Most guys cannot be straight forward when it comes to break ups or wanting a break. They will keep stalling instead of telling you how they feel but their behaviour definitely gives it away. This whole time he is trying to get the courage to tell you that he wants a break.
The best advice I can give at this point for you is to bring up this conversation yourself. Tell him you notice a difference in him and be cool with it not yelling at him or anything. This might be hard but let him know that he may be right and having a break may be good for the both of you. Now he is paying attention.
When you have the problem that your boyfriend wants to take a break you need to go with it and give him the space that he needs because their is nothing else you can do. He feels like he is suffocating in the relationship and needs time. He will also appreciate that you did the hard part for him and admitting there may be a problem in the relationship. This makes you look good because he is also wondering if you were also suffocating in the relationship and why you would be so quick to take a break also.
Your boyfriend may be thinking that he has to explore other options out there but once you were so straightforward with him he has new found respect for you, he may not be suffocating so much now and he thinks his relationship was pretty easy after all.
He may agree with you and you two may part ways but after a ending like this he will find it hard to get over you. He may want to reconcile right away. You need to give your boyfriend a break at this time. Find new things to do or anything to keep you busy. He needs to see you having fun and being independent. He will start to see his girlfriend as the one he first met.
The next time you see him be calm and let him bring up the relationship first. After this suggest to him a nice talk maybe somewhere fun and keep it very casual. Communication is the key to any successful relationship so make sure to listen as well.
Take points of what he is saying. He clearly wants to be with you or he would not be going through this trouble. If it is excitement he wants then try to come up with new ways to bring that excitement back into your relationship. Instead of the same old, same old, find something new that the two of you would enjoy doing together.
This will not only bring more excitement into your relationship but it will bring the two of you closer together as well.
You never have to do anything you are not comfortable with but try to meet each other half way. There are so many things that are out there to do. Go get a newspaper and go through to find things around your community to do. Talk to each other about your sex life and trying new things. Show interest in each others hobbies.
Use your imagination and follow these tips. And most importantly stay calm, collected and confident so you never have to hear that your boyfriend wants to take a break.
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