you have what it takes as a couple to make a happy and viable future together? If so, are you ready to do and experience whatever it takes?

There are many things that you can do to entice your ex into seeing you again. In this case, if you are the one that wants things to happen, you've got to make the first move. You have to get in touch with him sometime in order to get things rolling - it won't happen all by itself or is unlikely to come about through some godly like intervention. But don't rush things up. Drop him a line or two over the internet. Call him up at one point just to know what he's up to. Then ask him out for a friendly lunch or coffee if he indicates that he'd like to meet up sometime. After all, what are old friends for?

Remember to do everything in a light and charming way. A bit of class, tact and above all else, self-restraint, can do wonders at this crucial point. You've got to befriend your ex again, and his new girlfriend for that matter. But remember that you're not supposed to do anything drastic like throw yourself at him or propose to him. No, I'm afraid that just simply won't do - at least not just at this formative stage of the rekindling process anyway.

Remember the comment above about self-restraint. You've got to wait and be patient. Just because you're heart and mind might be in a rush to get an outcome, doesn't mean he's in lock step with your way of thinking, feeling or timing. After all, you're two very separate hearts and souls. He has to have the opportunity to ponder his own feeling and emotions and realize for himself that he wants to be with you more than his current girl, if at all. You surely don't want to be tagged as a relationship wrecker so know your limits while exploring the possibilities of how to get your ex boyfriend back into your life.

Christian Counseling Versus Secular Counseling

The primary difference between secular counseling and Christian counseling is the authority of which the counselor is held accountable. Secular counselors are licensed by the state in which they practice and must strictly adhere to the rules that the state has in place. These counselors may not pray with their patients or discuss religion at all unless it is requested or initiated by the patient. They may not provide counsel against things including abortion and homosexuality.

In contrast, Christian counselors will answer to the church. They are required to ask for God's help, offer religious solutions to their patients and pray with them. This creates a sense of responsibility by the church to over the activities that these counselors engage in. These are the most distinct differences between the two types of counselors.

Secular counselors will normally have a master's degree. Many of them will hold a PhD too. A religious counselor will have a degree from a university that specializes in religion while a secular counselor will receive training from one of the state certified schools.

Secular or non-religious counseling is dyadic in nature. It is based solely on the relationship between the counselor and his or her patient. While it is effective in addressing both emotional and mental issues, it does not consider spiritual matters. Christian counseling is triadic in that it not only is about the relationship between the therapist and patient but also involves the patient's spirituality. For this reason, Christian counseling is unique.

These therapists not only work to provide guidance in resolving personal and emotional challenges, but also are trained specifically to the patient see themselves as God sees them and help them to learn to accept themselves how they are. They must be able to help their patients to live and exhibit behavior that is in line with what is written in the bible.

Secular counseling involves many different designations including L. P. C. (licensed professional counselor,) L. M. F. T. (licensed marriage and family therapist) and L. M. H. C. (licensed mental health counselor.) The same can be said for Christian counseling who also feature a variety of designations. Some of them include L. P. C. (licensed pastoral counselors,) L. C. P. C. (licensed clinical pastoral counselors) and C. C. C. (certified Christian counselors) to mention just a few.

When seeking counseling from a Christian counselor, ensure that he or she was trained and licensed by either a church or other similar organization that will hold them accountable for their actions. Two of the most renowned associations include the National Christian Counselors Association and the Board of Christian Counselors.

What really matters when selecting a counselor is that you find one that is truly motivated to help you. Do not be afraid to request a telephone conference first to find out more about the beliefs that your therapist has to ensure that you both share the same religious viewpoints and morals. Taking this time in the beginning can save a lot of time and trouble in your search for the right therapist.

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Meet Australian Singles At Online Dating Sites

The world of online dating sites with Australian singles is very interesting to see. People can use one of many different dating sites to find Australian singles. Here's a look at a few of the top options for people to take a look at. These have their own different features but they might be of use to just about anyone looking for love down under.

Some places that allow Australian singles to meet each other can include details on individual singles. These include places that let people search through large databases of singles with a variety of different characteristics in mind. It's a useful tool considering the large wealth of Australian singles in the dating circuit.

It's never been easier to get pictures set up on these sites. Many of these online dating sites will let visitors send in their own personal photos through their computers or their social media profiles. People can use these pictures to confirm their identities at times.

Ice-breaking messages can also be sent to other people. This traditionally involves the use of a command to get in touch with someone by simply clicking on a particular icon or command. This will give a person access to someone's account with a brief message. This message should appear in a message box on the recipient's profile.

More singles are using these websites because they often include personality analysis tools. People can answer several questions on a site and have their personalities analyzed through a specific algorithm determined by the website. This is used to analyze the personality of a member with others to see who that person might be more compatible with.

Different sites may cater to different kinds of relationships that people want to have with each other as well. For example, some sites might focus on people who want to look for relationships that are made with long-term results in mind. These are particularly relationships that would result in marriage after a period of time. This is an interesting consideration but it is also one that may be of use for those who are looking for Australian singles for reasons well beyond friendship.

Sometimes a site might have a number of articles for members. Articles can cover many of the key topics and needs that people have for dating. The information on a site like this should be particularly notable for its details on everything that singles can do when finding each other.

The final thing to see about online dating sites is that they are free to use for the most part. There are some cases where people have to pay to get access to some of the advanced features on a site. However, these sites traditionally do not require contracts for certain periods of time.

The online dating sites that people can go to when finding Australian singles are interesting places to find. These options all have their own particular characteristics but are all made to give people the opportunities they want to find singles that they might potentially be interested in.

How to Get a Boyfriend Back - 9 Things That Never Work

How to get a boyfriend back is quite a challenge. It's never easy trying to get someone you love back in your life. After all, you broke up for a reason.

So how do you get your man to come back to you? When it comes to how to get a boyfriend back, there are certain things that would never work and would only make your situation worse. Here are the things you need to avoid doing.

1. Being demanding. You can't make demands and order him to come back to you. He would only scoff and think that you're crazy for thinking that you're the boss of him.

2. Feeling like the victim. Don't be so hard on yourself and think that the whole world is against you. Pity parties never work and he won't want to come back to you if he thinks you're depressed and being a crybaby.

3. Chasing him. Pursuing him will only make him want to distance himself further. He's only going to think of you as an annoying lost puppy. If you want him back, it's better if you find ways to make him chase you.

4. Broadcasting your feelings to kingdom come. It's one thing to tell your friends how you feel but it's a bad idea to tell everyone within hearing distance just how miserable you are. He's going to think like you're doing this to get his attention or to have someone pity you. It's unlikely that he's going to bite.

5. Phone calls everyday. Which part of "I need some time" did you not understand? If he said he needs time and space to think things through then you know that it's a bad idea to bombard him with phone calls. The only thing constant contact will accomplish is making him even more frustrated with you.

6. Not saying you're sorry. He may not be so forgiving at first but you still need to apologize for your mistakes. Even though you're both at fault it would show that you were brave enough to face and admit that you were wrong. He's going to see this as a mature gesture and would really appreciate it.

7. Seeing red. If he's in a rebound relationship, don't treat it as a war and say "bring it on b++++!" It may not even be a serious relationship and maybe he's just doing this to deal with the pain. Acting like Rambo with nail polish and making a scene is not the most attractive things you can do.

8. Payback. He hurt you now you want to hurt him? Not a good idea which means that you shouldn't play games such as making him feel jealous just to see his reaction. What good would it do? Either he thinks you've moved on and he would move on as well or he's going to think it's just a pathetic attempt to get his attention.

9. Bite me. When it comes to how to get a boyfriend back, the "bite me" attitude doesn't really work. You can be cool and collected and act like you're in control when you see him. But if you're rude and let him know that you're bitter and resentful then he's going to be turned off and wouldn't bother talking to you again.

What Are the Top 10 Ways to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back?

If you and your man broke up, don't worry because there are 10 ways to get your ex boyfriend back. Don't lose hope easily and give up. There's still a chance for you and your man to get back together.

So what are the 10 ways to get your ex boyfriend back?

1. Don't ignore him completely

If he's trying to reach out to you, there's no need to be rude and refuse to answer his calls because you want to play hard to get. If you see him, act nice and say hi. Ignoring him will only make you look immature.

2. No contact

While you don't need to ignore him completely, you also don't need to contact him all the time especially if the breakup is recent. Give each other space and don't annoy him to death by sending text messages at 3 in morning or calling him all the time.

3. Don't give him the upper hand

If you let him know that you miss him and that you're lost without him then you're giving him the upper hand. He won't be in a rush to get you back then because he knows you'll be waiting for him no matter how long it takes.

4. Grieve and wallow

Give in those feelings and wallow in order to heal. You need to get it out of your system or it's going to eat you and you won't be able to think straight. You're going to be desperate and needy and do things like call him and bug him because you want his attention.

5. Find other things to focus on

Your grieving period should have a time limit. After a few days, you need to get back on your feet and live your life again. Find other things to focus on such as your work or hobbies. You need to stop thinking about the breakup otherwise you're going to be obsess and that's never a good idea.

6. Accept the breakup and let him go

You can't force someone to stay with you. If you want him back then you need to accept the breakup and let him go first. If you don't let him go and continue to cling then he's going to think that this breakup really is the best idea for both of you.

7. Smile and be nice

When you see your ex, try not to be rude and show him just how bitter and angry you are. He's not going to want to talk to you if he senses that you want to bite his head off. And if he doesn't want to talk to you then how can you get him back?

8. Forgive and forget

He hurt you but you also have your share of mistakes. You need to forgive and forget if you ever want to start fresh with him. Holding on to grudges isn't good because you will end up being bitter and angry all the time.

9. Don't flirt with other men

Don't play games and try to make him jealous. He's going to think that maybe you've moved on and it's time for him to move on as well. Or he's going to retaliate and start going out with other women just to irritate you.

10. Be patient

Out of the 10 ways to get your ex boyfriend back, being patient is probably one of the most important. These things could take time and you need to keep your cool otherwise you may end up annoying him with your constant phone calls or blaming him for your broken heart.

Relationships Based on Lying

If you have read a women's magazine, you know there always seems to be an article about lying in a relationship. "Little white lies" can often seem harmless enough. It's easy to think it is not hurting anybody and no one will ever know, but isn't this really a measurement for integrity and personal responsibility? I've often heard from my employers that they are appalled when a candidate exaggerates on their resume. Right off the bat candidates are setting a premise of dishonesty- why would someone want to hire a person like this? Candidates are advised to be truthful and honest in their representation of themselves.

This strong belief that candidates should be 100% truthful on their resumes and applications is a well-founded concept. But what happens when a company is lying to the candidate? This is the other side to the coin that people rarely ever consider. We get so caught up in thinking it is the candidates being less than honest, we never stop to consider the possibility of it going both ways. According to the Reader's Digest article "Get Hired, Not Fired: 50 Secrets That Your HR Person Won't Tell You", company personnel have been known to lie to candidates as well. For example, here are two excerpts from the Reader's Digest article:

"Background checks are expensive. Sometimes we bluff, get you the fill out the form and don't run it," states Cynthia Shapiro, former human resource executive and author.

"Sometimes, we'll tell you we ended up hiring someone internally- even if we didn't- just to get you off our backs." HR rep at a Fortune 500 Financial services Firm

At the end of the day, if lying is a standard practice in your company, you will not be able to hire good people and expect them to stay. You are creating a culture within your company, and if it is one that includes not always telling the whole truth, the expectation that you could then hire honorable, truthful others goes out the window. Instead, run a strategic, authentic, well defined interview process. Be upfront and completely committed to a healthy environment for your employees- an environment that is based on truth telling. Creating this culture of truth and mutual respect will help support the company in being one of value. The rewards will far outweigh any benefit you may have received by lying to your people.

Getting A Man To Marry You

There are a lot of things that you can do in this life in regards to relationships. However, there are only a few things that will showcase the proper method for getting a man to marry you. Many women feel that they know all the ins and outs of men, but when it comes to long term relationships, they end up getting pushed to the side for other interests. There are a lot of different things that need to be discussed, thought about, and brought to attention before a man will simply drop to one knee. Consider the following ideas that will help you in your course to moving forward with any relationship today.

Getting a man to marry you should be a priority, but not an obvious one. Do not let your friends know and do not let your man know that you're plotting something. This will not turn out well for you, as this needs to be something that you really keep close to your heart and keep quiet. Ask advice, but do not let anyone know that you're studying up on this and trying to figure out what to do. If you let on, you could end up breaking the fragile state of the relationship that is on the brink of engagement or even marriage. Take your time with this as well, don't push so hard that you are caught doing something odd like shopping for rings without him.

The old saying, "a way to a man's hear is through his stomach", is alive and well today. You will probably hear this from older women, and it's true. Learn to cook and watch in amazement how he will start to believe that you are in fact marriage material. This is something that many modern women forget to learn correctly and it's not something that is stated to make anyone feel bad, it's just a fact. If you want to stand out, look into this, as it will drive the point home with every meal. Even if you break up, and they find someone else for a short time, they'll come running back when they realize that others don't know how to cook like you. This is one way to help in the process of getting a man to marry you, and it is a tried and true formula of success.

If you are serious about marriage, the best thing you can do is open up to your man. Talk to him with sincerity and discuss the future. Don't do it all the time, simply have an enjoyable conversation and see where he is at and try to gauge his reactions to simple questions. You'll find that he might be optimistic and already has been looking for a ring, if that's the case; you'll win big in the near future. Don't falter or grow anxious here. If he's not ready to talk he's not ready to get married, so make sure that you don't push the situation to a boiling point. Simply try to have simple conversations here and there, and it will eventually become self evident. Take your time, and you'll see that getting him to commit is a lot easier than most people think.

My Ex Girlfriend Is Talking About Me - Is That a Good Thing?

So, you've been hearing that your ex girlfriend is talking about you and that makes you wonder, is it a good thing that she is doing that? You certainly hope so, because since you and her broke up, you've found that all you want is to have her back in your life. You are getting hopeful that the fact that she is talking about you might end up being a good sign that she wants to get back together with you. Is it a good thing if your ex girlfriend is talking about you?

It all depends on the way that she is talking about you, who she is talking about you with, and of course - what it is that she is actually saying about you. Just because you have heard that she is dropping your name in conversation, it does not automatically mean that you have a chance of being able to win her back.

Here are some things that you need to consider if you want to know if it is a good thing that your ex girlfriend seems to be talking about you:

1) Is she inquiring through mutual friends about what you are doing?

This is usually going to be a good sign because it means that she still has an interest in you and she probably knows that if she asks mutual friends about you, that you are going to end up finding out about it. If this is the case, then you probably should take it as a good sign.

2) Is she venting about how bad of a boyfriend you were?

Okay, so this is a good example of it NOT being a good thing that your ex girlfriend is mentioning your name in conversation. If the conversation happens to revolve around the topic of you being a BAD boyfriend, then I wouldn't suggest that you consider it a good sign that she wants you back.

3) Is she saying positive things about when you and her were dating?

If she is talking about you and her in regards to when you were dating and she is saying positive things about you, it might be a sign that she kind of realizes that you actually were a pretty good boyfriend. That could be a perfect time to try and win her back, because there is a good chance that she has already thought about that happening.

Tips on How to Break Up With Someone

If you are unhappy in a relationship and have tried your hardest to make things work, but to no avail, you may want to considering breaking up with your partner. However, breaking up can be tough, and that's why we have developed these tips on how to break up with someone.

Be certain that you want to break up with them

First and foremost, you have to be 100% certain that you want to break up with your partner. Remember that you are playing with their feelings here, so don't put them through a break up only to want them back a few days or weeks later. They deserve better than that. Therefore, if you can, it's always best to try and work through any difficult times in a relationship and use a break up as a last resort.

Do it face to face

You should always try to break up with someone face to face. Obviously, this might be tough if you are in a long distance relationship, but if you are able to do it face to face that is always best. There is nothing worse than getting a text or email from your partner saying they want to break up with you.

Stay calm

Make sure that you are calm when breaking up with someone; you don't want to be more emotional about it all than they are.

Be prepared for the unknown

It is extremely difficult to predict how someone will react to a break up, so be prepared for every emotion possible and be sure to handle the situation delicately. They could handle it really well, there could be tears and shouting, you just don't know. No one should be happy the experience a break up.

Keep your distance

Once you have broken up with them, you need to keep your distance. Don't go round there house or text them, just leave them to it for a few weeks. Furthermore, if they constantly try to ask you to take them back you should just politely say no and keep your distance, avoid their phone calls for a bit if you have to.

There are plenty more fish in the sea, so please don't stay in an unhappy relationship to spare the other person's feelings or for whatever reason. You and they will find someone else who is a better match; it's just a part of life that we all experience at some point. Hopefully, you should now be more prepared and understand a few more things about how to break up with someone.

3 Problems With Your Girlfriend That Are Going to Need Fixing If You Want It to Last

You need to have a realistic perspective on relationships and realize that there are times that you are going to have problems with your girlfriend even if she is the right one for you. It's in working out those problems that come up that you make your relationship stronger and you get to know one another on another level. To think that you should never have any issues that come up is a bit unrealistic to say the least.

Let's take a look at three of the more common problems that guys face with their girlfriend even when they have found the right woman:

1) A lack of communication.

This cripples couples all of the time. Without a good amount of communication between yourself and your girlfriend, you can easily find yourselves growing apart from one another. It can be hard at times to communicate with a woman, you have to say things in a different way than you might with a guy. You might have to be a little bit "softer" in your language, but it is well worth it to take the time to work on any communication problems that you might have if you want to make sure that your relationship has the potential to last.

2) Trust issues between you and your girlfriend.

Trust issues are another thing that can easily break up an otherwise happy relationship. You have to feel as though you can trust her and she has to feel the same way. It's not just about trusting that the other person isn't going to cheat, either. It's about trusting each other enough that you feel like you can depend on one another and say things without the other person running their mouth to those outside of the relationship.

3) Sharing space with one another.

This is a problem that most couples don't realize that they are going to have... until they actually do have to share space with one another. It's the reason why a perfectly good couple can end up having petty little fights with each other once they live with each other. You have to be able to learn how to share space with one another if you want the relationship to last and you want to be able to take things to the next level with your girlfriend.

Being able to handle and get through these 3 problems are really going to help you out immensely if you want to be able to make sure that the relationship doesn't come to an untimely end.

Just Because You Love Your Ex Girlfriend Doesn't Mean She Is Coming Back to You

Getting a little does of reality can be a good thing every now and again, especially when dealing with issues relating to relationships. It can be hard to imagine, but just because you feel like you love your ex girlfriend, it doesn't mean that she is going to come back to you. It's easy to feel like she should do that, because you probably assume that all she wants to know is that you still love her. However, as many guys find out, just letting their ex girlfriend know that they are still in love with her is in no way a guarantee that she is going to come back to them.

You have to do more than just admit to the fact that you still have love for your ex girlfriend if you want to win her back. You have to influence her on an emotional level and that isn't probably going to happen just because you feel like you still have love for your ex girlfriend.

Here are some tips on what you can do so that you DO end up back with her:

1. The first thing that you need to realize is that the feelings cannot be just on your side of the coin, she has to feel the same way.

When you feel like you want your ex girlfriend to come back, it's easy to feel like that should be more than enough and forget about the fact that it has to flow both ways. She has to feel just as strongly about you as you do about her. When love is one sided, it doesn't make for a situation where a relationship is going to work.

2. Giving her the impression that you are obsessed with her is NOT a good thing.

This is a mistake that is often made when a guy feels like he still is hopelessly in love with an ex girlfriend. He'll end up giving her the impression that he is pretty much obsessed with her and that ends up being a big red flag in her book signaling that you might not be the right guy for her to be with. Letting her know that you still think about her is a good thing, making it seem like an obsession is not a good thing.

When you really feel like you still love someone, you want to let them know and you want to hear them say that they feel the same way. However, before you tell your ex girlfriend that you feel that way, you have to bring her back to the point where she DOES feel the same way. That is going to be what helps you to win her back in the end.

Attract Girls Online: Transform Your Facebook Profile to a Girl Magnet!

Are you frustrated over not getting any girls online? Tired of sending countless messages without receiving a reply? There are so many beautiful women out there with real profiles waiting to be approached. Most of these women who are online are actually very open towards making new friends and building new connections. Specially with the rise of Social Networking sites such as Facebook, you would find that almost every girl has created an online profile on at least one of these social networking sites. These girls have to keep in touch with their friends in school, colleagues at work and with their families and hence Facebook is a convenient solution for them.

This is good news for you if you want to build new connections with beautiful, high status girls. The best thing about online dating is that it leaves you with plenty of options. When it comes to attracting girls online, there really is no approach anxiety or fear of speaking awkwardly and making a fool of yourself. Attracting girls online is actually very easy.

Online attraction is easy, but it certainly has its set of skills which need to be learnt. The reason why you are not having any success with girls on Facebook or any other network, is because you have no idea of the skills of online attraction.

First of all you should realize that the girls you are trying to attract online have absolutely no idea of who you are, and any impression they have of you will be ENTIRELY dependent on your PROFILE! Your Profile will be the ONLY way of communicating your personality, achievements, traits, preferences and beliefs.

Your Profile should effectively communicate everything that attracts these girls instead of repulsing them. Simply said, your profile should bring out all the positive aspects of your life. It could be your appearance, career, social status, wealth etc. Women love to be with successful men, and if your profile conveys that you're a winner, women would soon be flooding your inbox with messages! But going through some of the profiles on Facebook, it seems that some guys have no clue on how to build a winner's profile. So here's some advice on how to amp up your Facebook profile!

1 Profile Picture

This is the most important aspect of your profile. You absolutely need to get this right. We've all heard that first impressions really matter. And yes, a girl's first impression of you will depend entirely on your profile picture. If your profile picture interests her and seems appealing to her, she would visit your profile to know more about you. If your profile picture bores her, she wouldn't even bother checking out your profile. Even if you do have plenty of other cool pics and fun quotations, she wouldn't even know! You will be just one of the hundreds of friends in her friends list and soon you'll be lost in the crowd. Think about it, would you check out a girl's profile, if her profile pic seemed horribly ugly to you? (If you answered 'yes' by any chance, leave immediately) So how do you get your profile pic right?

Here's how. Your profile picture should convey one or more of the following traits: Fun, Adventurous, Strong, Rich, Intelligent and Socially confident. The more traits your profile pic portrays, the better. Try to hit on as many as you can with your profile pic. Let's say your profile pic is of you with your friends at a party, this conveys you're fun, socially confident and maybe even rich. Suppose your pic is of you rock climbing; this conveys you're adventurous, fun and strong. But of course these are just ideas and you should be smart enough to take pics in a way that conveys these traits. But I hope you get the idea. Try to hit on as many positive traits with your profile pic. Be creative, but stay sensible. Don't forget to pay attention to the brightness, contrast and sharpness of your profile picture. Some pictures are so dull and dark you can't figure out who's in it. Don't make that mistake. The new Facebook profile has a new feature of a 'cover photo'. Treat this the same way you would treat the profile picture. Remember the traits!

2 'About Me' section

This is a great chance for you to tell girls what you're passionate about and what you aim to achieve in life. Show that you have a clear purpose and aim in life and that you are having loads of fun on your way getting there. A man with purpose is very attractive to women. Keep it short of course. No one would want to read lengthy paragraphs.

3 Favourite Quotations

This will show your beliefs and the people who truly inspire you. Fill this section up with motivational quotes and with quotes from great personalities related to your career. Even funny quotes would be fine. Just keep it interesting. 'If you're going through hell, then just keep going!', or ' If I hadn't seen Disney world in my mind, the rest of the world would've never seen it for real'-Walt Disney, are examples of good quotations.

4 Be mindful of what you share and what you associate yourself with on Facebook

With the new Newsfeed feature, as soon as you 'like' or 'comment' on a link or a post, a whole lot of people will get to know about it immediately. So be careful of what posts and photos you 'like'. Don't get involved in hate campaigns, racially oriented posts or even sexist stuff. This lowers your image and if you want to attract girls, you want to maintain a high status. As men, we are expected to be in control of our emotions. So show her that you are a strong man who is in control of yourself. Remember also never to 'like' or 'comment' positively on photos depicting half-naked women, or explicit material. Always remember that you have to maintain the status of a noble man. This will make girls feel safer approaching you and talking to you online.

5 Bridge the gap between your 'Online self' and Real self

The entire purpose of attracting girls online is to build a lasting connection with them in real life. The online platform obviously makes it easier to approach them and create the attraction within them. But remember online attraction is just the doorway toward getting these girls into your real life. So in real life you need to BE the person you claim to be online. You shouldn't claim you are a rich businessman who travels around the world, if you are broke in real life. Always be honest of what you say online. The online game is built on trust. Work on yourself to really be the person you want to be. Go workout, educate yourself and work on building a career for yourself. This way the girls you attract online, will stay with you in real life! For more great tips and advice on how to attract girls online, visit my site

3 Tips for Attracting Higher Quality Women

As bad as it may be to single if you really want a girlfriend, it can be even worse to end up with the wrong woman or a woman who just doesn't measure up to what you really want. Some guys seem to resort to the "I'll take anything" method of getting dates, sometimes because they don't believe they can attract higher quality women and sometimes, it just comes from feeling lonely. However, if you were to ask any guy that ended up with a woman who made his life worse, you'll know that it's not always wise to have that mentality of taking what you can get.

Here are 3 tips that are going to help you attract higher quality women so you don't have to deal with a woman who'll end up making you more miserable than you were when you were single:

1. Without having standards of what you want and what you do want in a woman, you can't expect to end up with a woman who measures up to your ideal.

This is one of the main problems that guys who will hook up with any woman that they can get end up having. Because they don't have standards, they end up dismissing obvious signs that a woman isn't worth dating and they proceed to date her anyway. Some guys will think that having standards like this makes them superficial, but I don't think so. If you want to end up with a woman who adds to your life and doesn't just take from it, you have to have baseline standards when it comes to the women you'll date.

2. Diving into the bottom of the barrel isn't going to help you attract a higher quality woman.

What I mean by this is, just about every city has bars and clubs where the women who frequent them are not the kind you would be proud to date. So, those are the kinds of places that you need to avoid when you go out to meet women. Even if it means spending a little more money at the door, it's worth it in the end.

3. You have to really know how to impress a woman if you want to date higher quality women.

This is really key here. Let's say that your ideal woman would have her own job, be on a career path, etc. Well, you are not going to want to try to impress her by bragging about how many beers you can chug. You want to impress her with things about yourself that she probably values and finds attractive in a guy.

Challenging Situations of Social Isolation

"If you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it's not because they enjoy solitude. It's because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them."
~Jodi Picoult

Anyone who has dealt with the felt sense of an overriding betrayal of a friend or group, akin to any sort of community, knows, by bitter experience, the truth in the above statement.

There are times when we have all sought our solitude, because it was the only safe place to run. People may say they love their alone-time, and that is occasionally the case, because there is the need physical, mental, or emotional renewal, but when people actively seek prolonged seclusion there is usually the presence of hurt within.

The fact is, as humans we have the preponderance for affinity; for connection.

We need to connect, and anyone challenging this idea could ask themselves, "Am I hurt by people (or hurting because of people) in any way?"

In my own life, I recall times in my late teens where I would routinely shut myself out from my social world for days at a time because I was sick of the way my peers treated me. There seemed to be some inner satisfaction in doing this; though I was not a believer at this stage, I perhaps felt the reassuring Presence of God, somehow. But, realistically, this reassuring presence - known to exacerbate and justify the isolation - was probably more reassurance from the devil, for Satan loves to get us isolated and get into our heads that way. But I certainly drew strength from having the power to segregate myself and to dream up goals in the manner of: "I'll show them!"

THE SOURCE OF CHURCH AND FAMILY HURTS

Because churches, individual bodies' of Christ, exist around social bounds under God, there will always be friction to the point of people feeling out of touch, misunderstood, not listened to, unloved - rejected. If only we could understand this as an ever present threat. These dynamics affect any 'family' set-up in the crisis of felt betrayal.

Particularly for the person who is prone to feelings of abandonment - those who have some union to an anxious attachment - this is a real threat. They will, from time to time, feel rejected by anyone who may not concur with their line of thinking; who resists closeness of heart and mind to them. These feelings of rejection, if we were wise, would be challenged in truth, so we could see the role fear is playing to disturb our sense for connection - pressuring our sense of connectedness.

If we would honour the truth, and see these feelings as they are, we may avoid the need to isolate ourselves.

We may rise above the felt pettiness of others in order to glorify God in our hurt.

NEVER GIVING UP ON FINDING A PLACE TO BELONG

All of us belong somewhere. If truth were known, we actually belong in any good place, but we need to feel like we belong.

Many are the experiences of people against that flow, however.

They may never have felt that; a sense of true belonging. But our passionate commitment to find a place where we truly belong is rewarded when we resolve to never give up. But in order to find such a place we need to do our own inner work of preparation.

The fact we must come against is, we will be hurt.

People hurt people, but it is our role to utilise the wisdom and power of God to reconcile that hurt, rising above it. It is hurt people who hurt people. When we see this, we see a fearful individual (or individuals) who has/have hurt us, and we can have compassion for them. And sometimes it is us who are plain wrong, and in those cases we need to have the humility to admit we're wrong. Many, many schisms come about because of sinful pride. Let's be honest; being honest and swallowing our pride is a far better personal result.

If we are to get on we must aim to get on. Doing that is about compromise; a meeting of the minds and hearts, or at least agreeing to disagree without caging resentment.

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Because, as humans, we were made to connect, isolation may be one of the worst kinds of life there is. We cannot know love, and be blessed by love, in isolation. And neither can we grow in isolation. The best of life exists where we feel we belong. Upon bouts of feeling isolated we need to, again, expand out into our world in courage to reconnect.

© 2013 S. J. Wickham.

What Do You Have In Common With A Criminal?

How Common Is Criminal Thinking?

With the recent doping confession of Lance Armstrong, we are once again shocked with headlines announcing misbehavior from a famous member of society. Why prominent people destroy their reputation with stupid behaviors is a head-scratcher.

From David Petraeus' affair to Senator Mike Crapo's (R-Idaho) DUI, to Utah Attorney General John Swallow's alleged elicit deal brokering we have recent examples of successful lives derailed from poor judgment.

But are the well-publicized peccadillos the result of a rare rash act? Or upon closer examination would we likely find a pattern of flawed thinking that eventually leads to their decline?

In the 1960's researchers looked at thinking patterns widespread in the criminal population. Among inmates they found a common core of beliefs, which eventually lead to misconduct. These "thinking errors", as Aaron Beck, father of Cognitive Behavior Therapy and professor emeritus of psychiatry at the University of Pennsylvania, coined are found in the general population and often lead to problematic behavior.

There are a dozen or so "thinking errors" but one frequently found in individuals in high profile cases is termed uniqueness or entitlement. Followers of this thinking pattern have the engrained belief they are one of a kind. They are very special and rules don't apply to them. They are entitled to special privileges and societal norms don't apply to them.

Less sophisticated followers of entitlement or uniqueness dogma, lie, steal and fight often. The justice system quickly notices anti social behavior and they are often jailed as juveniles. A more sophisticated version of this faulty belief is often off the societal radar screen because the individual does appear special to us. They appear extra ordinarily intelligent, attractive, or athletic.

Social norms still apply to them but somehow they slide by on their charm. Eventually tattletale behaviors such as embezzlement, marital affairs, prescription fraud or doping appear and they fall from grace. We are shocked by their demise but a close examination will reveal a life long belief in their uniqueness or entitlement and general disregard of the harm of their behavior.

So if you are tempted to speed down the highway, under report taxable income, ignore your parking ticket, neglect to pay library fines, or park in a handicap zone---- examine your beliefs. Those infractions may seem small but at the core is a belief that you don't have to follow rules, which are set up for everyone's best interest.
Appropriate parenting can influence character formation. Parents, allow your children the consequences of their behaviors. They aren't special; sometimes they deserve failing grades, aren't safe at home base or make bad choices. Early childhood accountability builds good citizens.

Dr. Jane Nelson, author of the best selling book, Positive Discipline says, "Over-involved parenting leads to demanding entitled children who expect undue services." Dr. Nelson recommends parents allow children difficult experiences to develop their "disappointment muscles". Suffering can develop resiliency and empathy.
Repetitive self-serving behavior without empathy to others eventually has consequences as recent news accounts describe.

Common criminal thinking harms all of us. Let's keep it uncommon.

Learn More About Dysfunctional Etheric Attachments

Did you know that, even though you cannot see them, there are energies in place binding you to a particular person, object or situation? The simplest proof of this fact is taking stock of your emotional welfare whenever you are around these elements. Do you feel content and inspired? Or do you suffer a literal drainage of energy?

Attachments have dual outcomes, from the helpful to the harmful. At one point or another in your life, dissolving these connections will be beneficial to you. No matter which directions these energies are flowing to, by liberating yourself, you will be taking back what was yours and directing it to positive outcomes.

Relationships attract the most powerful etheric attachments known to man. These may range from parent to child, relative to relative, or romantic and professional types. When these relationships disintegrate for whatever reason, your energy-sphere is affected. If you opt for ignorance, every aspect of your life will become a victim of your pessimism.

Cutting ties with negative etheric attachments is a simple process. Not only do you have to admit to yourself the need for this action, you must be willing to invest some time and patience if you want success.

Find a quiet spot. It could be a significant location outdoors or it could be the privacy of an empty room, but the bottom line is that there should be no interruptions. Now sit down and cross your legs. Any position is fine though, as long as you are comfortable. Close your eyes and manage your breathing. Inhale and exhale slowly until an ethereal plane sets you adrift.

Visualize these connections with that particular person, object or situation that you want to cut ties with. Employ the use of color to paint these pictures. They have the advantage of authenticating the energy forces that bind you to these elements. Imagine yourself breaking these bonds. Assume, for example, that you are a warrior of some sort, wielding a mighty weapon. No matter how many of these strings exist, visualize yourself cutting them off one by one, no matter how long it takes.

Cords of attachment cannot be ignored for their significance in your well being. When positive, they breed happiness and tranquility. But when negative, you will notice that after you embark on the exercise mentioned above, your energy spectrum will revitalize and your objectivity in any given circumstance in the future will be lucid.

Relationship Advice - Was The Relationship Doomed From The Beginning?

It's over. Your relationship has officially ended. Although the end of a relationship is usually not pleasant, this time it's different. Although there is sadness, you have a much more settled feeling than you thought you would have. It's almost a sense of relief. Why is that? Is it because you realize this really wasn't the right person to be with? Did things take a turn for the worse at the end... or was the relationship doomed from the beginning and you never really admitted it to yourself?

Sometimes our heart knows what is right and our head won't admit it. It could be the other way around. Either way, we can sometimes fool ourselves into believing everything will be okay... when deep down we know that really isn't the truth. Why do we put ourselves through that? There are several reasons.

They might not always seem logical, but at the time they make perfect sense to us. We know better but we won't admit to ourselves we know better. We won't admit we have made a mistake. It's almost like we are trying to fool ourselves. But sooner or later it catches up with us. So why do we do it?

1. It makes us feel better. Perhaps you had just come out of a bad relationship and you wanted to believe this one was going to work out. Maybe you desperately wanted to break the chain of relationship disasters that had recently befallen you. It felt good to be with someone again, even though your ex didn't exactly match what you were looking for in a partner.

2. We thought we could change things. The foundation was somewhat okay so you falsely believed you could make the necessary adjustments in the belief everything would have eventually fallen into place. But all the adjustments that had to be made to make it acceptable were way too much and, in the end, it would not have been a healthy and happy relationship anyway.

3. We kid ourselves everything will be okay. You believed there was more to the relationship than there actually was. Why? Maybe you were tired of the dating scene. Maybe you just didn't want to be alone, you don't like being alone. Whatever the reason, you thought you could fool yourself. Unfortunately, that never works.

Most of the time, even early in the relationship, we know if the relationship is destined to collapse. We might not want to admit it, but the facts are there. That's why others often see it when we don't... because our perception is skewed and their's isn't.

The Ultimate Key for Buying Presents for a Boyfriend's Birthday

Brainstorming for presents for a loved one's birthday is often exasperating, but this stress is multiplied by a million if that person is your boyfriend. Giving an impressive birthday present can say so many things about you: you're resourceful, fun, kind, and creative... and those things all describe you, don't they? Yet, in the face of that, shopping for your boyfriend's birthday remains freakin' hopeless.

Since I can remember I've broken my back to find the absolute best birthday gifts for my boyfriend(s). Heehee. After I'd ultimately mastered the art of discovering the perfect present (the trick is to work backwards), I decided to share my secrets. If you are feeling worried, sweating over thinking of that exact present that will cause him to smile ear to ear, I really pray that you'll continue reading and allow me to share my experience with you!

Before we get into the details, we should talk briefly about the overarching idea which we will be sticking to. Before tearing through millions of present recommendation discussion boards and steadily getting frustrated with the results, we need to slow down and mull over what type of present taker your lover is. If this sounds complex, it's not. There are 3 basic styles of gift accepters into which we will endeavor to shove your guy (I feel ya, he's much more perplexing than that, but you are gonna have to try). When it comes down to it, almost all boys are most pleased with birthday gifts that either practical, funny or sexy. Often boys will belong in more than one of these categories. But by starting by confining your gift to only one of these kinds of gifts, the finding of your ideal gift will be notably smoother.

Practical gifts are things that your boy will genuinely make use of on a day-to-day basis. In a way different from the alternative two categories of presents, it is reasonable that he might consider buying a thing resembling this one for himself if you didn't purchase it and give it to him first. Frequently, these types of presents are what you have been vigorously attempting to dream up - things he's mentioned that he loves, or the product he yearns for but simply doesn't have the cash for, etc. In almost every case, your man will be thrilled with a great practical presents, but they seem to be the trickiest to figure out. Here's an example: When I was in high school, I dated a guy who was obsessed with going on canoe trips, so I gave him a new tent. Not very sentimental, but I bet he still gets lots of use from the gift, almost a decade after we broke up.

Presents that are looked upon as funny are a little bit stupid, but will frequently plaster an ear to ear smile on his face. If you and your boyfriend are in a brand new relationship, a funny present is often an amazing way to make use of your imagination without spending too much. The easiest process to brainstorm a funny gift is to come up with something small and inexpensive that he adores (like a certain flavour of dessert) and utterly overdo it. Costco is your best friend. An alternative strategy is to tease him a little. The guy I was going out with when I was younger was eternally asking me to get out of bed and make breakfast for him after a night of aggressive drinking, so I got him a cookbook for hangovers.

At last, it's time for some real fun stuff - sexy gifts. Sexy gifts function in 2 ways: they have all of the positives of the funny gift, but with the added advantage of all the numerous flirtatious possibilities that you've opened the door to in your boyfriend's mind. Of course, you are free to take the provocativeness as far as you want (you are such a bad girl), but my own preference is the Kama Sutra Foreplay Card Game. It's sexy, it's silly, and there's no doubt it will result in many hilarious situations!

3 Tips How To Find a Perfect Date Before Valentine's Day

Although Valentine's Day happens only once per year, somehow spending it alone terrifies a lot of people. Be surrounded by happy couples in restaurants or seeing them walking the streets with heart-shaped balloons and roses just reminds you once again how far from perfect your own love life is right now. Sounds familiar? Well, if you will implement these 3 easy steps now, you will never spend Valentine's Day alone again.

1. Increase your search radius. You have probably already tried online dating, your mother tried to set you up with her friend's son/daughter and nothing worked out? Try new approach. Download location based mobile dating application and check who is searching just for you in the nearest area. You know they say that your soul-mate is closer than you think. Well, it might be true. Check it out. Also, if you are too shy to start talking to strangers on the streets or in the cafes, this is a great way to begin your conversation. With mobile dating apps it is so easy to chat with a girl or guy and then continue the dialog in the local bar or cafe.

2. Give a person the chance. Sometimes we set our criteria way too high and then are left surprised why we are still single. Although I am not encouraging you to go out with a person who repels you, I do suggest you give more people a chance. Like if you only want to date blondes, try to give brunettes and redheads a chance. In the end you can always change your hair color. If you have lots of things in common, give this person a chance. You will never be bored.

3. Concentrate on your goal. You want to spend Valentine's day with someone special, concentrate on this goal. Don't think about the rest of your life with this person. Don't be too picky. All you need to do is to find a single guy or girl who will be more than happy to spend Valentine's Day with you. If you concentrate on a short-term goal, you will be surprised how many people will good-enough to spend time with. And maybe your true love will start from there. And maybe not, but you need to start somewhere right.

There are no boring people, you just need to be open and genuinely interested in finding out more about them. And the first step is to start!